My ex & I don't have a custody order for our 2 kids, he just went & filed court papers to get it set in stone. He's requesting 50/50 everything because he refuses to help me financially w/ the kids. He lives at home w/ his parents (29 yrs.old) & they support him financially. His parents even gave him the 300 to file the court papers. He told me that if I want him to help me, that I need to give him a list of what all my bills are and where extactly all my money is going, I have an apt. for the kids so I carry all household bills & things they need. He also said that he doesn't want to hear that I'm going out w/ my friends, if I'm bearly making it, I should stay home but my friends no I'm tight & they invite me,He said I need to prove to him that I need help in order for him to want to help me, I think he's still trying to control me & doesn't want me out so that I don't possibly meet someone else. I think he's still jealous & I shouldn't have to prove all that to him right?
2007-11-02 06:56:02 · 7 answers · asked by justbeingme_ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u should never have agreed to it, now u will need to take it back to court. 50/50 usually means no one has to pay a cent. get an attorney things will need to be changed. get a custody order and ask for child support. he will have to submit his financial. u must have signed the papers, agreeing.
2007-11-02 07:22:01 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can petition the courts to force him to pay child support. You don't have to be bullied by him or believe what he says. Read these court papers he has (if he does). If you can't afford a lawyer, there are legal aid people in every state of the nation that will help you for free. Judges HATE guys like this and will take it out of his pocket to make up for it.
Good luck.
2007-11-02 07:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and I think you are exactly right. I don't have kids and haven't experienced this but I have experienced the control freak relationship. It's all about control and if he's already filed then whatever the judge says he'll have to pay he will have to pay it regardless of what you are spending your money on or what you are doing with your life. Good luck with this. Don't report anything to him. Wait for the judge to court order whatever needs to be done.
2007-11-02 07:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by ashley_m_conner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UH, he'll have to have financials for support determination that is usually based on both parents income as to the amount the non custodial parent will have to contribute.
2007-11-02 11:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by Dolly J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he can get away with dictating the terms unless you agree to what he wants. The judge will decide the amount he has to pay and you won't have to tell him what it is needed for, the court yes, not him. Don't sign anything until you have your own lawyer check it over.
2007-11-02 07:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by grahod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
refuse to talk to him about your personal life, my ex does the same thing, and then complains to the court i tell him about my personal life when he is the one who asks.... just tell him to bring you court papers and you will fill them out accordingly... stop letting him have emotional control. I wouldnt even speak to him unless its about your children, and of course it wil eat him alive that you dont let him know whats going on with you... or you could do worse is lie, tell him your struggling, even if you have gone out thsi week and had a little fun. All exhusbands want us to suffer for us leaving them its human nature, they want you to be worse offf even if they dont want you back, they want to still hear about how bad your life is and how good you had it when you weremarried... so if you want let the baby have his bottle, and you will see the satisfaction in his eyes when he hears about how horrible things are... then when your ready you can tell him all along youve been lying and your way better off without him and to basically kiss off because if he doesnt leave you alone you will/can take him on an emtional rollercoaster....
2007-11-02 07:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when it comes to determine custody, alimony and child support, the court will ask for all of your expenses themselves. then it becomes public knowledge to both spouses. At least that's what they do in Ohio.
2007-11-02 07:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋