...at some point, after being married for years, meet someone else that they develop a crush or feelings for, or someone that they feel like they would have liked to date if they weren't married, even if that married person never acts on it? Anyone have personal experience with this and care to share--I'm very curious about this.
2007-09-07 06:24:32 · 29 answers · asked by The Lone Wolverine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope not me, because I don't look at other people like that. yes I am think someone is attractive looking, but to have actually feelings for them. Nope, because I love my husband.
2007-09-07 06:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by cris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Often, even when you are just married. Marriage does not make you blind or make you unattractive. You are still you. You still likes the same things and you still feel attracted to certain people. The only difference is that the person you marry has the best of all worlds and is your soul mate. Someone who fits in your spot perfectly in every way, the one you have found to be the perfect friend and lover all round. Your ability to knock back the others verifies this for you.
2007-09-07 13:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by copto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married people do in their life run into someone that they fallin love with and want to spend the rest of their life with. You c life is all about choices and the first choice is not always what is meant for us. But we make the decision and realize that they are the one. Anyone marrying in the teeanage years will soon figure this out. You need time to explore and enjoy life. Thats why the divorce rate is so high right now. So many people who made wrong decisons. Dont ever stay in a marriage if you are not happy. Life is to short not to be happy.
2007-09-07 13:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm willing to bet that at different times, we all feel curiosity about someone other than our spouse. Sometimes it's a person whose company we enjoy, and we might wonder what would have been possible if we had met under different circumstances. Other times, it can be a celebrity whom we find attractive. Then again, it can be someone whom you would never consider a serious relationship with (even if you were single), and yet, there's an undeniable "chemistry" that exists between you. I think, everyone has experienced it to some degree at one point or another.
2007-09-07 13:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 34 years, and believe me, you will get little "what if" crushes. But the reality is, if you really love your spouse, and believe in your vows, it will never go any further. Do not overtly flirt with anyone. The best fun in flirtation is when you unknowingly do it, notice the effect, and still walk away. Life is made up of little "what ifs", people do it about friends, planning families, playing the lottery, etc., it's also called daydreaming, and as long as it stays in yourself, there is no harm in it. Right now I am mentally spending the lottery I'm going to win tonight.
2007-09-07 13:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not odd to wonder or be curious or fantasize when married or in a long term committed relationship of any kind...that's quite normal and as long as it all just stays in your head, quite fine. Nobody should expect you to ignore all other people simply because you are married...it's human nature to wonder, even if we are happy with our relationship, what we missed by not making a different choice.
Some couples resolve that issue by having an open marriage or being part of an alternative lifestyle (like swinging) so they can satisfy their desire for variety, but still have the loving relationship they cherish with their chosen partner.
2007-09-07 13:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, i believe that the person you are crushing on probably has a personal trait that is lacking in your significant other.... maybe humor, or charm, or just plain old manners....
i believe that you marry for love but there's no such thing as build a perfect man/woman....
dont ever act on it, but i feel its natural at some point in a relationship to feel this way...
are you genuinely happy in your relationship or do wish for something more?.... there are some characteristics that some people will never possess....
my fiancee does not make me laugh the way my best friend justin does.... but im marrying my fiancee for entirely different reasons.....
2007-09-07 13:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by russiansgirl5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a natural thing. It's kind of like an infatuation. If you truely love the one your with you know the grass isn't greener necessarily. It's fun to think, wonder. I think you have the mindset that things happen for a reason and if you were meant to be with someone else than somehow, someway it will or would.
2007-09-07 13:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course...it all depends on how you react to those feelings and thoughts that really matter. it is only natural to have feelings like these, it means you are human. It is a little depressing to not be able to follow through with or express them, but that is part of being married.
2007-09-07 13:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure I think crushing or finding someone attractive even if you are married are natural. its a good feeling, it defines human feelings, we live and breath the same air, we are not dead, this just proves that we are alive and not desensitized. Its not your feeling, but your actions that define cheating. But then you cannot obsess about your feeling, cause that will cause you to do things that are not right. Its ok to acknowledge the feeling and better to let it go.
2007-09-07 13:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there ever temptation to break your VOWS? of course there is. Do you act on it, well if you really beleive you are married, no you don't, that is the purpose of the vows. You promise to forsake all others. So when this happens it is your job to FORSAKE and honor your vows to your spouse. If you can not do this, you should never be married in the first place.
2007-09-07 13:41:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋