Will my husband ever cheating on me now that i cought him red handed texting another girl?

Question

We were out one night and i notice something weird he was on his phone at the club! Then later that night i got his phone and read the text message that she loved him and if he was still there at the club. So that meant she was there that explains why he keeped leaving my side. The next day he promises threatens to kill him self because he knows he did wrong. He aslo said that girl was not worth loosing his family. So right now i am confused! I am trying hard right now to trust him. but it is hard. What should i do?

Answer 1

hire a PI to trail him and take pictures of him doing the "big nasty" with the other chick. Then, hire a lawyer and sue him for everything he has.

And if he kills himself (he will not), then you can collect on the insurance. Just be sure that you have an airtight alibi as you will be the prime suspect in his death.

Answer 2

Lets put this into prospective. He not only is cheating on you he had the other chick up in the club while you were there and you ask if you should trust him. Then he says she is not worth losing his family over. If she wasn't worth losing his family over he wouldn't of had her up in the club where you could of easily found them. The threat of suicide was a mind game. I'm sure if he is bold enough to cheat on basically right under your nose he isn't gonna be stopping anytime soon. The other girl from the club probably isn't the only girl he has on the side. If you stay with this man then you deserve any heartbreak that might come your way. Don't be surprised in the future if you get a call from some chick saying she is having is baby. Don't let this man walk over you like that. He is treating you like some random ho and I'm sure you a good person who doesn't deserve that.

Answer 3

I could say that your husband is a pig, like the majority has stated, and be done with it. Still, there are two sides to every story. I don't know what your relationship is like...how you got together, how it was at first, etc, etc, but I do know that EVERYONE makes mistakes.
It sounds as though he wasn't trying to hide the fact that he was associating with someone else, which could mean that subconsciously he wanted to get caught. Most men are weak and if he has low self esteem or any childhood issues, he prolly craves attention. If you aren't being the loving, doting wife and someone else is showing him ALOT of attention, it makes it much easier to stray. I am not condoling what he did, just trying to make more sense out of it other than saying he's a liar and cheater.
The two of you should seek counseling together. Work on your marriage and work on learning to trust again. If you love him, forgiving will be easy....it's the forgetting that's hard, but in time it can be done. In the back of your mind you might always be a tad suspicious, but it pays all of us to be on our toes.......... a little. Remember when you first start seeing someone? What do you do? You work your butt off to keep them and show them how much you love and cherish them, that's what you do. You make them 1# priority, so that they have no reason to look for anyone else. If marriages could be like the first 6 months of a relationship, divorces would be unheard of. That's not to say that marriages should be perfect, because that's impossible. Just saying that in marriage we tend to take each other for granted and become more like friends and less like lovers.
As I said...EVERYONE makes mistakes, some more than others and some worse, but we are only human. If you love him and he is a good man.....things will get better and the two of you will work things out. Seek counseling and get started on you new and improved marriage.

Answer 4

Problem here, is he already has been there and done that which you fear. You do not write how old you and hubby are, so I cannot Analise any further than be care full of this situation.
Generally married men often feel that they do not count anymore in the chase. She is young and it his girl´s affection does his ego a world of good. I have no good news, this situation can easily spin out of control.. You have to step up a campaign to win your man back, because is already halfway out of the house. Fierce fights with him over this young woman?....I think, out of the question. He will only satisfy your demand verbally, and in secret think that you are a cow, and that he will be more care full in future so you will not find out...

Go to the hairdresser, by a new sexy dress and come on to him, unless you have had enough already. Because there is no guarantee he will not succumb to a younger woman for a second and a third and the next.,....
Only if you really want to save your marriage.

Answer 5

I personally am not married but I went threw the exact thing you did. My suggestion is that you would sit him down and have a conversation. Get the truth outta him. Maybe he's texting this other female because maybe there is something in your relationship that is lacking? If your husband threaten to kill himself over that stupid mistake...then you should take that as a warning sign. I dont think he would become suicidal. But alot of guys say that to make you feel reasured. But the best way to figure things out it to tuck the kids in bed if you have any and have a nice talk with him during the weekend. I hope things work out. Let me know how they get. =]

Answer 6

That's pretty disrespectful of him to have that girl there while you are there. You should definitely reevaluate your relationship and decide what's best for your family. He obviously didn't care enough to begin with when he was starting things with this girl. Maybe a trial separation so the two of you can decide what is best.

Also, suicide threats are just a dramatic means to get pitty. Don't fall for it. While I DO NOT condone suicide or take it lightly in any way, I've noticed that people tend to do that when they are attention seekers and get caught in the wrong. If he has to have another woman around, he definitely seeks attention.

Answer 7

Well it's one thing to be sorry for what you did and it's another to be sorry you got caught. It's hard to tell, and I don't know your history but it's your call. There is no way to garuntee faithfulness especially if he's already been cheating on you - and lied to you about it until you found out. He shouldn't threaten himself in order to keep you or his family though - you should probaby go to a marriage counselor to determine if your realationship can be saved and if either of you really wants to be in it. Otherwise you'll never trust him and he'll probably cheat again and you will both be miserable - there are ways to be sneakier about cheating and he'll find them...

Answer 8

Typical situation of cheating. He wants the cake (family) and eat it too (girlfriend).

This one is tough for me as I know I would dump a woman that cheated in a minute but many claim that with counseling and the rebuilding of trust that a family can get thru it.

You have to ask yourself some hard questions:

Can I deal with knowing this in the future?
Can I ever trust him again?
Will I use this against him whenever I get mad?
Can I forgive him and still be with him?
How will it affect our family?
Will it be better for the kids to stay together or not? (staying together because of kids is not always best for them as your attitude, demeanor and interaction with him also affect them)
Have you been even partly responsible for him looking elsewhere?
Is he normally selfish (putting himself before the family)?

There are many more that you could go thru and in the end it's really up to you.

Answer 9

It sounds like he has some serious issues with needing attention. Whether he has cheated on you physically, it sounds like he is cheating on you by lying and keeping this person a secret. And to threaten his own life is a cop-out. I really would advise that he get some help and that regardless of how much you love him, you need to look out for you and your children. If that means staying by his side while he takes the steps to fix himself, then so be it, but either way, it's his issues that need to be fixed.

Answer 10

Well, you certainly caught him red handed. It's up to you now whether to stay together, or move on. I don't subscribe to the once-a-cheater-always-a -cheater philosophy, so it could very well be just a one time mistake. If kids are involved, you should try to work through it. But you know your man better than anyone else, and you are the best judge of whether this is a one time thing, or whether it will continue to happen.

Answer 11

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