I have to kids not his, but he sais he was a virgin when he married me and he doesnt want to waste his life with me.
2007-11-02 02:51:49 · 31 answers · asked by Lady D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the twins are his and the other two arent but we have been married for a year before I got pregnate.
2007-11-02 03:04:42 · update #1
...AND YOUR QUESTION IS???
AND LEARN HOW TO SPELL.
I HAVE "TWO" KIDS
HE "SAYS"
2007-11-02 02:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by MISS TT 3 · 3⤊ 5⤋
Your past is your past,maybe its time your husband grew up and started acting a bit more mature and responsible.
He has twins on the way for goodness sake,maybe his behaviour is a way of copping out of his responsibilities,and thats pathetic.
If he doesnt want to waste his life with you,why the hell did he get you pregnant?
He knew you had two kids when he met you,my guess is he cant stand the thought of you having had a past with someone else,but he knew all that when you got together.
It's him that needs to change cos if he doesnt,you'd be better off without him,at least until he's grown up and realised what he's lost.
Whats he gonna do in his next relationship? It will take him forever to find the so called perfect woman,no kids,still a virgin etc.... And if he did find this perfect woman,he should then remember that he has twins from a past married relationship,and that wouldnt make him so flawless would it! Not even he is perfect,no-one is.
2007-11-02 03:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! Did he not reveal this until now???? I am pretty sure he must have shown you that he didn't want this marriage. I guess he did it because you were pregnant with twins. The only thing I can suggest is to start looking into the dept of child support OCSE and make sure you get your child support. Really, go find happiness. It's not healthy to be in a relationship like this. ESpecially after giving birth with the postpardum depression. Whoo you will be a mess!
2007-11-02 02:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's got problems you can't help him with.
Could be because of his upbringing, or beliefs. who knows!
Could also be because he met someone else and instead of coming clean, he prefers to have a coward exit; Laying the blame on you.
Still, if even after being married to you for a year, and I guess dating you before that, soon to be a father he reproaches you with your past life, then let him go.
He's just a loser and the break up with either sober him up, making him come to his senses and grow up, or, you'll meet someone who is worth your love.
Whichever it is, don't let him put you down.
There's nothing wrong with having had a life before getting married.
Nothing wrong with the fact that you were a single mum when he met you.
He's just not mature enough to deal with responsibility.
Good luck.xxx
2007-11-02 08:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His a loser...when he married you, he already knew you had kids, so what is his problem now. Him being a virgin when he married you shouldnt be a problem. Leave his a*s, it will be hard but you dont need anyone in your life that thinks his wasting his life with you...Your having his babies wht the He*l is his problem....him thinking this way means his not going to be there for you or any kind of responsiblities.
Good luck
2007-11-02 03:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by txladybug_2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 2 kids you have, are they the twins you are about to have or are you about to have his babies?
If they aren't his babies, i do understand that He may find it hard to raise someone else’s babies. It takes someone strong to do that.
However if they are his then you need to sit down and talk about these issues NOW before these babies arrive.
Why did he marry you in the first place if he doesn’t respect you? Marriage should be built on Love, honour, respect…….sound familiar? When you took you marriage vows that is what you promised- what's changed?
Has he only just found out now?
Whatever happens, tell him that the past is now in the past and that is where it should stay. He married you, you didn't force him to do it and he needs to let this go now for the sake of your marriage and the sake of your babies!!!
2007-11-02 03:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by twales1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why did he bother marrying you then?? He knew you had two kids before dating and sleeping with you so why would he even pursue a relationship with you let alone propose marriage..He says he has no respect for you, I wouldn't have no respect for him....Not as a MAN or as a FATHER....You are better off without him...He needs to grow up and stop making excuses over nothing...
2007-11-02 08:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sorry you are going through this. My question to him would be " Why then did he marry you?"
It is not like he did not know you had a relationship before him. He has some serious issues and needs councelling.
Good luck to you and congratulations on the upcoming birth of your twins.
You and your kids deserve better than him.
2007-11-02 03:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by joy55js 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you get married in the first place? Did he think your 2 kids were both immaculate conceptions??
The bloke needs to grow up and get a bit of respect for you as the mother of his children to be!
2007-11-02 03:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Kerry K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then why the hell did he marry you?! Everybody has a past (apart from your husband) and we just have to deal with it. Maybe your husband feels like this because he hasn't got a past. My husband hasn't asked about my past relationships because he would of got jealous and that suits him just fine. I hope that you find somebody that will love and respect you. Good luck.
2007-11-02 06:07:34 · answer #10 · answered by heather c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce and take him for everything he is worth. He is a jerk. He knew that you were not a virgin before he married you, if he suddenly has these morals they are an excuse to get a divorce.
Take care,
Troy
2007-11-02 03:10:49 · answer #11 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋