something non-religious as well, please
thanks
2007-11-02 04:06:46 · 5 answers · asked by Ember Halo 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it is going to work, it is from the Bible.
One of the best things to do is very simple.
1. Make a list of all the good things you can about the other. Why did you ever love them in the first place.
2. Make a list of all the bad things you can think about the other. How did you deal with these things when you wanted to be married in the first place?
At some time during the day every day, they should get together and discuss BOTH lists made by each person with their partner. Talk to the partner about it and not to everyone else. Don't spread your problems around but work on them yourself.
Talk and listen. Listen more than talk. Think about what you say and the lasting impact it can have on the other person before you speak. Without accusing each other about problems, try to solve them together. Do this for a week.
Rules: There can be no judgmental attitude, no blaming one another, no name calling but must be done with sincere care for each other. If they cannot do that, they need a councilor to work with them.
At the end of the week, Make another list of bad and good things and start over because the list should be smaller.
2007-11-02 04:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by mesquiteskeetr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I went to counseling to help work on our communication. He suggested she pick up a copy of the book called You Cannot Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought. It's a thick book, and I haven't read it yet. But she has read some exerpts to me over the past two weeks. It has definitely helped me view things from a different perspective. The book was not at all what I thought it would be. I cannot say for certain that I think the content of the book has helped us communicate. However, just being able to read pieces of it together has been a positive experience for both of us. Part of communication is listening, and sometimes it's easier to listen when it's a book talking and not a person.
2007-11-02 11:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People"/
2007-11-02 11:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kalyansri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the information on this actually helped save my marriage, really recommended!
2007-11-02 12:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by Raymon F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS"
2007-11-02 11:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋