2007-09-07 07:32:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You remind your partner assertively (not aggressively) that a relationship is a two-way street, and that you desire satisfaction. Don't just "complain" though, state specific things he can do that would satisfy you. Be both clear and non-judgmental, and if your partner has any investment in the relationship at all, he will heed your words.
(What's with "dump him" by the person above??? I can't figure out why people consider relationships so disposable these days. When you say, "partner" I assume you mean that even though you're not married, the relationship is important enough to expend some effort on.)
2007-09-07 07:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your situation, it's a tough one. When you say satisfying, I assume you mean sexually. If this is the case, it is a touchy subject that could potentially cause major self-esteem problems within your husband. Can you pin-point a time that you started feeling this way? Are there things he does that turns you off? Are there things he does wrong or doesn't do enough of? Is there someone else you are thinking about or are you depressed? Try to figure out when and why this has happened. Next, try to come up with possible solutions of how to make it better between the two of you. You might be surprised to find out that he is not satisfied anymore either (Remember the Pina Colada song?). Find a way to approach him with suggestions of things that would help you feel different, but try to avoid placing blame or telling him he is doing something wrong.
2007-09-07 14:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by Topless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, figure out how he is not satisfying u anymore. does he just not try? does he do the same things he always done, but they just don't work for u anymore? if it's the second one, u need to COMMUNICATE with him. tell him what u like and what u want him to do. take charge every once in a while. there are lots of things u can do, u just have to communicate and experiment a little.
2007-09-07 14:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kristabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married, you sit down and have a heart to heart talk with them. Wouldn't hurt to talk to them even if they are just a boyfriend.
Some young guys forget that being satisfied is a two way street. The best thing two people can do is talk out a problem.
When you stop talking, divorce or break ups are common. If you really care for him, Talk to him!!
2007-09-07 14:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by bigmikejones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think to tell him that he's not satisfying you would only hurt his ego....make suggestions, tell what you'd like him to do to you, tell him in the heat of the moment in your sexiest voice, and he'll be so turned on by you telling him what you want he'll jump to please you then when he does satisfy you, you go in for the kill give him the best satisfaction he's ever had and he'll be more likely to do whatever it was that he did to you to get him in this position...goodluck.....if all else fails ask him to bring home toys
2007-09-07 14:48:05 · answer #5 · answered by HisPrincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that he's not satisfying you and if he doesn't do something about it you will. Give him a chance to turn it around, and if he doesn't, you know what you need to do.
2007-09-07 14:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Sorry to sound so obvious but talk with him/her. Communication is the key. Explain how you feel, find out what he is feeling. Add spice toys, fantasy and roll playing. Let your mind wander :)
2007-09-07 14:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by StarchIT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him or get a lover
2007-09-07 22:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin,Honestly but gently ! Then tell him the way you would like it done !
2007-09-07 14:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet the nakedman at the sauna.
2007-09-07 14:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋