be patient , i am new to the sight. so in response to the response re: strip clubs and lap dances. I am dressing sexy, and am VERY available for ANYTHING!!!! I did viist the strip club the next night for 2 drinks then home just to satisfy my curiosty. I have been open to him about everything and anything. (within reason) I keep myself in shape, and try to always look good, have a good upbringing etc etc. question what makes a man do somthing like that? I have asked him point do you want out??? want to be single??? don't love me etc. no no no. what gives?
2007-09-07 07:44:29 · 13 answers · asked by gwens 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is an old saying: Treat a whore like a lady and a lady like a whore.
Women who work at strip joints are nothing but money grubbing whores. Perhaps you should start acting more like one of them for him to appreciate you.
Personally, I would move out/kick him out, and take him for all he's worth. No man is worth the hassle of a whore hopper.
2007-09-07 07:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Christmas Light Guy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart, you just don't understand the male psyche. It has nothing to do with you or any unsatisfactory conditions that he has with you. It is simple and plain that most men like to look at naked women, and different ones. If he was married to one of those strippers who would still frequent a strip club. I am so pleased to hear that you were open enough and willing to go to a strip club yourself. Why don't you go to a male review by yourself, and see how he feels about it. That may open his eyes and he may at least cut back on it. You may actually have a good time there too. Take some friends and make it a girls night out. If you two love and trust each other then there is nothing to worry about, and if you don't then it may come to a head where you can talk about it. It is a hard road to travel, but if it is the only road that leads to where you want to go then that is the way.
2007-09-07 08:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, you married an addict --- porn addict, strip club addict, it has nothing to do with you... But something you need to know about addicts --- they are already in a relationship, it just never will be with you, or any other lady for very long... Addictions are never curable, are only sometime successfully treatable... Even AA will tell you that their cure rate is abysmal. It's a personality defect... like telling a person 6'5", "don't be tall".
Now you have to decide if you wish to remain number two in this guy's life. It won't get better, sweetie, sorry. If you married him, you married a man with a serious problem...
2007-09-07 08:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does NOT appreciate you. He's doing whatever he wants because he knows he can. Some men are just pigs. There is no reason for a guy with a loving, terrific woman to be running around to bars or strip clubs all the time. He is looking to get lucky or may already have with someone else. You put yourself in danger when you stay with someone like that. Herpes, AIDS, HIV, Hepatitis, etc. these are all things you need to think about. Find a guy who appreciates you and wants you to be their one and only stripper pole girl. He's not worth your time.
2007-09-07 08:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Howie H 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
first of all, you need to know that if you click on the pencil below your question you can add comments. This way you wont have to keep using pts to ask a new question.
Second, maybe you are to perfect, maybe you are totally in control of yourself and your family, and everything else you need to be in control of. And maybe, just maybe he feels like he always has to give 110% trying to keep up to that perfection. Don't take that in a mean way, but I am thinking that he just needs time to let his testerone flow and be a, well just be a man, without having to compete with you.
I know it sounds nuts, but I think I am pretty good at taking care of myself, my home, and my family. But it seems when my husband is the most intimate with me, when I feel the strongest connection is on the days when I say I don't feeling doing it anymore, lets blow off the dishes, the healthy eating, the responsibilities and order a pizza and sit in the hot tub all day.
It gives him permission to let down his guard also.
Try it, and good luck
2007-09-07 08:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you 2 are serious, he doesn't need to go to places like that unless you are there with him having fun too. The same goes for you women who like to go to clubs. There is no place for women to go by themselves or w/ friends to clubs if they are serious with someone else.
The issue would be different if you have an understanding. But clearly you don't like him going to these places and you should let him know. If he refuses to listen or at least find a compromise, then you need to think about yourself and find someone that can appreciate a woman that likes to look good for her man.
2007-09-07 08:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by Fred Head 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are men!! Some LOVE the strip club and thats just what they do. You either have to deal or keep it moving. If you have not tried this (since you are open), go to the strip club with him and interact as well. Buy him a lap dance while you seat there and watch and have him do the same......TRUST, it can be so HOT!!! Its something you dont have to do everytime he wants to go, but ever now and again.
I acutally went with my boss and he bought me a lap dance and I was so turned on and hot afterwards......I went straight home to see my man......Good Luck!!!
2007-09-07 07:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not ALL men hang out at strip clubs.....if you aren't happy with him going you should say something......gawking at other women isn't a "right"......he is married to you....let those bimbos do his laundry, cook his meals, clean his house and raise his kids then if they are so damn important to him! Honestly!
"Howie" above me is a man and gave you the answer....he is right!!!!
2007-09-07 08:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like looking at naked women. It's why they like strip clubs and porn, and why they will continue to like these things even if they are having regular orgies with the entire cast of Desperate Housewives. It's not the big mystery women seem to think it is. Porn makes our ***** hard. Strip clubs make our ***** hard. We like it when our ***** are hard. End of story.
It does not mean he does not love you, or that he does not want to be with you, or that you are not sexy enough. It has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. Stop trying to personalize this, you will only make both of you miserable.
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