I got married some months ago while i was in love with somebody else I really don't know how it happened. As long as my husband deeply fell in luv for me -still-, he put me in pressure not to postpone our marriage because i was asking him to gimme more time to see wut i wanted to do.I knew that i couldn't marry my beloved one for he didn't want me and on the other hand my husband could gimme the luv i was looking for -in someone else-.
I got married and tried to work on my marriage I know that it takes time for me to feel luv for him but he always expects romantic words from me He doesn't gimme time. I can't pretend luv while i'm not in it - It doesn't mean that i don't cherish him at all- .
he is a good person but we have nothing in common He is not my type Differences from sex mood to..
We have nothing to talk about Im such a girl who thinks bout things and likes to discuss them but he isn't like this. I like men who study books, judge movies and..
Wut talent to be proud of??
2007-11-02 04:43:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's so sad. I really feel for you. You have married a man you don't love because the one you do love doesn't return your feelings.
This is a tragedy for you, and for your husband. You are with a man you don't love, and if you don't love him now you never will. And he has a wife who he loves but doesn't feel the same way.
You say you don't love him, you have nothing in common, nothing to talk about. Why are you still with him? Love doesn't just appear out of thin air.
This marriage is not going to work. If I were you I would admit I made a mistake and get out of the marriage. There will be someone out here for you. Don't be so afraid of being alone. Be single for a while, put yourself out there so that a man you love and who loves you back can finally find you, and you can have happiness at last. Let your poor husband go, too.
2007-11-02 04:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by helly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him in the first place?
It sounds like you made a mistake; you shouldn't marry just to occupy you from thinking of the other person you cared about, now you're going to be in sorrow.
Honestly, if you had nothing in common with the man, regardless if he was pressuring you to marry him, you should've held your ground and said no.
Now, you're sufferring.
Do you have enough money to file for divorce? Are you willing to go through with that? Or, do you want to try and work out the marriage and get some counseling?
The decision is up to you.. but this time think it over so that you don't make another huge mistake.
2007-11-02 04:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you made a mistake... Marrying someone that you are not in love with is probably the biggest mistake that you can make in life. At this point (since you've only been married for a few months and there are NO KIDS involved?), I would suggest that if you know for sure that you are not in love with this man that you get the marriage anulled. It's a much easier process than waiting and having to get a divorce. If you were not in love with this man before you got married and you aren't in love with him now, chances are that nomatter how much you "try" you will never be in love with him. It is sad, but you need to get out of this thing while you still can.
2007-11-02 04:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I've been there 2 times the first was pressure from family, friends, the fact I had a baby out of wedock. I didn't love him, the 2 time was cause my soon to be ex-hushband got real sick the doctor told him he was dying, every pressured me again this time it was my son who didn't wnat to lose his stepdad even though we weren't married at the time. I got married then things got worse, he got better but his family started to threaten my child; he ran off the ca. Now i've been married 2 times with 13 yar's in between. I prefer to be single. However I do have a goodman that feels the way I do about marriage, we don't need a peice of paper to say we love each. He is my bestfriend, my lover. He is about to half of everything he owns caus of his divorce. He married her cause she was pregnant. Get a divorce, but if there is some hope you can find some kind of respect for him to tell him how you feel, try to work things out without a court battle. Do it with caution.
2007-11-02 05:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by Valentine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the mistake of letting him pressure you into marriage before you were over the other person and that almost never works. You can try counseling and perhaps work things out that way if he cares to learn to value at least some of the things you do and perhaps you may enjoy teaching him these values but most likely you will end up getting a divorce and have to try to find someone who has the values you love and who you will be able to love in return. Remember that you have to leave one love behind - the love you felt before - in order to find love that can survive. If he loves you enough to learn those values from you, perhaps you may learn to love him for that but otherwise it is just a matter of time before the divorce. Good Luck to you!!
2007-11-02 05:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 04:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by larusch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me, that you need to get a divorce. If you never loved him before you got married and you feel this way still, you need to get out while you are still young and find someone that you do love and want to spend the rest of your life with. I will not judge you, I went through the same thing. I called off my wedding though after we built a $250,000 house and it was all because I wasn't in love with him, but in love with someone else. Be smart hunny. Don't do that to yourself. Don't you want to be happy with the person you are with. Love is everything! Good luck!
2007-11-02 04:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Floridagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him this is ot right do him he sound slike a great guy I think you should tell him how you fee; becuase this is not right be sounds like a very good man who just needs some love he needs someone to cherish him for who he is. You need to leave becuase all your are doing is hurting him he loves you and this other guy is not ment for you. He is not with so it was not ment to be stop reminessing and get over him let your self love someone else. And if not then leave someone else deserves this man not you.
2007-11-02 04:57:10 · answer #8 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of though about this BEFORE getting married. Unlike many people here, I think marriage should be a life-long commitment. Maybe if divorce were more difficult to obtain, couples would put more thought into their decision to marry. It doesn't appear there are any children involved (thank God).
My view: You married him...you are committed to make it work. Its called consequences. Though I betcha most folks in here will disagree with me.
2007-11-02 04:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair to him or yourself to keep hanging on to this man, and you don't feel anything for him. Obviously you didn't have the guts to tell how you feel. Now you're deeper in trouble, because now you are feeling guilty for leading him on. Listen to me Really good....END IT...cut your losses, there will no doubt be pain but it will pass....this is better than being with someone you just dont love
2007-11-02 04:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by Russell O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋