Newlyweds, what is the best thing about being married?

Question

I just got married 4 weeks ago, and even though I had cold feet before walking down the isle, I must tell you that this is the best feeling in the world! I'm glad to come home to someone who loves me for me, glad to be able to cook for my hubby, and grateful to have someone love me unconditionally and take care of me...

do you believe some people when they say the "newlywed" gushy feeling will go away, and that after the first couple months, it's all downhill?

I know our entire life won't be all 'peaches and cream', but no matter how many times you fight, get on eachother's nerves, and sometimes all around hate eachother's guts, the fact that you are committed and have such a deep bond with someone means more than some hard times (which you know you can get through - why else would you get married!?!)

Answer 1

First of all, congradulations! There IS value in marriage. Too many times in Yahoo Q and A you read questions from unmarried mothers wondering what to do about their abusive live-in boyfriends. Everything is "my daughters father" or "my son's mother" or "my partner this" or "common law husband" that. Yet these are the same screwed up people who say marriage is just a piece of paper and doesn't mean anything because divorce rates are climbing. As if divorce rates have anything to do with having kids out of wedlock and living with people for years at a time with no lifelong commitment!

IN ANY EVENT..........if you truly love your husband and he truly loves you, the feeling might fade but it will be replaced with other amazing feelings. Like the first time you buy a house. Or when you get a new car together. Or when you host your first holiday. Or.........when you realize you're going to become parents! My wife and I "honeymooned" for the first 5 years of our marriage, taking time to travel, party, experiment, and enjoy life together before settling down to start a family. We're so glad we did! Can only tell you that there IS value in marriage. And anybody who tells you otherwise is just bitter that they haven;'t found the right person to marry.

Answer 2

I've been married for one week exactly, but I have been living with my man for three years and dated him on and off for three years before that. It already felt like we were married for the longest time and yeah, we have our big blowouts to the point where I just want to get out of the house and go away for a while. But when things are said and done, I love him and he loves me. We always work things out. If you really, truly love the person you are with, things will always work out.

Someone said that over half of all marriages end in divorce. The only reason that is true is because most people can't take fighting and would rather end the best thing in their life rather than admit they were wrong and try to fix it. Also, I believe it is too easy to get a divorce in today's world.

If you and your husband truly love each other then you both can make it work. You both just need to learn to say "I'm sorry" and how to compromise. Do this and your marriage will last a lifetime.

Answer 3

Speaking for myself, we had peaches and cream in the first couple of years. I somehow knew that we could not be like this like being on a honeymoon for the rest of our life's in our marriage. I made the mistake expressing this to my wife and she started crying. I was a realist looking ahead, she was just happy on a daily bases. I was right, when we had our first one things started to change and everything was revolving around the child. We were not getting enough sleep and taking care of the child was becoming a chore. We were not able to go out like we did in the past and stress started to buildup. Disagreements and arguments started and guess what the honeymoon was over as I predicted it. That does not mean that the relationship broke down, but it took a different direction. We had two more after the first one and life was not like it used to be anymore, because your life revolves around your children most of the time. It is important to have a solid relationship with your spouse to have him as your helper and always be there in good times and in bad times.
We are committed and love each-other very much, but not so much with the mushy type. I would say that a marriage matures and goes through a number of different stages as you get older together.
Enjoy what you have right now to the fullest, but be prepared to accept also what the future will bring on into your marriage.

Answer 4

The newlywed feeling does go away, but if you have true friendship as the basis of your relationship your marriage will only get stronger.

My wife and I have been married for five years and we just get closer. Our newlywed feelings lasted for about two years and we still look like newlyweds to some people.

I cannot describe all of the best things about being married as there are far too many, but you covered some of them quite well. Those things do not go away as long as you still treat other as best friends and support each other through the tough times. Many of the tough times will have nothing to do with the two of you, but with the happenings in life.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 5

I have NEVER said the gushy feeling will go away!

BUT I have said that the first year is the toughest! You have to learn to live with each other and that takes about a year to get used to! (unless you were already living together)

SO if you are gushy for the first year I say it will last a lifetime!

I am more in love 11 years later than I was that first year!

Answer 6

this is what happened with me, i got married 5 days after meeting my hubby, ive been married for 5 yrs now, an i can honestly say, they havent been easy!

honey, in a way its true what they say, but you cant let other people's small talk ruin your experiences of being a good wife.
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we all go thru it, in Mexico, we call it " el ano de papel" (the year of paper). why? because we crumble it, and then picj it up and make it nice and smooth.

dont worry after the first yr, things will get better.......

Answer 7

Ah! To be young again. Why don't you get the old TV series from the early 90's entitled "Married, With Children". The misadventures of Al Bundy and Peggy Bundy, it will give you an idea of what your future holds.

Answer 8

who said that that gushy feeling goes away i have been married for about 10 years and still have that feeling everytime i stop to theink about it yeah she chose me out of all the guys out their she chose me how do i deserve the love and trust she puts into this dam it lucky to be me even in our worst arguements thats how i feel so good luck and congrats its gonna keep gettng better and better for ya

Answer 9

Guess it's your first time doing things like looking for a place, going away that sort of things

Answer 10

THE BEST THING ABOUT GETN MARRIED IS DA FEELING THAT U HAVE SOMEBODY NO MATTA WHAT THATS GOING TO BE THERE WITH U N LIFE THRU THICK AND THIN AND FIGHTIN BATTLES WITH U