Do you or have you been to marriage counseling?

Question

Does or did it help?
If you want to say, what was the reason for getting the counseling?

Answer 1

I have gone before and it didn't work becasue, I didn't want to be there and didn't think I needed to be there. I think it can work though. It doesn't really matter what the reason for going to the counseling was for. If both people aren't really into going for the reasons of making there relationship work, then counseling won't work. Both people have to want to go for the same reason and be willing to open up honestly if they expect to have good resluts from it.

Answer 2

Yes it helps if both people are willing to work at the relationship. It takes time. The counselor has to get to know you, has to see how you two interact and the two of you have to be honest with the counselor and with each other. There are a lot of if's. When those are not met then counseling fails. Of course most people blame the counseling instead of accepting that it was them.

Answer 3

I have been there. And I don't feel that it did me any good. My wife said it helped her. But, from my experiences, the counselors don't really counsel. They just ask a lot of questions trying to get you to think about different sides of the situations. They don't really commit to any side of anything. There is a lot of "...and how did you feel about that?" Kinda useless in my opinion. But, hey, for some people I guess that is what they need to be open minded and to start thinking about the big picture.

Also, better make sure your insurance covers it, or it will be the most expensive interrogation you have ever had.

Answer 4

Obviously youll get a variety of answers on this one. I have been due to sort-of an infidelity problem. People will say that both parties have to be willing and ready to really try, but it also has a LOT to do with the counselor. Do your research. Check out the counselors in your area and dont just check their credentials, but try to find out just what their approach is, or better yet if you can, find out from someone whos saught help from them. Some counselors are much more outspoken, some basically just sit there and "listen" for $100 per hour. Either way be up front and specific in your first session what you expect and what you want them to help you accomplish, otherwise they may drag it out longer than it has to be!

Answer 5

I went to counseling when my ex and I were married, but he refused to go because he believed he was perfect. So, of course, it didn't work! But it did help me to realize that my marriage was beyond fixing, and gave me the inner strength to be able to file for divorce.

Answer 6

My husband and I went to a few marriage counselors and yes they can be helpful. But it can take a bit of digging to find the right one that works for both.

The most important thing we learned, was how to communicate to each other. To us that was priceless..and worth the visits.

Answer 7

If you go that route make sure the person is neutral. My ex pushed for that route and it turned out to be a friend of a friend of a friend type thing that was gonna come up in the divorce.

Answer 8

The last thing in my life that both my wife and I need is some stranger advising us on how to get along. If you cannot relate your opinions to your spouse in a civil and mature manner then people shouldn't marry. precisely why they all fail too. No communication because people don't know how anymore. Thank Christ I was gifted with a brain, common sense and the ability to see ahead as to what the benefits or consequences of any decision I make would or could be. Just too bad there aren't enough people out there with that kind of talent. It'd make life easier for them.

Answer 9

Yes. More than once. it does help if both partners are willing to participate.

Answer 10

Yeah. Not always. you think you want to.