I've divorced and started dating again. Of course since I'm divorced and have 2 children, i really don't have a ton of money to spread around. it's pretty scarce like a single mom's cash flow. problem is i meet these single moms or divorced women and it seems they're looking for another dad for their kid or want some guy that has all this money to do stuff to help take care of their kid(s). it seems they're unrealistic in their dating and it's like they're holding out for Mr. wonderful with no baggage and tons of cash when they have their own baggage. what's the most important thing a single mom looks for or even an older woman that's been through a divorce. I think a lot of divorced people think the grass is greener and spend their life looking for something they'll never get and regret getting divorced (it wasn't my choice to get divorced). then these women wonder why they can't find a good man? it boggles my mind sometimes.
2007-11-02 03:01:35 · 15 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, children aren't really baggage. Baggage means "emotional baggage". Let it go. 2 people with lots of baggage = Baggage Department.
2007-11-02 03:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you make an awful generalization.
Most divorced women have it going on by the way and are hard workers. They are just looking for companionship because a lot of divorced women are tired of catering to someone who doesn't appreciate and isn't worthy- they have been there, done that.
And you will not find a decent divorced woman in a bar either. She is TOO busy with more important things to have time to hang out at a bar.
And YOU shouldn't be talking. you said yourself, and I quote:
"I've divorced and started dating again. Of course since I'm divorced and have 2 children, i really don't have a ton of money to spread around. it's pretty scarce like a single mom's cash flow."
Do you really think a YOUNG, SINGLE woman with her whole life ahead of her is going to find YOU to be a catch?? Younger, never been married women want to start a family of THEIR own one day, not inherit another woman's family, can you blame them?
I think you should re-evaluate things a bit.
2007-11-02 03:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really depends on the individuals, some are looking for the things you stated, some for what the other poster stated, but many are just looking for a good man to spend their life with. There is usually some point when most people regret a divorce, but at the same time, realize it was probably for the better. I know I never looked for someone to take care of me or my child, just someone who I get along with, care about and who feels the same toward me. If a person looks at it honestly, they may fear commitment because of what happened, but once they get past this dark stage of their life, they will look for someone with good qualities, who will not only be there for their children, which is part of a package deal when a person has children, but also someone who will be there for the individual, because there is the hope this new person will be there long after the children have grown.
2007-11-02 03:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by julvrug 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of who divorced who you must be happy with yourself before you can move on to other relationships.
Being the one who didn't want the divorce you could have emotional baggage that could prevent you from dating that women pick up on. Do yourself a favor, become happy with yourself buildup your confidence, self esteem etc. Then see things as what they truly are before jumping into another relationship.
I think both sexes have hangups and concerns that somehow gets to generalized in on-line dating sites profiles. Men are criticized for just wanting sex and women are criticized looking for a sugar daddy some are like that but not all are like that. I think anyone that has been in a breakup whether its a divorce or long term relationship feels hurt and need to justified to themselves that they are worthy of being loved
2007-11-02 04:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by bb5723 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok here goes...I am middle aged and divorced over 2 years now...
what I am looking for
1. non smoker
2. realize that MY kid is #1 in my life NOT YOU
3. I DO NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED
4. I will not date a man that has minor children living in his household....(been there and done that--and it sucked)
5. Man must not live at home with Mommy and Daddy
6. Man must have a full time job doing anything...
That is the basic requirements if a man wishes to date me
2007-11-02 03:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a single mom. I found a single dad. We both were looking for love and partnership. Anyone who has children from a previous marriage is going to have baggage...that is unavoidable. It is how we handle this baggage that makes a difference. I wanted a partner who was fun, funny, sexy and who was someone I respected. It wasn't about the money for me, it was about the attitude.
2007-11-02 03:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by Rein 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to look for someone as a cash-cow as so that they may pay your bills and especially to raising your children with his income. The children should be supported by their biological father and not by some stranger that comes along. For an older woman, she should look for a gentleman who is interested in the same values as her and try to make a life out of it. She should be wary as not to make the mistakes from the previous marriage.
2007-11-02 03:09:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what they want. It matters what YOU want, you are the one who is doing the shoopping or selection, not them and you are not a product to be taken. Look at things that way and is a lot better doing shopping than being waiting on a shell to be picked up. Enjoy you are a father, forget about women, they aren't really necessary for anything in the life of a man, you can be happy by yourself. Take your kids to the park next weekend or something like that.
2007-11-02 07:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because the only thing you want is to love and be loved the others things can come later around you are not just looking for someone that likes your children but also somebody that makes you feel like a women
2007-11-02 03:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by rose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a divorced woman and I own my house, my car, etc. I have no financial debts, my children are grown and live on their own. I have a good paying job with excellent benefits. What I want is to not be involved in any relationship and I live by that. Men have too many hang ups.
2007-11-02 03:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋