I opened the account when our daughter was born and stopped paying in when we divorced 7 years ago by which time there was £5500 in it.
We didn't tell our daughter about the account, it was to help her start Uni.
Now she's starting Uni and the time has come to give her the money my ex admits it's all gone.
I signed our house and all our bank accounts over to her, paid what the CSA said I should, and made additional voluntary payments when I could, but apparently that's not enough so she steals off our own daughter.
The bank say the only way she could've done it was by supplying a sample signature and then forging it.
I'm not sure what to do. Your thoughts please!
2007-09-07 03:43:02 · 24 answers · asked by Bum Gravy. 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
EaterofTartan....... Thanks, that is what I need to weigh up when I'm less angry!
My daughter just wants to get away to Uni. No wonder she chose one at the other end of the country.
2007-09-07 03:53:39 · update #1
Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to answer, you have helped restore my faith in humanity.
I am SO p!ssed off about this..........
2007-09-07 07:32:22 · update #2
I think you should forget about it. I know this will be a hard thing to do, but here's my reasoning.
1) The money is gone. You're not going to be able to get it back and you won't achieve anything by fighting about it.
2) Pursuing any form of legal action will only cause stress and upset in the household (I'm assuming your daughter is still living with her Mum?)
3) Your daughter may resent you for causing problems with your ex-wife.
If your daughter is old enough to go to Uni and she knows about this situation, you need to sit down and talk with her about it. See how she feels.
I'd also contact the bank to verify your signature to ensure your ex-wife can't gain access to any of your other finances using this same method.
Good luck.
2007-09-07 03:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
No, he should not have her name on his account. There's other ways to give his daughter support, like a debit card. I would feel deeply hurt and feel as though I wasn't even a close second best. I would feel as though maybe he should have stayed married to her, if he's going to do this and continue to support her. The daughter is 17, what happens when she turns 18 and the need to support her is gone? Will he still give his ex money? If he doesn't support you like he supports his ex-wife, I would say sit down and talk to him and make him come to an understanding of how this affects you. There's no need to have her on the account still. Run up some high bills and then he'll see how expensive it is to support two wifeys. A**!
2016-05-18 22:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by janita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This story gives women a bad name.
What right did she have to take it?
If you were both paying into it, you've lost it, but if the account was in your name then its THEFT& FRAUD, contact the bank
and the police and get a solicitor, kick her bum from where you live to other side of the country and back again .
Sorry to say this guys but this is grim reading if you are getting married soon 1 definate reason why joint accounts DO NOT WORK.
2007-09-07 15:56:37 · answer #3 · answered by Red,Green and Blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the account was set up to where you and your wife could make withdraws, then there is nothing you can do. The only way you could take a legal course of action would be if you had something specifically in writing that she was not to have access to the account. However, if she did not have access and she did in fact forge your name, then you definitely need to seek legal counsel. You've definitely got a case if that's what happened. What a crappy Mom.
2007-09-07 03:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
HI
I have come in on the end of this as you have already thanked people for answering your question,all i wanted to add was i can understand how you feel as i am a single dad ,anyway all i can say is you can't change what has happened so don't let your anger ruin what you and your daughter have it is worth more than money .
2007-09-07 11:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by andrew h 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SHAME on her. You can take legal action for her forging your signature and stealing from you.
That money was for your daughter and I know it was hard to save up the money but you are in the right state of mind to save for your child's future. Your a great man and your ex needs to paid for her actions. Good Luck.
I also have an account for my baby she is 9 months and I know it's hard to put your extra money in saving account or what ever your using for years to come . But in the long run WELL worth it. By the time my baby is 18 she should have 35,000 from me and more about 40,000 from her dad. all for school and that's not even enough.
2007-09-07 03:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by gia00601 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1.) if your daughter is old enough to go to UNI then she is old enough to sit down with you and discuss the situation. Let her know that it IS fraud and there are legal ramifications.
2.) If she decides that steps need to be taken, go to your bank. They will look into the withdrawals and what happened. They will help you with what needs to be done. It is their responsibility insure only the legal parties have access to the account. If your ex-wife's name was not on the account, they will assist you in pursuing the case.
2007-09-07 05:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by msbettyboop40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sue her. You have to in your daughter's interest. She robbed her help to uni. Shame on her.
2007-09-07 03:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by **** 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is a horrible person and now you have proof and your daughter knows. Let it go and let your ex deal with people know what she is.
2007-09-07 04:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get a good lawyer! She needs to repay your daughter with interest
2007-09-07 03:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Alissa 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋