ok, so here's my problem. I am completely mad about this guy. He is a great guy. He put my kids in private school, we have a house together, I make good money, I am beautiful, we have been together for 10 years, and he has not popped the question. We talk about getting married, more often then not, supposedly in 2008, but I am not sure if he is just yanking my chain. He hasn't officially asked me, he just says we will get married in 2008. I don't want to keep waisting my time. Let me know what you think.
2007-11-02 03:31:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How is getting married will change anything. seems to me like your fishing for troubles. If he gives you everything, you have a beautiful house, he takes care of your children, so tell me honestly what does having a ring on your finger will prove. Maybe he doesn't want to get married, so what? Your heading for trouble. You've been with him for 10 years and doing great, so why do you want to make a big fuss for nothing. Maybe you should think of what would happen if he decided to leave?? Why don't you just buy yourself a ring and be happy. Stop making waves for something that's not worth it.
2007-11-02 03:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would yourself be asking that question youve been together ten years that a decade do you know how many marriages dont last that long good grief hes supporting you and your kid in a very fine manner and plus you are beautiful in your eyes what is the deal set a date not just 08 but a real one like sept 10 of 08 or something or not sounds like you got it made so you wanna move on tell me when you do i will have a sex change and take him from ya when you leave lol
2007-11-02 10:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by the_orc_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been together for that long and do talk about marriage often, then I would really open up and tell him how I feel... and be honest about it... tell him your expectations and ask for an honest answer back. Maybe he's a commitment phobe, in the sense that 'marriage' is a serious commitment but obviously a lot of other things seem to indicate he's commited to you...
would an ultimatum work with him?
2007-11-02 10:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married does not mean you will stay together for ever. If your releationship is as good as you say then whats the issue. Dont ruen it by wanting that piece of paper that means nothing. People get divorced everyday. It is a false security. Focus on being happy and all that he does for you and all that you have with him. I would however make sure me and my kids were taken care of if he died of leaves you. See if you state conciders you married. That would be my only concern. Be happy!
2007-11-02 10:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been together 10 years, you have a house together, and you have YOUR OWN kids that aren't his, you've wasted 10 years of your life. He's never gonna ask you, and you're nover gonna get married - atleast not to him. Why buy the whole cow if you can get the milk for free?
2007-11-02 10:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you fill that you cant take it any longer then leave him. but at the same time you need to think about that seriously because if you two are getting along good and he takes responsibility for your child and keeps the household good , then you really shouldn't; leave him. being married i fill is just a ring on your finger you have been with him for eight years, don't you feel married already? love him and wait. don't ever make men rush into things like this it could backfire on you later. good luck!
2007-11-02 10:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by sheena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says 2008, he may think the matter is already settled and he does not have to officially ask you. start picking an exact date, dress and planning the event and see how he reacts, you will know if he is serious.
2007-11-02 12:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to get married, move on - after 10 years if he really wanted he would have made a move by now
I am sure with your humble attitude you will find someone quickly
2007-11-02 10:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by roadrunner426440 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance did the same thing...it took him 2 years...youre not wasting your time..he will do it..I promise, just be patient its coming soon..him and I talked about getting married over and over..planning the dates and everything..then one night while we were talking he popped the question..he was wanting to wait until Christmas but he said he just couldn't wait anymore..be patient..good things come in time
2007-11-02 10:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jessi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're ready to get married, you want to set the date, and buy the dress...
If you don't, he never will.....
" no need to buy the cow, when the milk is free"
2007-11-02 10:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋