OK, this is very strange.
I work with two co-worker who are getting a divorce. The husband is my partner (at work nothing else). The wife filed for divorce so she can be with another man.
She is trying to get me to date her soon to be ex. I think she is trying to get on equal playing grounds when going in front of the judge. I don't have any feelings for the ex. expect as a friend. But Im worried she will try to get someone else to date him. Shes mad because I wont. Should I tell him of my suspicions?
2007-09-07 06:35:25 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, stay out of it. This has nothing to do with you. Leave business as business. Outside of work this means nothing to you. Why bring on all that stress? You dont know how this is going to fall back on you. Hear no evil, speak no evil.
2007-09-07 06:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, the messenger always gets shot. If you say something to him he is going to tell her what you've said and come back to you angry. He might even get angry with you-Why? because you know something about his soon-to-be ex wife and he didn't see it coming. He might apologize after calming down, but then he might not. Stay out of it. Worse comes to worse slip him an anonymous note with the information so that at least, he'll be aware of any women who approach him before the divorce is final and he can proceed from there.
2007-09-14 05:31:03 · answer #2 · answered by Maggirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get involved. You did the right thing by not going out with him just because she wanted you to. If you tell him, she's really going to be mad at you. She'll get over that other thing. And she may want you to go out with her husband so that it will make the divorce easier for him. In other words, if he's with you, he won't feel a sense of loss.
2007-09-15 06:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by lawstudntbynite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason to tell him. All you have to do is keep out of it. She doesn't get her way, you don't have to do anything you don't want to. And if you were wrong in the first place then you might be causing a lot more trouble for an already bad situation.
2007-09-14 12:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by SpeedyGonz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell him. If they are equally your friends then you should tell him and let her know that you do not want to be involved in their relationship. I would get them together and bring everything out into the open so there won't be any secrets and the woman will leave you alone.
2007-09-11 11:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by dmoore2518 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely, in private and confidentially. Though it goes on everyday, no one should be treated like a fool. Shame on her for thinking she could get away with this. Be up front and honest with her ex, about what you think. Good luck.
2007-09-14 07:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by Only In Dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to look out for yourself first.
If you two are friends let him know your concerns and let him
know you don't want to be involved in a messy divorce.
If he can see your point he will understand and will honor
your request and after all is said and done you can still be
friends.
If not, he wasn't a friend any way.
Good Luck!
2007-09-15 02:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by ittybitty1962 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would stay out of it, I don't know what state you all ive in but if it's like the state of CT which is a "NO Fault" state when it comes to divorce it dosen't matter if he/she is dating or who was cheating.
2007-09-14 09:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by saving grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell him your suspicions. If you are a friend and/or a partner in business, it is the right thing to do. This is not strange, it is downright dirty.
2007-09-14 22:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he has every right to know what his soon-to-be ex is up to and you need to let her know that you do not appreciate her putting you in the middle of her personal mess.
2007-09-12 17:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋