Marriage & Divorce - 24 September 2007

She has told me that she has had lesbian affairs in the past. I know she still does, she admited to me that her and her best friend are more than just friends. She claims she loves me more than anything, but every now and then she gets a craving for a woman's soft touch. I guess I understand to a certain amount, if I was a woman I would definately be gay and her friend is a 10++. However, I am at conflict with the whole situation. I am a open minded person but was raised not to accept this sort of behaivior. I love my wife vut is it time to move on?

We don't have children.

2007-09-24 08:05:44 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

re?? I mean can they tell or feel the difference of your vagina???

2007-09-24 08:04:00 · 25 answers · asked by Quality_Chik_29 1

I am not the sneaky type of person so I find it hard to find ways to spy on my spouse. He spends lots of time away from the house for "work" purposes and he is in a profession that does allow him this excuse. When I question him he either gets angry or he gives me elaborate stories. When I ask him the same questions about the times that he has been away he often can't remember what he says and gets frutrated, gives me a different story and gets angry. I have been w/ this man for 23 yrs and have tried to divorce him a couple of times and he will not let me go. How can I catch him and beat him at his own game?

2007-09-24 08:01:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

all i get is ear ache, i only go out 4 nights a week now as i drink in the house for the other three. i used to go out 7 nights a week but have cut back to make her happy, but there seems no pleaseing some people!! i havent slept with a prostitute or taken drugs for 3 months & shes still going on at me the way shes going shes going to loose me.

2007-09-24 07:49:49 · 56 answers · asked by wolves69 3

can you just answer these questions to test you love.
1-]. For who long you have been togeather ?
2-]. Had you ever wash his/her socks or underwear ?
3-]. I he/she ask you to cook her favorite food, will you ?
4-]. What would you prefor a frindly hug or a french kiss ?
5-]. You will prefer to diner together or watch a movie ?
6-]. If he/she say you to go to a place you hate, will you ?
7-]. Do you love his/her mother as same as your own ?
8-]. If he/she wana go on a world tour alone, will you let him/her ?

2007-09-24 07:46:24 · 17 answers · asked by little girl 1

The type of woman I am attracted to is someone who is strong, knows what she wants, down to earth, intelligent, good sense of humor, personality, affectionate, a good girl with a devilish side. lol! Our personalities should compliment each other, I pretty much get along with everybody, but I can be bull headed at times to. I can be bull headed because sometime I am a little set in my ways, when I feel like I am right, then I am right, don’t matter how much evidence you bring to show I am wrong, in my mind I am still right, lol; but I can agree to disagree. Her appearance don’t matter, with me its all about how comfortable I am with you, but I am more partial to the professional woman.

2007-09-24 07:26:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Does or did it help?
If you want to say, what was the reason for getting the counseling?

2007-09-24 07:26:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-24 07:13:53 · 28 answers · asked by Sonia I 1

I'm at work, after a long pause he said " I miss my wife, I miss you Angie". I got all choked up and my eyes got misty and I just hung up softly without saying anything. I didn't want him to hear any tremor in my voice. I was too caught off guard. He may not know how much I've longed to hear those soothing words. He knows I want a divorce b/c of his drug problem. MY problem is (ofcourse I love him) that this drug problem will be the only reason our marriage ends and my children won't see their dad that they love. No need to proclaim my craziness for thinking of staying, I know I can't but sometimes I wonder if b/c this is just one dimension of him and he's a loving father and helps me (housework wise) if I shouldn't give him another chance after 7 yrs. He doesn't deal or bring it home, jbut he lied about it and lost my trust Is it as simple as "drop him cold turkey for my children" or "give him another chance for the sake of the children". I'm going to court for divorce forms

2007-09-24 07:06:50 · 16 answers · asked by Hope 4

I cheated and I got caught. My husband and I are trying to work things out. My eldest son however wont even speak to neither of us. He wants my husband to leave me! When my husband didnt my son said he didnt have any self respect. He packed up all his things and got an APT by his school. He took out extra loan money to do this. Then I later found out he removed himself from our cell phone plan, got his own car insurance and health insurance. He hasnt spoken with me since August. I called the school to get his new adress and phone number and the Bast#@ds said they couldnt give it to me since I was not paying for his school and he didnt sign any consent forms. Im his fricken mother how can they not do that! I have no idea where he is living or his phonenumber. I only have his email adress and he never responds. He will talk with his sisters but he has not told them his phone number or where he lives or atleast they wont tell me. How can I get my son to talk to me again?

2007-09-24 07:04:36 · 23 answers · asked by Ashely85 1

make you feel so cheap? Why are you so afraid to stop and realize it is wrong???

2007-09-24 06:54:42 · 8 answers · asked by Francesca 5

I just want to be held, carressed. (without the pressure for sex, I would be more likely to want sex....why don't guys understand that?)

2007-09-24 06:53:56 · 5 answers · asked by HazelEyes 5

and maybe women. Why do some people find it so hard to communicate what they are feeling? I have been with my husband 5 years and he is a closed book, always has been. I can spill my gutts about what im feeling, what I want and how i feel, yet he does not respond. My marraige counsellor says this is how some people are, but i find it incredible!! We all have a brain, and a mouth. Why do some people find it so hard to talk or respond? Are you like that? and why? I need to understand how my husbands brain works!

2007-09-24 06:51:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last month at the shoe store, I was surprised by the way a salesman flirted with my wife and the way she reacted to it. She actually seemed comfortable with his flirting and allowed him to hold her foot in his hand for long moments as he helped her try different shoes. At other times he kept his hand on her knees or putting his hand on her waist when she would try the shoes in front of the mirror. My reaction to that is I got immensely aroused and I have not stopped fantasizing about this guy actually making it with my wife. I was really taken aback by my reacion and these images keep playing in my mind. I would like other people to help me understand my reaction. Why would I want this guy to have his way with my wife and successful bed her? It is also worth mentioning that the salesman was really good looking. I am also interested in knowing what goes in a woman's mind in moments like this. Would anything more have happened if I was not around on that day? Would my wife try to go to the store again on her own to try more shoes, and try to meet with the guy in my absence?

2007-09-24 06:47:28 · 16 answers · asked by Rick 1

My husbands been working a lot of mandatory overtime. I haven't been able to see him for days and we haven't been able to have sex in weeks. I just got offered a new job and so he offered to take Sunday off to spend with me and we agreed we would go to supper to celebrate. I spent the night at my Mom's the night before to visit and when I got home around noon he wasn't home and his phone was off. I would have appreciated a note saying where he was, but blew it off and took a nap. He called at 3:30 from a friends phone and said he his phone was out of juice and he went to a friends house to watch a game and said he would be home shortly. So I got up and waited and waited and waited. He never called or showed up. I understand that he has been working a lot of hours lately and I would have understood that he needs some time with his friends but he wasafraid I would be pissed. This isn't the only time he's done this. How I should deal with this? I feel hurt and disrespected.

2007-09-24 06:40:03 · 13 answers · asked by sun day 5

2007-09-24 06:38:24 · 29 answers · asked by Carm Soprano 1

you had sex with (but you didn't really get much out of it because it was her first time and she was in pain) but when you ask her to do it again, she said no and wouldn't not budge no matter how many temper tantrums you had? Would you lose respect for that girl?

2007-09-24 06:36:29 · 19 answers · asked by . 3

We are both educated, of sound mind, no family dysfunction. We do not have a history of dating out of our age range. This is our only exp. with age gap dating. We have always dated within our age group. So we dont have "mother/father issues". People who dont know us cant tell by looking at us so we dont get weird looks. Only my family has disowned me. Hes not a thug or lowlife or freak. He's prior military and now has a very good job and is supporting us. He is by far the nicest, most loving, normal, stable minded person I have ever met. They just cant accept it. I dont care and am not trying to change it but it would be nice to hear from others some encouragement and acceptance of our "non traditional, socially unacceptable" life style.

2007-09-24 06:30:27 · 19 answers · asked by mrsbarrett10607 1

My husband and I are going through a divorce and my daughter over heard him telling his new girlfriend that it is stupid that I am giving them organic food.Do you think something like that can be held against me in the divorce?

2007-09-24 06:27:04 · 13 answers · asked by lvbrdy4vr 1

Ok so here’s the thing, I just found out my husband has been cheating on me with a girl he works with. He says he has ended it and doesn’t want anything to do with her anymore and that he has told her that on a couple of occasions. He has repeated to me over and over again that he is sorry but it’s hard to believe him after all the lies he has told me. Well anyways, this girl is repeatedly putting things on her myspace profile about their relationship to include a picture she took with him. He told me that he told her to stop doing that because its hurting me and our relationship. I know she is not going to give up so easily and she will continue to harass me and go after him. While I no longer go into her profile to see what she is putting because this was hurting me, I know that other people are seeing what she’s putting and this is embarrassing to me. Last week I was almost positive she called the house to talk to him even though my husband told me it wasn’t her because he had just talked to her again that day about leaving us alone. I have already told my husband to quit his job but he doesn’t want to because of the money. We live in an area where unemployment is high and he wouldn’t make what he makes now anywhere else and we have a lot of bills. He says he is waiting to pass certain exams to work for the INS and then he is out of there. So in the mean time, what should I do? Is there a way I can get her fired? I have gotten a person fired from work before because of the shady things this person was doing but I don’t know what I can pin on this girl since I don’t work there. Is fraternizing illegal? Could I accuse her with their boss of harassing us? I need this girl out of our lives for good without getting my husband fired!

2007-09-24 06:20:37 · 37 answers · asked by alexn 2

2007-09-24 06:19:44 · 2 answers · asked by qat_800 3

About 2 months ago, I met this older man through my friends. He is attractive, funny, smart, wealthy but has legal ties...wife and kids to be exact. He pursued me and I followed along. He kissed me one night 2 months ago b/c he was wasted and I was too but I told him no. Then it happened on a different night. And I said this is the wrong thing to do. He said I was right and we didn't really talk or look at eachother when I would visit my other friends. Then just this last month, I saw him out and he asked me to go get a drink, I gave in and went. I didn't know what to expect but we did have sexual relations not intercourse but you get the idea, and now I am just so wrapped up in this mess and I totally think he is a great guy but what am i doing???? Am I disrespecting myself here? Is this ok? Is it not ok? No one has a clue what is going on but there are several people that would get hurt, how do you walk away? I am so confused!! Please help.

2007-09-24 05:55:26 · 15 answers · asked by TextnQueen 1

Let me explain, women desire for their husabands to love & cherish them. Lets say a husband is doing things unintentionaly that upset his wife to the point she explodes at him saying mean and belittling things. However, she still wants him to love and repect her. Will she ever think,"Crap, what did I do? How could I have said those things, now he'll think I am a witch and not love me?" Or something like that?

2007-09-24 05:39:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

when we started out back then." I always like that song by Jim Croce. Do you ever think about the plans you made when you were first married and what happened to them? Often the planning and dreaming is far sweeter than the results.

2007-09-24 05:35:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do you think about when your spouse call's you his little girl in the bedroom or he is asking you to say im your little girl it sounds kinda weird if you ask me or if he asks you to call him daddy do you think he is trying to be kinky or is he being a pervert please tell me what you think ?

Also I guess this just freaks me out because I was Malested as a child by my bilogical father ! (Which he is in prison) long story!
Thanx

2007-09-24 05:32:59 · 76 answers · asked by Amanda B 1

told this guy that I am too busy to be emailing him anymore and that I am trying to work out my current relationship, and he says, "I wish you all the best then. and you never know when I will be back in your area again? why would he say that knowing I am with someone else?

2007-09-24 05:30:51 · 28 answers · asked by monalisa79 1

can she get half of investments, propreties , money any thing of value i own before we marry

2007-09-24 05:25:53 · 16 answers · asked by kool 1

Here is how it goes...
She is married, he is married...they are work colleagues...somethings' is in the air...nobody knows exactly what, but whenever together time passes by quickly and both of them cannot let go..simple as that. There is nothing intimate between them, nothing at all, just some intensity..however....
All of a sudden he changes his attitude towards her, he ignores her, he cannot or just won't look at her, they do not even speak any more..with no explanation or whatsoever...he just started acting as a completely different man, meaning he talks with everyone else but her.
How can she find out what in fact happened, or just make him tell her what is wrong..just to clear things up, for the sake of the good times??! And this without being pushy or annoying

2007-09-24 05:21:26 · 17 answers · asked by Senka M 3

And since I came back, he is talking but formally and also he is not allowing me to touch him, hugs and kiss from me are fine but no reply from his side.

He knows he was at fault then and bcoz of his mis-behaviour I went away.

Though I am playing cool, what more should I do so he feels comfartable and more attracted towards me.

Please only answer if you know and care to workout a relationship, I don't want any answer to break it.

We both want our relationship to work out.

Thanks

2007-09-24 05:21:09 · 12 answers · asked by teatimetrivia.blogspot.com 2

2007-09-24 05:09:38 · 6 answers · asked by kasule a 1