Marriage & Divorce - 7 September 2007

it ended ubruptly, she wanted to maintain friends..i told her i was not ready i wasn't as strong as her i still felt too much and i was happy she was IN love again, she told me she had feelings for him and that he means alot to her and that i deserved to have happiness..i respected that and stopped contact since, her friends say she speaks highly of me, probably still even cares...i dunno about that..if she did wouldn't she contact me instead of playing coy and waiting for me to contact her?she lives in the same apartment complex as we did before she is still in the area as we were before my friends are now her friends i mean i dunno but if i do go back home i definately run into her again somehow..do u think she still cares? or am i settling myself up for failure?

2007-09-07 03:56:33 · 8 answers · asked by Charmer 4

My husband talks to me with such anger and disrespect you would gag. Everything that goes wrong is my fault. He has been extremely verbally and emotionally abusive. With everything that I have been through, when he is attacking me verbally, I do the only thing I know how to do, I attack him physically. Everything is a mess. We've both made mistakes and bad decisions in the past, but my mistakes and decisions are the only ones that matter. He is constantly judging me and putting me down. He has no respect for my job because I got it through a temp agency, so it doesnt meant anything and doesnt appreciate anything I do or have to say. Where is this going?

2007-09-07 03:53:05 · 19 answers · asked by forever charmed 2

Something wrong with her or only the wish to disappear?
a person left where she is being staying suddenly she started to be agressive few days before .she had gone saying that: she love my friend and would come back ;;;the day after, she putted out all her photos in myspace and the video about a music, that they use to ear and say to nobody write there, only to her email. she putted in her myspace some agressive communities as : leave myspace in peace...what you coming to see here? and it was her that use to do that with my friend ... after one month she erased myspace profile. In her family profile , sister, brother, nobody talks about her and even then are not using mysapace anymore .what do you think that could happen?something wrong with her or only the wish to disappear?

2007-09-07 03:48:53 · 5 answers · asked by alex a 6

I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 months now. Things seem to be going ok with a few bumps in the road along the way. However, lately, she has been saying I LOVE YOU but not with enthusiasm, including sometimes when she says it on the phone so low I can’t hear her and have to ask what she said. Recently, and only because it was something I said in conversation that brought this up, she said she is going to start working later on Wednesdays starting in 2 weeks and trying to work a few hours extra each day during the week for extra money. Again, she didn’t volunteer this info. Now I wouldn’t think anything of this being that we have talked about getting a place in 5months when her lease is up and we could use the extra cash to support ourselves. However, she has a history of cheating, including her ex hubby. And I still suspect she talks to her other ex she cheated on him with, but she denies it. Even though she has text him in front of me.

2007-09-07 03:48:26 · 6 answers · asked by hero 1

is an emotional affair as bad as a sexual affair

2007-09-07 03:47:26 · 26 answers · asked by jeannieboop 4

I opened the account when our daughter was born and stopped paying in when we divorced 7 years ago by which time there was £5500 in it.
We didn't tell our daughter about the account, it was to help her start Uni.
Now she's starting Uni and the time has come to give her the money my ex admits it's all gone.
I signed our house and all our bank accounts over to her, paid what the CSA said I should, and made additional voluntary payments when I could, but apparently that's not enough so she steals off our own daughter.
The bank say the only way she could've done it was by supplying a sample signature and then forging it.
I'm not sure what to do. Your thoughts please!

2007-09-07 03:43:02 · 24 answers · asked by Bum Gravy. 5

i just found out my husband invited his brither and his little boy to spend the night at our house TONIGHT. i just found out this morning and apparently he has known for a few days, and didn't tell me. There is a big difference between coming to visit and spending the night. Visit might mean i need to do a little spot cleaning. and overnight stay entails major cleanign cause they would be using the bathroom and everyroom in the house. PLUS my husband and i have problems so i have slept on the couch for almost a year, how inconsiderate of him not not think of where they will sleep or where i will sleep for that matter. I think i have a right to be mad do you?

2007-09-07 03:40:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

When ever my husband and I argue, I can never just let it go. I will usually hold a grudge and give him an attitude for a few days, then I get over it. I know that it is a problem I have. I have tried not to do it, and when I am angry, I tell myself that I just need to get over it. However, then I think about whatever the situation is, and it makes me angry and I just can't get over it so quickly. Any ideas on how I can help myself not be so angry all the time. He is really good and just letting things go, so that helps. I really do try, but it doesn't work.

2007-09-07 03:32:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

So im 20, pregnant and live with my parents... And my dad tells my mom and i last night that he doesnt think he loves her anymore. And he jsut wants to get out.. .He wont leave us until we are financially stable. And till i have the baby. And he said we can sell the house and take all the money. that he just wants to take his harley and go..... WTF .. my mother and i are soo shocked. and i dont know what to do

2007-09-07 03:29:41 · 23 answers · asked by melig786 2

My husband is a huge sports fanatic. He plays basketball a few times a week. When he is not playing, he is always watching a game or just sports center. He will watch a game, basketball, football, baseball and/or UFC, and then he HAS to watch the high lights of the game he just watched. How can I get it through to him that this is affecting our relationship. Our nights consist of me in 1 room and he in another. I have tried talking to him hundreds of times. He will do good for a couple weeks, then we are having the same argument. I try to get involved and will watch sometimes, ask questions, or just do anything to get him to pay attention to me instead of the TV all the time. It just gets old after a while.

2007-09-07 03:25:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-07 03:24:59 · 10 answers · asked by jeannieboop 4

I made him leave last night, he will NOT hit me again! I need to ask for allimony(sp?) too because I cant pay all the bills by myself. I really am not as upset as I thought I would be about the situation. I guess after 2 years of hell...you really dont care anymore. I work 3 jobs and struggle to do what I can but I do a pretty good job! Anyway I guess I just need some advice and some one to tell me it will be ok! I know life will go on...but sometimes it doesnt feel that way. I will hold my head high and carry myself like I always have! I can tell you one thing though, I WILL SURVIVE! lol. thanks in advance!

2007-09-07 03:24:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is your secret? What advice do you give those who are having troubles? What little tips can yu give us all to improve our relationships?

Here is my tip: Do the best that you can to make your spouses day, a better one every day.

2007-09-07 03:20:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-07 03:18:16 · 4 answers · asked by torture26 2

Everyone says that I shouldnt make a big deal about my husband looking at images of other women. Here is the thing 1 year ago he started acting diff.around me putting me down for no reason at the same time he was looking @ porn on the internet. Since then I have been a little insecure about myself not just b/c he looked at other women but b/c of the put downs. I have always felt he was comparing the way I look to how the women he saw looked. I wont lie I notice good looking guys and I wouldnt have a problem w/ him looking @ other women if it wasnt for the put downs. So my debate wasnt over him looking I know he will look but dont make me feel bad about myself and dont talk about other hot chicks to your friends when I am around. Thats all I am not that bad of a wife. I ask for some respect. We have come close to divorcing over this and I know it would be stupid to lose him over this especially since we have 2 little ones who need us. He doesnt look @ it anymore not at home anyway.

2007-09-07 03:14:36 · 3 answers · asked by hotmoma1 1

2007-09-07 03:09:59 · 3 answers · asked by PrettyAKA 2

How do you begin to forgive someone? you've lost the trust already, so where do you start? I really love my husband, we have children together, I thought we had a good relationship. He didn't physically cheat, but isn't the emotional part enough?

2007-09-07 03:06:56 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

Two years ago I discovered my husband was chaating.Don't know if this was first time. We remained together although he now has bought an apartment. He lived in it for a while but is now living at home full time including evenings. If I ask what he is going to do with it he says he might sell it but he doesn't want to rent it out to anyone because its new and its a shame to let others spoil it. I was under the impression that the affair had ended long before he now says it ended because we were sleeping together and he seemed to be trying to change our marriage for the better. He now says that he hasn't seen this other person since Xmas last year. I was suprised, but I am pretty sure that he doesn't see her now. This latest revelation has unsettled me greatly and is making me think that I must be pretty dumb to trust anything he says, but why do I go on forgiving him? I suspect that he is waiting for our daughter to go to University next year before he leaves, but I could be wrong.

2007-09-07 03:05:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi, after her 2nd day in school, my daughters teacher sent home a note asking me to work on spelling her name and alphabet. I thought to myself "Ok, but this is the 2nd day and there is no prerequisite for children that age to meet a set standard of penmanship before entering kindergarten." So, I replied to her note thanking her for her letter and also asking her if this was a general note to ALL parents or if my daughers handwriting (on the 2nd day of school no less) was not comparable to the others students in some way.

What do you make of this letter and my response? Do you think my reply was necessary? I mean, c'mon!! I'm sending her to school to learn these things not for the teacher to ask me to teach it! (ofcourse I don't mind going over writing w/my daughter but I'm sure you know that's not the point) Thank you everyone for your response.

2007-09-07 03:04:28 · 25 answers · asked by Hope 4

a person greiving over a loss

2007-09-07 02:59:49 · 8 answers · asked by Murray S 1

My partner and I have been together almost 8 years. We have had our ups and downs but always seemed to be able to work things out. He lied to me yesterday. I asked him the day before if any of the woman on his facebook list (because he keeps adding woman)*old friends* were his ex girlfriends. He told me no.none of them were. Then last night we were talking about it and he slipped by accident and said the girl who contacted him by email was his ex girl frien. So because he didnt add her he felt he wasnt lying when I asked and said I didnt know what I meant. I feel like theres a knife in my chest because this is not the first time (i didnt word it properly) and so it wasnt a lie. 8 years is a long time to dedicate my life to someone so literal. He emailed me this morning because he knows I am still upset and said"I am sorry about lying to you my dear – I did not clue in to what you were saying and ,meaning and if I did I would have said so." Can you give me your honest opinion please.ty

2007-09-07 02:47:05 · 9 answers · asked by Survivor 1

When I married my husband I did take the vow to love honour and obey. my husband took the vow to love honour and cherish, I do love him very much and our marriage is good he works very hard. I on the other hand have never worked, he won't allow it. We do go to swingers clubs and i do most things my husband wants me to do. But now says he wants to join a bdsm club and i,m not sure anyone tell me more about this.

2007-09-07 02:45:09 · 18 answers · asked by bb 1

What is the best way for my husband and me to keep the romance in our marrige when we have a toddler under foot?
Share your ideas and experiences.

2007-09-07 02:35:51 · 9 answers · asked by violet_selky 2

I have 2 children. The oldest is 18 and just moved in with me in Louisiana to attend college. The other is 16 and lives with her mother in Texas. I bring home 781.00 a week. I pay trucknote for my son of 232.00 & auto insurance ,207.00 plus his gas, provide home, food, etc. but b/c he is 18 it doesnt count for anything im assuming in the eyes of the court.

My child support was set in La. at 600.00 a month 10 years ago for both children but now my ex wife who has since moved to TX, makes at least or more than I do. I dont know exactly what she makes but its somewhere between 80-100K a year.

My 16 yr old daughter now wants a car and I was going to buy her one and pay the insurance for her as well but I thought the only fair thing was to cut the child support in half (300.) since I am raising my son. xwife sent me a msg. saying that she was going to take me back to court because she wants the total amt + more since its only 1 child & if I dont buy the car she will poison

2007-09-07 02:30:00 · 12 answers · asked by spence 1

What would you do if, hypothetically, you were sprawled out naked on your bed, lost in a fantasy and pleasuring yourself, knowing you had taken every precaution to make sure the bedroom door was locked. Except you didn’t. And all of a sudden your 13 year old daughter burst into the room with a 14 year old neighbor boy right behind her. How would you handle that? Hypothetically.

2007-09-07 02:15:49 · 23 answers · asked by meagain 4

why do women stop their husband's from going out drinking with his buddy's? it's not like im looking for another women,

2007-09-07 01:58:07 · 6 answers · asked by akadave 3

I think it is a two way street, and the wife has needs and wants too but i don't think she should be allowed to refuse her husband.

2007-09-07 01:53:19 · 20 answers · asked by bb 1

My Great Aunt is trying to make my mom break up my fiance and I because she thinks its unhealthy b.c we basically live together. She wants me to wait til im 30 to get married and go travel and date random people that i dont want to be dating. what should i do.

2007-09-07 01:47:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

for 18yrs my hub says am boring in bed what can i do to pep things up

2007-09-07 01:31:11 · 31 answers · asked by astra 5

. uncle gave all his properties to her hand . she didn't safe guard it serveral time it had happen but not very big amount but she had done it. he has though wife we are bond we can't do anything will forgive her. this is the thrid time she did and very ,very ,very big amount .. they have three children., all three girls............ the thing is she is not telling what happen to all these money and properties not even a word when uncle ask his children also no answer ...only the last child is small.now they are saperated. he settled all her debits(it aBIG amount) he went and left her in her mothers place and told for 1 year you be with ur mother i will send money even with in that 1 year you should tell what happen to this sum of money if you tell the reason thats enough i will take you back and also he came to know that his frist daughter as an affair with a boy therefore he kept his only first daunghter in his favoured place after he go abroad she came n took the child

2007-09-07 01:04:46 · 4 answers · asked by babi 1