He thinks she makes $35,000 but she actually makes $70,000. He pays $1,200 for child support and $1,200 for childcare, for their 3 kids. Their childcare is $1,800 a month and she is supposed to pay her parents $600 but doesn't, but claims she does to the courts and her ex. She is always bashing him, I don't know him and have never met him. I am a single mom who doesn't get support, I don't even want it. I think women like this give other women who really need it a bad name, making it hard to get the help they need. I really want to tell him that he needs to look closer at her finances. I know this is bad, but I wanted to know others opinions.
2007-09-07 06:02:14 · 12 answers · asked by CHA_CHA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
FYI - I don't want child support, this has nothing to do with jealousy, I make more that she does. I just hear about it all the time. Lately she has been bitching that he wants to lower the childcare payments and she I pissed. I am just sick of hearing about it. Her parents watch her kids, she is taking advatage of them too. I wouldn't care, but I just hear about to too often. I know a ton of women that would love to get support, that make very little money, then I see her, and she makes $70,000 and it's just sad.
2007-09-07 06:36:30 · update #1
Go a head and tell. Send him a letter. Tell him what is going on. ask him to talk to his lawyer about this. Stay away from her. woman that bash me are not much you do not need some like that in your life you sound like a great lady.Maybe look him up might make great husband
2007-09-07 06:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much her children get in child support from their father has nothing to do with their mother's income. Their child support is calculated from HIS income not her's. The child is entitled to be supported by both parents...If YOU don't want child support fine...but don't forget your child will one day want to go to college and tuition isn't getting any cheaper and neither are the costs of books. If I had the means to support both myself and my child I'd simply put the child support payments into an account for my child's later years either to pay for college, or to purchase a car or even a home if she wanted. Child support isn't for the support of the custodial parent...it is for the CHILD. I think that's where you're getting mixed up...and if I were you I'd butt out of other people's personal finances...it can get you into trouble, especially at work.
2007-09-07 19:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to worry about getting child support for your kids, instead of minding another woman's business. Look at your own finances and ask yourself why you let a man walk around without paying for his child. You have a lot of nerve, talking about somebody else's life, when yours is so messed up.
2007-09-07 06:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Courts do not go by hear say they looked at both incomes, pay stubs, W-2's ect. As far as babysitting they look at actual proof of payment to a sitter i.e. cashed checks ect. You need to mind your own business if you don't know her husband why do you care. How do you know what her income is at most places of employment people are not allowed to discuss their pay or it could result in termination. Tell her you don't want to hear about her problems. My question do you like drama?
2007-09-07 07:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by rhonda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...being a single parent, you have enough time to worry about someone else's life? hmmmm....maybe we should take lessons from you to create more time...I of course would use that time to pamper myself or learn a new hobby or better yet spend it teaching and learning with my child, instead of being up in some one else's business.
I don't condone her actions by any means...but its not your place.
2007-09-07 06:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the people who say mind your business. There wrong because she will get caught when he revisits her in court. Tax returns are public domain. He has to go back to court when he is so broke he can't afford to live. Believe me its in the best interests of the kids to let her get caught now while she can fix it without being charged for falsifying court documents and perjury.
2007-09-07 07:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him and ask him to set up a date with the courts so you can speak up.
2007-09-07 06:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business.
If this co worker is a friend, you could tell her that you are judging her to be unethical.. but it's not your business to straighten it out.
2007-09-07 06:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by Bentley 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it'd be better if you did'nt get involved. Don't create problems for yourself. Sooner or later it'll all come out..
2007-09-07 06:23:29 · answer #9 · answered by $$$$$$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its any of your bizzness. so stay out of it. her making more has nothing to do with others getting more its what he makes. dont be mad u have a dead beat. not trying to be rude but seriously dont you have enough going on in your life to worrie about hers I could see if it was family
2007-09-07 06:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by bricegirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋