Let me explain, women desire for their husabands to love & cherish them. Lets say a husband is doing things unintentionaly that upset his wife to the point she explodes at him saying mean and belittling things. However, she still wants him to love and repect her. Will she ever think,"Crap, what did I do? How could I have said those things, now he'll think I am a witch and not love me?" Or something like that?
2007-09-24 05:39:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes women do regret what we say.....but often there is some underlying reason to what we want or need from our significant other. We say one thing and mean another and do not express things in the right way. Outbursts of anger like this usually means we are hurt beneath the surface and only communication after wards and in the right way can you discover what it all really means underneath. Also, women are very hormonal at certain times of the month and only the strong survive when we are menopausal!!! So get some information on this in a medical book to help you understand this. I am a woman and have been through it all ....thank God my husband survived it....I even had to go on a low dose of an antidepressant for some maintenance of hormones for awhile. Everthing is fine now ......so be aware of changes that go on with a woman and keep communication open and talk with her. Sometimes it takes years to get through it all ...so buy some ear plugs and hopfully her remarks will bounce off of you like a rubber ball!!! We do get better ....and right when we do the men sometimes go through a midlife crisis.....I guess this balances everything out in our marriage to each other?? lol.
2007-09-24 06:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you saying that it is a selfish reason to only regret the outburst because she feels HE won't love HER anymore? That's what it sounds like to me. But when you think about it it's not really all that selfish I'm sure he cares just as much about loving her as she does. Regretting an outburst is what you should do if you feel that it was unnecessary. If followed by an apology, it should be forgiven not reprimanded.
....I think I owe my bf an apology...pregnancy hormones got the best of me last night and he deserves an apology rightfully.
2007-09-24 05:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People, no matter when they loose it but especially when it is with someone that we really care for, usually regret it later. I am the world's worst about beating myself up over things like this for months afterwords, even when the person I said it to deserved it.
We all say and do things that we don't mean and that we regret. If we are really sorry about it, then we quit doing it. We get better at controlling it. If she keeps doing it over and over, she isn't really sorry or she needs anger management classes or something.
It also sounds like you may not have good communication, if you will deal with small things as they occur and have an open line of communication perhaps things would not get to the point of either of you having to explode.
Good luck!
2007-09-24 05:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've said some things that right after they left my mouth, I thought OMG, what have I done. I then look at him, tell him I'm sorry my temper got the best of me, and I really don't feel that way. Of course, this was in the beginning... now at almost 6 years, even after our ups and downs, I am pretty happy with our life. Sure things could be better, but things could be a lot worse too. My glass is half full. :-) I've also learned to bite my tongue, since my temper only has a mind to hurt. No truth.
2007-09-24 05:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's not just women, but men also will say things when their emotions are running high. It's a matter of learning when to walk away before you say something you really regret. It's called being a human, and everyone does it at some point in time. None of us are perfect.
2007-09-24 05:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U said it ur self "he's been irresponsible and insensitive. and this is not the first time he had relationship with other woman" what proof is there that he wont cheat again he may say that he wont cheat but he might go back into his old cheating,irresponsible things......ur son dosnt deserve a irresponsible and insensitive and cheating father and u dont deserve this guy u deserve a better guy wholl love u not other woman wholl love ur son like its his own son............itll hurt to leave ur husband but itll hurt more if u stay with ur husband you need to move on leave him Take Care and hope everything works out for u Good Luck
2016-05-17 10:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by phyliss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ofcourse! i think all people men or women regret things said out of anger! the best thing to do is apologize!!! tell that person that you are trully sorry and tell them that you love them!! also after you make ammends, explain to your partner what the problem was! that way he/she will kno and hopefully you wont have the same problems in the future!! (people arent mind readers! they may be doing something that bugs the h e l l out of you and have no idea!! thats why communication is sooooo important in a relationship!!!!!)
good luck!! <3
2007-09-24 05:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by lizzylou859 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People (men and women, married and un) sometimes have outbursts as you describe. Sometimes people let their anger or annoyance run away with them, but hopefully they apologize and the other person is able to forgive (esp if it's not a common occurence).
I'd hope anyone who lashed out at someone, esp for no good reason, would feel regret at doing so and try to make up for it. It's not a kewl way to treat others nor should they be expected to just accept such behavior.
2007-09-24 05:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
sometimes, yes, but everyone is that way, not just women. some people have a tendency to keep things inside and not talk about what is bothering them until it's too late. by then, you have blown up on the other person and they have no idea what for. that's why communication is a very important part of a relationship.
2007-09-24 05:44:24 · answer #9 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sure she didn't mean it. She was probably feeling stressed & over whelmed, we all get like that from time to time. If she doesn't apolagize in a few days. Sit down & be open with her & tell her that it hurt your feelings. Women like to know guys actually have feeling in there some where.
2007-09-24 05:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by T P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋