I'm aware of a situation that I don't understand and would like some input. I've seen other similar articles recently, but not quite like this.
I know a young girl (24) who had a 2 year relationship with a married guy 34 years older than her. When he wouldn't leave his wife for her, she dumped him and picked up with a divorced guy 30 years older than her who she had known for about 6 months. Within 6 weeks of getting serious with this guy, she gets engaged and was married about 9 months later. Since she got engaged and even now, she has continued to call the ex and still expresses strong feelings for him. She may call a couple of times a week to a couple times a day. Should the ex be talking to her? ... no! However, nothing will ever happen again between them. She tells everyone she is madly in love with her new husband, but if so, why call the ex? The husband is rich and treats her well. Is there some other reason she'd be calling that's not obvious?
2007-11-02 06:28:46 · 11 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her ex could have been giving her something she is not getting from her hubby. maybe she is lonely and the ex is a better talker or listener for that fact. Really though it is because the ex is married it's the whole forbidden fruit scenario she is tempted by the danger. Money is nothing if you no how to treat a woman right.
2007-11-02 06:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I don't understand why you are calling this an article. It seems you want people to think this is something you found online, in a magazine, newspaper, or newsletter. When reading this short situation, it seems more likely that you know these people, or might be one of these people.
Just wanted to say that. Now, in response to the situation:
I am 24 as well, my husband is 39. Sure, there is a gap in age. This gal you say is 24, and the man is 58 (as you say, 34 year difference) that is a little wider gap in my opinion. Had she been 34, not so shocking. Although, I can't say to much against this gal, (on her age) she is the same age as I am.
Once she got married to this other man though, she should of been loyal to him. That is how I believe. When you marry someone, your no longer "available". She might be asking him (again) to leave his wife for her. Very wrong.
That's all I got to say on the matter. It's all pretty obvious to me.
2007-11-02 13:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wants to stay friends? Nothing wrong with that. I have been happily married for 12 years and I still call one of my ex's every so often and email a few times a week. My husband knows, and doesn't care, with our both good friends with him
But her background info makes her sound a little fickle over relationships, why she chooses older men, and why a married man the first time is more of the question. Sounds like she wants someone to take care of her and be a "daddy" to her more than to find someone she loves and wants to be with.
2007-11-02 13:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lori R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She either misses the sex and just lust me deep down she actually feels something for him and hides by saying she loves her husband alot or she wants what is forbiden for her. But I think she really just misses the sex. If you are her friend give her advise tell her to put he head back on leave this guy alone and forget about him she is married he is married and nothing is ever going to happen between them. Close that chappter in her life. MOVE ON>
2007-11-02 13:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lost 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well,she purely married the one for money and she may love the other, she sounds like a user. If she calls him again he should tell her that he's going to let her husband know. Good luck
2007-11-02 13:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes the attention of the other guy, hasn't emotionally let go, wants the contact just in case...... she's not doing right by her husband.
2007-11-02 13:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's calling to make him jealous or to keep the lines of communication open in the event one or both of their marriages fall thru...she is immature and insecure and the ex should kick her out of his life once and for all
2007-11-02 13:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by Notagain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is so madly inlove with her husband like she says she wouldn't want to talk to her ex
2007-11-02 13:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a dumb@ss. Plain and simple, no further explanation needed.
2007-11-02 13:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no clue.
I can't help but wonder, though- why the hell do you even care?! Is this any business of YOURS?!
2007-11-02 13:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋