Marriage & Divorce - 7 September 2007

be patient , i am new to the sight. so in response to the response re: strip clubs and lap dances. I am dressing sexy, and am VERY available for ANYTHING!!!! I did viist the strip club the next night for 2 drinks then home just to satisfy my curiosty. I have been open to him about everything and anything. (within reason) I keep myself in shape, and try to always look good, have a good upbringing etc etc. question what makes a man do somthing like that? I have asked him point do you want out??? want to be single??? don't love me etc. no no no. what gives?

2007-09-07 07:44:29 · 13 answers · asked by gwens 1

Do you feel like you are a team? My husband and I think that it may make a marriege better if you approch it as a team. What do you think?
Do you Feel like a team?
Does it work for others?

2007-09-07 07:40:18 · 22 answers · asked by violet_selky 2

We were out one night and i notice something weird he was on his phone at the club! Then later that night i got his phone and read the text message that she loved him and if he was still there at the club. So that meant she was there that explains why he keeped leaving my side. The next day he promises threatens to kill him self because he knows he did wrong. He aslo said that girl was not worth loosing his family. So right now i am confused! I am trying hard right now to trust him. but it is hard. What should i do?

2007-09-07 07:36:25 · 52 answers · asked by angel806 1

2007-09-07 07:32:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

wow \
what a response. more info... I am sexy!!! I spend a lot of time at the gym keeping in shape, and at v.s. on sexy clothing. I never nag, (hardly) and am pretty easy going. I take care of everything at the house, and kids etc. plus have helped him build his career.!!!!!! I am hurt because I am always ready for sex (anything goes) and he is NOT, and fyi I did go to the strip joint ALOne the next night, i was sooooo p******!!! I could have been taken home by any number of men, ( did not of course,) left after 2 glasses of wine. but had to see for myself, we have gone to a strip club together and that is no biggie. I am more the "teacher" as far as the bedroom goes, I really think I could not do more for him at home beside run around nude, but with two young boys it not going to happen. thanks for all the advice

2007-09-07 07:31:39 · 3 answers · asked by gwens 1

I know a couple where the husband had an affair, then got back together with his wife and went to counseling. 6 years later he has another affair and has apparently fallen in love with women he has been seeing on the side. Would counseling work for this couple again when it didn't the first time?

2007-09-07 07:20:31 · 7 answers · asked by hmbuehler1 1

He hasn't said it... but I feel it... and it's been 4 months...I hope it's true and not because I want him too.... I love him, but I don't want to say it first.

2007-09-07 07:07:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK, this is very strange.

I work with two co-worker who are getting a divorce. The husband is my partner (at work nothing else). The wife filed for divorce so she can be with another man.

She is trying to get me to date her soon to be ex. I think she is trying to get on equal playing grounds when going in front of the judge. I don't have any feelings for the ex. expect as a friend. But Im worried she will try to get someone else to date him. Shes mad because I wont. Should I tell him of my suspicions?

2007-09-07 06:35:25 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

...at some point, after being married for years, meet someone else that they develop a crush or feelings for, or someone that they feel like they would have liked to date if they weren't married, even if that married person never acts on it? Anyone have personal experience with this and care to share--I'm very curious about this.

2007-09-07 06:24:32 · 29 answers · asked by The Lone Wolverine 7

Which is a better situation to be in between the two? What are the advantages of being married than just living together?

2007-09-07 06:17:53 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 months now. Things seem to be going ok with a few bumps in the road along the way. However, lately, she has been saying I LOVE YOU but not with enthusiasm, including sometimes when she says it on the phone so low I can’t hear her and have to ask what she said. Recently, and only because it was something I said in conversation that brought this up, she said she is going to start working later on Wednesdays starting in 2 weeks and trying to work a few hours extra each day during the week for extra money. Again, she didn’t volunteer this info. Now I wouldn’t think anything of this being that we have talked about getting a place in 5months when her lease is up and we could use the extra cash to support ourselves. However, she has a history of cheating, including her ex hubby. And I still suspect she talks to her other ex she cheated on him with, but she denies it. Even though she has text him in front of me.

2007-09-07 06:10:15 · 13 answers · asked by hero 1

I haven't seen him picking on us wemen today.

2007-09-07 06:09:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-07 06:08:31 · 12 answers · asked by momma6 1

they rub it your face like oohlala

2007-09-07 06:08:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi everybody, it's been a while since I came on.

I got married 5 months ago and my relationship went badly downhill after.

He no longer respects me, he talks to me like a child, tells me to "f***ing shut up", he wouldn't help me when I got sick (he told me it was not his responsibility to take care of me or help me in any way). He is drinking all the time. He says the most awful things to/ about me in front of his friends when we're out, and then says "it was meant to hurt you, a good joke should hurt your feelings, you have to get used to my sense of humour, I can do and say whatever I like". He's not interested in sex anymore and is very controlling - won't let me use my cellphone, turns up at my friends houses when I'm there.

But I remember the man I fell in love with, and I miss him. I want to leave but I'm scared of regretting it after. My family is telling me I should get out now, which adds to the confusion.

Please help.

2007-09-07 06:02:41 · 12 answers · asked by Jess*21* 1

He thinks she makes $35,000 but she actually makes $70,000. He pays $1,200 for child support and $1,200 for childcare, for their 3 kids. Their childcare is $1,800 a month and she is supposed to pay her parents $600 but doesn't, but claims she does to the courts and her ex. She is always bashing him, I don't know him and have never met him. I am a single mom who doesn't get support, I don't even want it. I think women like this give other women who really need it a bad name, making it hard to get the help they need. I really want to tell him that he needs to look closer at her finances. I know this is bad, but I wanted to know others opinions.

2007-09-07 06:02:14 · 12 answers · asked by CHA_CHA 2

myself When I was a kid, I wanted to be a teacher. In middle school, I wanted to be a writer. In high school, I wanted to be a nurse. Now I'm content staying at home with my daughter

2007-09-07 05:48:08 · 11 answers · asked by AUNTY 3

What would culture be like if everyone was forced to have sex with multiple partners instead of just one?

2007-09-07 04:49:53 · 25 answers · asked by Dominus 5

Cause all of a sudden, I feel like I'm at home with her!

(I feel like Im surrounded by a bunch of n a g g i n g wives!)

2007-09-07 04:44:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

ive been with my b/f for 3 years...i wanted him to be my fairytale...i thought he was the one...but now i see he isnt and it kills me becuase i have put so much love and time into this relationship...i feel like maybe if i keep trying it will be worth it i dont want to start over with someone else...no one else is him. how do i move on how do i let go someone i love so mm=uch someone who became my best friend. i feel empty without him but i know he wont give me what i want. its killing me...why does it have to be so hard. how do i know im doing the right thing?


the reasons are

1. he hasnet had a job in 10 months and hasent been trying to get one that hard.
2. he got a misdemenor (sorry spelling) and is putting off going to court to get it off his record.

his mom just died and im super close with his family, i feel horrible for leaving...he makes me smile and feel so good when things are good. i donno im lost

2007-09-07 04:27:58 · 27 answers · asked by lovely 3

A wife knows her husband has been having an affair for 1 1/2 years and is in love with his girlfriend. She also knows he isn't in love with her anymore and is staying because of the kids. What should they do about it?

2007-09-07 04:22:37 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are going to separate. We have no kids together and our property deals could be easily taken care of without lawyers, plus neither of us have enough money to get good lawyers. should this be an easy split? Need advice. plus is legal separation papers necessary without us having kids.

2007-09-07 04:22:21 · 7 answers · asked by missy j 2

We have been married 21 years and 7 months ago I found out that she had a physical affair 12 years ago and two emotional affairs in the last 2 years. The last one happening just last christmas. She has done everything on the outside to change including quitting her job and working with me. She is now active in our church and seems more spiritual now. Soon after she confessed everything she told me that she never really loved me our whole marriage but had just a warped type of love for me but that now she really does love me as long as I am acting happy and nice around her. She also discovered as we were in the first month after D day that she had been fondled for 2 years by a teenage boy when she was 4 and at 6 he raped her. And she lived in a home where love was never shown or any other emotion for that matter. Consequently her comfort zone is being distant with only light verbal interaction and only light physical interaction 1 or 2 days a week. My love language is physical.

2007-09-07 04:21:12 · 10 answers · asked by sfun42 1

should I date with many different girls or not, I just dont fall in love with girls and I dont have love relationship experiecne which damage my relationship. I am shalow and I like girl who looks like sharapova and girls who have sweet personality. When I Choose girl, I always think that I can like this girl forever or not and I want long term relationship. I dont want to be playboy.
I will not able to date well in the future when I find the girl I can love so stong. Also, It makes me feel loney and waste of my time without love, so should I just find a girl who are not even my type and start dating? maybe I could like the girl when I got to know her well.

2007-09-07 04:18:06 · 8 answers · asked by neuken 1

All of us women , can sense things !!!
We all have that special gift , it's called , Female intuition.
so what if you can sense that your husband is still very much in love with his ex , who left him many yours ago ?

2007-09-07 04:12:07 · 18 answers · asked by superwoman 1

My little brother got married about 18 months ago.She's 27,he's 33.His wife's absolutely gorgeous,extremely high maintenance and very career driven.All she cares about is looking good and making money.My brother is very family oriented and adores children.His wife on the other hand considers unborn children parasites and pregnancy something to be avoided at all cost.She has 5 nieces and nephews who she barely notices let alone spends time with yet spoils her 3 dogs rotten at every chance.She managed to get pregnant 3 times despite being on birth control pills and aborted all 3.She's desperately seeking a doctors to tie her tubes at her age and actually celebrates whenever she gets her period because it means she's not pregnant.I feel so bad for my brother and wish he'd leave her but he practically worships the ground she walks on and would rather walk through fire than leave her even if it means giving up the thing he wants most.What kind of woman would deny her husband children?

2007-09-07 04:11:04 · 66 answers · asked by Julianna 1

At least, I don't think I do. My fiance proposed to me and I said yes, because at the time, I did want to get married and start a family. A year and a half later, I still want to be with him, but I don't want to get married. My outlook on life has changed drastically, and now I don't want to get married or have children, ever. It's just not... me... anymore.

We live together, pay taxes, have insurance, and all other things that married couples do, except for the part about being "official." Am I wrong to not want to get married? I just don't see the point. Perhaps I am just trying to hold on to my independence, I don't know.

Or maybe I just don't want to make a commitment. But I have made a commitment to him, just a different one than marriage.

I've held off the marriage with the excuse of college, but I'm graduating soon with no more excuses to not get married. Any advice on how to handle the situation?

2007-09-07 04:08:19 · 20 answers · asked by coolchick86 2

i dont spell it right i means when someone overlook us if we got an problem that needs help.

2007-09-07 04:06:11 · 5 answers · asked by linda t 1

reduced? I am the custodial parent. He is unemployed and behind currently on support payments.

2007-09-07 04:03:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-07 04:02:54 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous