What do you think about when your spouse call's you his little girl in the bedroom or he is asking you to say im your little girl it sounds kinda weird if you ask me or if he asks you to call him daddy do you think he is trying to be kinky or is he being a pervert please tell me what you think ?
Also I guess this just freaks me out because I was Malested as a child by my bilogical father ! (Which he is in prison) long story!
Thanx
2007-09-24
05:32:59
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Amanda B
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yes he know's about my past!
2007-09-24
05:41:10 ·
update #1
I dont mind calling him daddy because we have two children both boys!
2007-09-24
05:50:47 ·
update #2
He also call's me momma and I call him daddy in front of our children!
2007-09-24
06:05:50 ·
update #3
I dont think I would like him telling me he is my little boy because it doesnt sound right to me !
2007-09-24
06:10:19 ·
update #4
I wasnt thinking of this because age is just a number to me but im 23 and he is 34 maybe that has something to do with it I dont know I'll have to talk to him !
2007-09-24
06:13:11 ·
update #5
I don't like it, and if your significant other knows your history, he should be more sensitive to the fact that you would be uncomfortable to it.
2007-09-24 05:37:26
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answered by TxsWitchWAB 4
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Oh boy - you're dealing with a lot!
The whole "let me be your daddy" thing has lots of layers.
Some of it has to do with older men, younger women kinda of thing, which might be its most common incarnation. Darker versions sometimes involve incest fantasies.
I'm more concerned by the fact that your question is about your spouse. Did all this come up suddenly or did he exhibit this behavior before marriage?
Honestly and very superficially - your spouse sounds very strange and a little dark - but keep in mind that this is a very superficial observation.
I hope that you have a good therapist for all that you've gone through and the issues you are dealing with in your present day life.
If not - then seek out professional help, incest survivor groups and as much other support as you can.
2007-09-24 05:42:08
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answered by KI557 2
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You stated that you have told him about your past with your father and he still continues to use "Daddy" and "Your Little Girl" in sex play which is so wrong.
He's using control and likes it when you are uncomfortable as that gives him more control. That's a sick approach.
I bet that you do not enjoy sex with him and that you probably feel sick at your stomach everytime that he insists on this.
Tell him again, but this time let him know that you will not be sexually active with him if he uses the "Daddy" and "my little girl" approach. Tell him it is a total turnoff and borders on abuse.
If he doesn't want to change after that then you need to seek more counseling for yourself. Your self-esteem is being lowered by this and that is not good at all.
You didn't deserve what your father did REMEMBER THAT and your father is paying the price for his ill ways. Don't be a victim in this relationship as you deserve better. You deserve to be treated a lot better.
Good Luck.
2007-09-24 06:32:21
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answered by Twilight 6
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Uh, perverted. I think it is terrible that he does this knowing your past. Child molestation affects a person for the rest of their lives. It isn't something that is done and forgotten about. It must be a very strong thing for him that needs to be fulfilled if he is going to be that insensitive to your feelings. He obviously has a fascination with young children or he wouldn't want it in the bedroom. I will tell you....if my significant other asked me to call him daddy and called me is little girl....he would be out the door. Put on some ballerina shoes one night and put your foot up his *** telling him that is what happened to the last man that did that to you then tell him to get counseling for his problem. Just hope he doesn't take it to the playgrounds.....or has he already?
2007-09-24 05:57:21
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answered by Paula D 4
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It doesn't matter what we think. Point being that someone, regardless of who they are, is doing something that is making you feel uncomfortable. We all could go on all day saying whether it is weird, uncalled for or just kinky, at the end of the day, you may find 50% answers finding it weird and the other 50% finding it normal, which with these figures, that won't help much for this scenerio. I can see how your past can make you feel uncomfortable with this, but take it from me...you are not losing it...I don't have that type of past, so I can't relate in that aspect, but as far as your feelings on this I can relate, my reason, probably is more so for the fact that I have kids and to me it just sounds pervertish!! I recommend you voicing this to your s/o and out of respect he should immediately eliminate this process from the intimicy you both share. Just be open and honest and stress your level of discomfort, considering your past, so he sees how serious the matter is to you. Good Luck and God bless!!!
2007-09-24 06:03:44
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answered by Anonymous
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You need to let your husband know that the behavior bothers you. If you haven't told him that you've been molested, he should know this. Some women call there husband's or partners daddy, both in and out of the bed. Kinky or perverted? It just depends on who is saying it and how it is perceived by the person hearing it. Most men who like little girls can't pretend with a grown woman. Talk to your husband. Best of luck with your situation.
2007-09-24 05:41:43
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answered by grace95838 4
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Some men like to be called "daddy" in bed; some women like to call their significant others "daddy". It's kinda kinky at times. Some people just like pet names. It brings some couples closer together. Because you know that you are the only person that calls hi/her that name. Now.......if you have been molested, then I totally understand the uncomfortableness of it. Does he know this about you? If he does, you have to let him know how that makes you feel. If he doesn't, then you have to tell him. I'm hoping he's not the controlling type and definitely hoping he's not the perverted type.
2007-09-24 05:42:24
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answered by Anonymous
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If you are uncomfortable with anything that is going on inn the bedroom it is important to let your partner know. It probably doesn't mean he is a pervert and if he really likes you he will understand I'm sure. Also make sure to do this as soon as possible, the longer it goes on the more uncomfortable you will feel and the more embarassed he will feel.
I'm sure things will work out fine and talking about it may make the two of your happier in the bedroom.
2007-09-24 05:41:11
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answered by Ali 4
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Well I can see why you would be made uncomfortable by this, but I would imagine that your spouse means no harm by it. Sometimes (I'm a guy so I know) when you're in the mood, you get these weird things that you just want to say, for whatever reason. It's just one of those things. It doesn't (or shouldn't normally) reflect on your out-of-the-bedroom personality.
So, if it makes you uncomfortable, tell your spouse about it. He should understand, and you can work together to discover other ways of satisfying his / your craving for kinky stuff.
2007-09-24 05:39:06
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answered by BZR 4
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I don't think it has anything to do with him wanting to pretend that you are his child. I believe he just wants to feel like he's authority. HE wants to feel in control.
My husband and I call each other mommy and daddy all the time. It's not always a sexual thing....turned into more of a 'pet-name' type of thing. (and no, has nothing to do with kids because I have no children)
If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then by all means talk to him. If the two of you could engage in that type of dirty talk and you'd feel okay with it, then it wouldn't be a problem. But if it really freaks you out and you do not feel comfortable, then TALK TO HIM!!!! He won't want to be making you feel that way I'm sure! You just need to let him know!!
I'm sure together the two of you could come up with other sexual names that will get him just as 'hot'!!
2007-09-24 05:45:25
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answered by jezyka 5
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There is a sexual role-play that a lot of people enjoy called, daddy/daughter. It is ROLE PLAY, not real but it is a turn on for them. Sounds to me like this is what is going on with your husband.
It not mean that he is a pedophile or anything like that.
However, as it obviously is very discomfitting for you, he needs to stop, and only you can tell him so! If he doesn't then it might be time for 1--counseling or 2--divorce.
2007-09-24 06:01:57
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answered by Rebecca W 7
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