2007-11-02 04:07:04 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks everyone for your responses... just to clarify, he wants his own wedding band back that I purchased for him not the engagement ring
2007-11-02 04:57:02 · update #1
Wait, does he want his wedding band that HE wore back, or the wedding band that YOU wore back?
You each are the owner of your OWN band that you wore while you were married.
2007-11-02 04:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're getting divorce and he mad at you enough to ask for the wedding band back, why would you want to hang on to it. Give it back and move on. I know it's not that easy, but the less reminder you have the better.
2007-11-02 11:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by johanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not he gave it to you as a token of a commitment and now the commitment is being reversed so i think he should have at least that back and if it were me and i were getting divorced i would want the engagement and other rings of promise all of them they were given in the same type of rituals he will probably keep them and hang the wedding band around his neck to keep it close to his heart which is where he gave it from to start with give you something to think on doesnt it?
2007-11-02 11:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by the_orc_1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wouldn't think so.
i know the rule of thumb in an engagement break up is like this. If you break the engagement, you give the ring back. If he breaks it you keep the ring.
it's like a payment for a broken contract.
now, if the ring is an heirloom or something, get it appraised and tell him he can buy it back for the amount of the appraisal (more or less).
2007-11-02 11:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by old-softy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should check with your lawyer. If the band you are talking about is HIS wedding band (that he wore) then give it to him. Is it really worth keeping? You will have it and be reminded of your experiences with him. If it is the band YOU wore, you do not have to give it back to him as he gave it as a gift. Why does he want it? If it has diamonds in it or something valuable, why do YOU want it?
2007-11-02 11:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
HIS wedding band, or the ring he gave you?
Agreed with first answer. If it's a family heirloom, then yes, give it back. He'll want it for his next wife.
2007-11-02 11:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex stole my wedding ring from me. I say just give it back and cut all ties you can with him. What do you want it for anyway, is it worth the trouble?
2007-11-02 11:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by Azalea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a family heirloom then yes you should give it back as it should remain in his family and it was given to you in marriage and you are no longer married...if it was a band you bought then I say keep it - he should have no use for it!
2007-11-02 11:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by beast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have an obligation to give him back the engagement ring, and I don't think he should return his either. They were gifts.
2007-11-02 11:10:55 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Customarily, it belongs to the wife, so you don't have to. However, if it makes things easier on you - you don't still want it, do you? You'll find as the divorce wears on you start to think "just take it & go away!"
2007-11-02 11:10:31 · answer #10 · answered by suzanne g 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋