Marriage & Divorce - 7 September 2007

We have been 3 yrs together. We were very happy the first 1.5 year after that he started to raise a company and work. All of a sudden everytime I try to get him in the mood to have sex, he rejects me. All the times he rejected me I was upset. Now I have changed my sweet mood and became a bitter woman and I know the reason if the lack of intercourse. Yesterday we set the fire and suddenly I recognize he made me love as animals do: It mean not touching or kissing just for satisfying himself. I was so disappointed and sad that I pushed him aside and then started a discussion: He told me a lot of things, that he is fat because of me, that I don't work up, that I don't know what to do with my life, that he is tired of me, that I am a ****. Today, we still are mad. I have the feeling he doesn't love me. People who say that don't feel love...right?

2007-09-07 13:59:27 · 35 answers · asked by Cristal Capsule 1

How do you deal with someone that is a workaholic? I feel like I'm raising the kids on my own. He works 60-80+hrs a week and when he's not at work he will sit on the couch and complain about being tired from work...until they call and then he has plenty of energy to go back. What do I tell the kids when they ask where Daddy is...again...and why he can't make soccer practice....again...Thanks for any help!

2007-09-07 13:56:49 · 14 answers · asked by SuVmOm 2

I've been married for almost going on 4 years, and now I think I want the divorce! My husband dosen't seem to take his family serious, or his job or responsibilties of being a man. I kicked him out of the house this past week, because he has been lying to me about where he has been at, he told me he was looking for work when really he was at his moms house doing things that I cant say and no he hasnt been with other women or men but lets just say illigal activities but he has tried to talk to other women behind my back some people say thats not cheating but his inttentions werent good. When I kicked him out he threatend me with taking my daughter with him, he always uses that against me, he has also hurt me alot in the past and I've alway take him back because I love him. Its been three long years (going on 4) with his lies (fake) promises. I really want to take him back for the 7th time (or more) but this time something tells me not to. Am I the wrong one? should we work things out?

2007-09-07 13:55:19 · 12 answers · asked by Raw1987 2

Is It Possible That Her Former Partner Can Sue Us For Adultery? BTW she has three kids, 14, 12, 5.

2007-09-07 13:52:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I care a lot about someone and we are both married. I am his friend but I am strongly attracted to him. I found out through a friend of his that he has strong emotions for me but he can't tell me because he is afraid of losing our friendship.

I went through a period of time I felt the same for him and he found out about it. Now he acts really werid towards me and if we are not joking around he get really nervous.

How do I draw the line when I see him to put my attraction aside so I won't get hurt again. Like I said I really value our friendship but I am afraid the worse scenario could happen.

2007-09-07 13:49:43 · 19 answers · asked by h 4

2007-09-07 13:48:38 · 16 answers · asked by genarodj 2

My wife cheated on me, and hid fer finances from me for the last 3 years. I tried to leave her about twice a year, but I fell for her crocodile tears. After I finally had the nuts to leave her, she's getting 18% of my retirement, and she's trying to get $1500 a month in alimony after leaving me $30K in debt. All I did was try to love and support her. I'm not perfect though, and this is just my side of the story, but really, I'm getting a bad deal. Why would she break my heart, take my money, and still try to make my life even more miserable when I finally leave? There's no way I can afford $1500 a month in alimony. I'll have to get a second job. I feel like marriage is an intitution designed to screw someone over. I truely hope all women aren't like this, and the next woman I'm stupid enough to marry understands why I want a prenup.

2007-09-07 13:43:36 · 25 answers · asked by TXboy 2

heard this from a game.

2007-09-07 13:42:17 · 13 answers · asked by TelecomsTowerGod 4

In a couple of weeks I have an appeal for the courts about a order of protection against me, that my boyfriend put against me( I just threatend to kick his ***)doesnt mean I wanted to hurt him. If I were going to hurt him I wouldnt have just threatened to kick his ***. I get really nerveous when I think about him, how do I calm myself down from thinking about us and what has happened and going to happen?

2007-09-07 13:36:51 · 5 answers · asked by valleygirl_1986 3

Divorcing my husband on grounds of adultery. Judge put him out of the marital home so he is renting a house for $1500 a month. He thinks this will mean there will be less money for me. Do his lifestyle choices affect the distribution of assets?

2007-09-07 13:28:04 · 4 answers · asked by Lesley K 2

2007-09-07 13:13:14 · 13 answers · asked by Staci 3

It's been almost a year. The thoughts of what happened haunt me daily. I will never forget the fact he left me for some b itch he worked with, then came crying back, but why can't it stop torturing me? I cry every single day. why did this have to happen? i can't accept this, but i don't want to leave. i cant talk to him. there are so many unanswered questions.why won't the thoughts go away? its almost like i am obsessed with it. why do i have to know what is going on in the bitches life? i hate her for ruining my family, but yet i need to see her live in misery, why do i feel the need to know what is going on in her life? when i want to forget about her? i feel so strange about it, but its like i have to know what is going on with her. ( i am refering to the coworker) i have so much hrut and anger. this hatred is tearing me apart. i have no one to turn to. everyone says forget it, well i wish i could. but this tortures me everyday and i cant control how i feel.

2007-09-07 12:54:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

everyone sd that i need to meet someone but how do you do that

2007-09-07 12:45:44 · 4 answers · asked by MISS D 1

My boyfriend & I are on what we are both hoping to be just a break. We lived together for the last almost 2 yrs. been together almost 3. We still get together, try to do things, but when something little upsets me, I get angry and say very mean things. I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions on just being content with what I have and know that I am lucky to be with him. I hate to say it but it seems to me I'm selfish when it comes to him. I just want to be more laid back, & realize that he loves me to death. Any thoughts, suggestions, experiences concerning anything like this would be appreciated. When we're together and happy, the world could not be better, but when things are bad... they can get really bad.. but it starts with me, getting so upset & freaking out. I'd just like to be able to keep the happiness alive & not get upset & dread when something doesn't go quite my way. Thanks for your input.

Any comments of demeaning or belittling nature will immediately be reported.

2007-09-07 12:44:22 · 3 answers · asked by angry & hateful, dunno why. 1

My husband and I have been married for a little over a year. The other night his ex calls and wishes him on their anniversary when they first met, he let her know it was not okay to call. The next day she calls again, of course I got on the phone can call her some names ***** , how can I get her off our backs, of course she is also married. Which obviously she is not happy considering she is still thinking about her ex.

2007-09-07 12:36:22 · 25 answers · asked by Flaca 1

Why do people put importance in Hillary being a forgiving wife? The Bible says adultry is grtounds for divorce. To tolerate his behavior certainly dont make her a very strong woman>

2007-09-07 12:33:01 · 16 answers · asked by Bob S 5

I have 2 kids age 1 1/2 and 6. The 6 year old has her "birth" father's last name and the 1 1/2 year old has mine(don't know who her birth father is or could be). How do I go about changing their last names when I change mine(get married)? The birth father of my 6 year old is not in her life, and would prob. sign whatever papers needed. But I don't want him to be able to "get out" of having to pay child support for her. Please help thanks.

2007-09-07 12:15:52 · 10 answers · asked by Katelynn & Melissa's Mommy 2

Your wife is there, she loves you and trusts you, she believes all your excuses from being late from work or traffic. What do you do to overcome the gulit. Do you ever feel like confessing?
How do you deal with it? Do you try to blame her for not being how you want her to be to help you deal with the guilt? Do you try to be nicer than usual to mislead her? What are your coping tecnques and have you ever gone close yo confessing..

2007-09-07 12:04:04 · 18 answers · asked by silver wings 4

ive been married to my husband for about 7 months now and we have a 5 month old son together. we had been dating for about ten monthe before we got married. well to get the meat of the story he doesnt ever kiss me or never wants to have sex anymore. i try and make out with him and get all touchy with him but then he says he has to got to the bathroom or that he's tired. and i always have to beg him for any kind of affection and there was one time when we were making out and i opened my eyes for a split second and he was looking at the tv at the girls on tv. and everytime we go somewhere he always stares and smiles at other girls. its not like i gained a lot of weight or anything because im pretty much the same size i was b4 i got pregnant so i dont know... im seriously really sad and i have no idea what to think anymore

2007-09-07 11:59:01 · 23 answers · asked by celcel27 2

If so, did the sex go out of your life? Or how do you manage to still be intimate? I need help! I feel without the intimacy that I'm being robbed and I'm considering a divorce. I love my spouse but I also have needs. What do you do? And don't tell me to get myself off. Did you end up divorcing? I feel like I'm living a lie, this isn't a marriage, it's being roommates. Please help.

2007-09-07 11:56:36 · 15 answers · asked by Amy 5

What kind of signs do you give your man when you are in the mood? without just telling him?

2007-09-07 11:50:29 · 19 answers · asked by mista mista 1

Can someone please help me with this my husband wants to go back to Egypt and leave me because he has not gotten his papers yets and it's been pending since Dec 19,2005 and it will be 2 year in Nov since we will be married and he gave me stupid reason why it's over his dick is to big he doesn't believe me anymore and he also tells me that he is to tired and wants to sleep he works 7 days a week and I told I don't want to lose him but he doesn't care and he won't tell me when he is going home he said once he goes he say won't say bye or anything can someone help me please.
well my parents and the rest of my family don't know I'm married to him is there any other way than a divorce and how much will it coast but I really don't want it to be over.

2007-09-07 11:49:34 · 11 answers · asked by Elizabeth h 2

My hubby jerks off to porn he only does it when im not there he says he has it on becuase he needs the noises and he says that he looks up at it and then pictures me and him doing what they are doin what do you think..is he feeding me sh** or tellin the truth and also do you guys spank it when you are stressed just to relax and is it possible for u to get off if u arent horny and not in the "mood"..

2007-09-07 11:43:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can someone please help me with this my husband wants to go back to Egypt and leave me because he has not gotten his papers yets and it's been pending since Dec 19,2005 and it will be 2 year in Nov since we will be married and he gave me stupid reason why it's over his dick is to big he doesn't believe me anymore and he also tells me that he is to tired and wants to sleep he works 7 days a week and I told I don't want to lose him but he doesn't care and he won't tell me when he is going home he said once he goes he say won't say bye or anything can someone help me please.

2007-09-07 11:21:24 · 21 answers · asked by Elizabeth h 2

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. We have been living together for a year. We are both in our mid-twenties and he just graduated college.

I am ready to get married and we have talked about it but nothing yet. How long were you dating before you got engaged?

2007-09-07 10:59:39 · 49 answers · asked by crystaldawn1315 1

My friends wife is very agressive in nature,yell's at him and even tried to hit him. The poor fellow tries to ignore such acts because he loves his children and wife too. She accepts her fault when normal but the friend feels, that this is effecting his kids psychologically.

2007-09-07 10:58:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Have you recently been through a seperation from either a spouse or a person who you lived with? What were some good coping skills and things you did to ease the transition?

2007-09-07 10:57:06 · 5 answers · asked by Alexandriagal 6

2007-09-07 10:35:09 · 17 answers · asked by cats 7

When a man closes his eyes to get an erection does this mean he is fantasizing about something else? This hasn't happened to me directly (although other things have). But, a friend of mine is torn. Her husband wants her to jerk him off while he hides his face in a pillow and shuts his eyes. Then when he is ready they do the deed without any foreplay for her. And within minutes its over.

She tells me that this is how sex goes 99% of the time. Can anyone shed some light on this matter?

btw, she is a model and has worked for Gap/Banana Republic, she's beautiful.

2007-09-07 10:31:48 · 11 answers · asked by lalalalalala 2

I'm not trying to be mean. But a man needs what a man needs. What can I do??

2007-09-07 10:03:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous