I know a couple where the husband had an affair, then got back together with his wife and went to counseling. 6 years later he has another affair and has apparently fallen in love with women he has been seeing on the side. Would counseling work for this couple again when it didn't the first time?
2007-09-07 07:20:31 · 7 answers · asked by hmbuehler1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage counseling does work when both partners want the relationship to work, and are willing to change. In the case you cited, I would say no, it won't work. If the guy is in love with the other woman, the marriage is doomed. The best hope for this couple is for both of them to get individual counseling.
2007-09-07 07:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by mt75689 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is like getting advice from an outside party that won't judge. It's up to the couple to take that advice and actually use it. The counseling may have 'worked' the first time, but the man has no self control and that has NOTHING to do with the counseling.
2007-09-07 14:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been through both marriage and counseling, I have found counseling only helps you verbalize what you think and feel. For some, this is helpful. Counseling rarely helps anything but feelings, the real problems we must solve on our own. Good luck!
2007-09-07 14:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by Cecil n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling isn't going to solve their problems if the couple isn't willing to REALLY work on things together. First of all, I'd staple the dude's pants on so he can't get any bright ideas. LOL!
Marriage isn't easy, you have to fight with every ounce of energy you have. It'd be really easy to say the husband stopped fighting, but most people don't simply cheat because they're jerks - they cheat for more personal reasons.
Counseling can only help as much as the couples let it help them!
2007-09-07 14:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it helps if both people are serious about the marriage. This guy isn't serious about his. My ex wife wasn't either. I still went to the counselling and worked really hard. It was huge help to me in handling the breakup and divorce, because she made things very difficult.
2007-09-07 14:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling can help some couples that are willing to stick with the program but for this couple I don't think so
2007-09-07 14:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i would not take a cheater back,,,But counciling does work if the situation were different
2007-09-07 14:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋