And since I came back, he is talking but formally and also he is not allowing me to touch him, hugs and kiss from me are fine but no reply from his side.
He knows he was at fault then and bcoz of his mis-behaviour I went away.
Though I am playing cool, what more should I do so he feels comfartable and more attracted towards me.
Please only answer if you know and care to workout a relationship, I don't want any answer to break it.
We both want our relationship to work out.
Thanks
2007-09-24 05:21:09 · 12 answers · asked by teatimetrivia.blogspot.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Misbehavour from his side was- He is unnecessarily angry, kept insulting me , always saying bad things to me, bad words, always annoyed and lot many things to just make other feel down and bad and spoil mood
2007-09-24 06:07:37 · update #1
what happened? what did he do? what did u do? i need details!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
what misbehavior?
2007-09-24 05:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you BOTH wanted this relationship to work out ... Then you
would not be on Yahoo Answers.
You asked for answers ONLY from people that care to workout a relationship.
Well .... I care VERY much that women realize how valuable
and precious they are!
Your writing shows so MANY "red flags!" ... Step back and
look at what you have said .... You left for 30 days because
he talked "bad" to you ... got excessively angry ... and insulted you. THEN ... when YOU come back ... he does NOT
respond to YOUR hugs and kisses!
We both know that the anger and the insults DO NOT mean
love or concern. What does his indifference mean to you???
In ANY relationship .... the only person's actions that you can
control are your own. You need to decide that you are special enough to be treated with care and consideration.
You must care enough about yourself that you will realize
that it is FAR BETTER to be alone (with your self-respect)
that to be constantly insulted and humiliated. Maybe you
don't know how it feels for a man to truly care about you.
If you don't ... then you should be anxious to find out how it feels ... and you should make sure that you are available.
But .... YOU have got to make that decision. Don't expect
this guy to change. (People with anger management problems usually need professional help!)
If you like .... you can keep your expectations low ... and stay with this guy. However .... I guarantee that you will continue
to dislike and de-value yourself .... as LONG as you allow
yourself to be treated so poorly.
If you do not want to break up .... and you both want it to work
out. Then .... tell this guy how you feel when he is angry and
insulting. If he (truly cares .... and is able to) he WILL STOP.
(Again ... Most anger problems require professional help!)
And if he does not stop the then ... NO ONE on Yahoo Answers can make you break up with him..... You get to decide that ALL on your own.
I sincerely wish you the best ... Cause you deserve it!
It takes guts and courage to stand up for yourself ... and if
you decide to break-up ... It won't be easy ... But you WOULD
get over it! And believe it or not .... You would be happier
in the long run!
2007-10-01 22:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by kjh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a clue. He either has a girl on the side or is thinking about it. Gauranteed. At this point he resents you from keeping him from doing what he wants. Being mad a day or two isn't a big deal. More than a week is a classic symptom of infidelity. If you don't want to face the truth then learn to live with his cold shoulder. Your choice. Counseling may help, but it sounds like he's already decided. It sounds like you have a problem with self worth. Marriage is a partnership. You shouldn't have to convince him to love you every day. Find someone who is capable of loving you for you, not some fantasy. It sounds like YOU want the relationship to work. He doesn't or he wouldn't act that way.
2007-10-01 09:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by hawkinthehouse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing. It's hard. I you want to work it out you need to sit and talk. Talk about the real issues. Try to rediscover each other. It takes time to rebuild something you feel got lost. Don't expect instant results. If you both love each other hold on to that. The rest, with good communication, will work itself out. Don't play the blame game. It never works. He isn't being affectionate because there is so much strain. Men cannot express affection when there is so much tension between the two of you. It's 3 o clock in the morning here and I just got off the phone with my husband doing much better too. I told him I thought we needed to find each other again and it was like a floodgate opened. We really talked for the first time in a long time. Hold on to your love. It will sustain you through the hard times.
2007-10-02 04:06:37 · answer #4 · answered by natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you were right from the beginning then dont let him make you feel guilty. You can start by doing things both of you love doing to bring back the spark itno the relationship. Youcan tease him. Walk around in sexy things but tell him he is not allowed to touch you, now tell me he will still resist that! then you have to communicate more. Ask him about his day his plans. Stay closer. Dont nag. Try to let him talk more...goodluck.
2007-09-30 15:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you've been in a relationship for a while, you know what things to say to make the other person get upset. He has to think before he speaks. He is going to have to try to control his temper if he wants this to work. Obviously, you don't want to go anywhere, so you just need to suck it up. It's funny to me how you can ask a question that you already know the answer to. You tell us not to tell you to leave him. But you already know that is the right thing to do. Just shut up and take his crap!
2007-10-02 01:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by lawstudntbynite 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, all kinds of red flags just flew up! the first thing u need to understand is this, what hes doing and saying to u is classic verbal and emotional abuse. now he still isnt responding to you physically or emotionally......just his way of controling u and the situation. he will soon start to break things that u like or hurt your pets. what is his parents relationship like? please seek counseling, u are being controlled and abused and it will never get any better until u get the help u need to recognize the symptoms. believe me, ive been there. good luck, its a difficult journey u r about to take but there will be better days.
2007-10-01 12:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by buzytree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can you guys to for therapy?
time will heal this. you guys need rules to go by.
you both need to learn to fight fair and not be disrespectful to one another.
everyone is entitled to their own point of view, but you also need to learn the fine art of compromise. it's what couples do when they live together happily
2007-10-01 13:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called communication .work on it
2007-10-02 12:07:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say to him, lets forget all that has happen over the past few months & start over & don't call me names cause it hurts my feelings.
2007-10-01 16:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by shellysd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE BIBLE TELLS US TO NEVER LET THE SUN GO DOWN ON OUR ANGER. THAT WAS YOUR FIRST MISTAKE. MY ADVICE IS THIS; IF YOU CARE FOR THIS PERSON AND WANT TO CONTINUE THE RELATIONSHIP THEN EVEN IF IT ISN'T YOUR FAULT APOLOGIZE. IT'S CALLED TURNING THE OTHER CHEEK, ALSO BIBLICAL.
2007-09-24 12:28:17 · answer #11 · answered by Loren S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋