If so, did the sex go out of your life? Or how do you manage to still be intimate? I need help! I feel without the intimacy that I'm being robbed and I'm considering a divorce. I love my spouse but I also have needs. What do you do? And don't tell me to get myself off. Did you end up divorcing? I feel like I'm living a lie, this isn't a marriage, it's being roommates. Please help.
2007-09-07 11:56:36 · 15 answers · asked by Amy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please hang in there! I am 32, my wife is 35. She has RSD - Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy. What is happining is her brain is telling her that there is a problem with her legs, (from the knee down), when physically, nothing is wrong!
It is very painful. Through patience, understanding, and some limited posisitions, we are sill active. Not as active as before, but we get by pretty well.
The best advise I can give is talk with your spouse. Find out WHAT hurts, and see if you can compinsate. I wish you all the luck in the world!
2007-09-07 12:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by SARswimmer95 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think we are the most spoiled and selfish people known to man. When you married him, I bet you never thought that you would have to be his caretaker. Well, as mature acting people, before we get married, we have to think about all of these things. Not only is marriage good for sex, but it is for people that has bonded. I'm not here to say that you are not to have wants, but it's not a NEED. I say that because, if you started to have the change of life and began to go through the part where you didn't and couldn't bring yourself to have sex with him. Would you want him to leave you? Or would you then pull the '' better or worst card '' on him? What lie are you suppose to be living? He is still your husband and not your roommate. I'm not clear on it being a lie that you feel like you are living. If you think that marriage is all about sex and not the well being of the other person, then you are the one in the lie. Good luck yo you, I just hope that nothing life changing never happen to you and you have the person that suppose to love you want to walk out on you. Where is your self control?
2007-09-15 11:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you promise to Love,Honor and Obey in sickness and in health? Your poor spouse, to be sick and be dumped by a selfish,horny spouse.Why do think you are being robbed? What if you were the sick spouse? who will take care of you when your spouse dumps you because they want sex? You are a self centered person.Do you think this is being done to you? How would you feel laying there and being dumped?You DO-NOT love this person.How can you even say that you do. Go,take care of your vows you took when you married.Be better than an animal put sex on the back burner until your spouse is healthy again.
2007-09-14 21:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 03:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cared for my husband after a severe traffic accident. Then he got cancer. I was ready to leave him just before the accident but stayed to care for him. We developed a wonderful relationship because we became very close and a lot of outside factors that had caused problems in the relationship before didn't matter any more. We had no sex life though. I look back now and really cherish that time. We were both 45.
My friend's husband suddenly got a brain disease caused by a bacteria. She stayed for many years - he was like a child - but eventually had to give up on the relationship. It took her a couple of years to deal with the guilt and move on but she has done and is now in another loving relationship. She was 35.
Each to his own. You are the only one who can make the decision. You are entitled to a happy life. Good luck..
2007-09-11 15:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, it is still a marriage. Yes, You can be intimate without sex. No, I have not been there, done that, but I know that God makes provisions for couples in your situation. Look for them. For better or for worse... this is one of those situations that fall under worse, but you have a choice that is alloted for you and that choice is JOY. Find the joy in your life. I know it is there for you, sweet child. Remain faithful to your spouse.
2007-09-14 14:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by bamagirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im gonna try and explain this for you my mother became a caretaker for my dad and they had no sex ! and when youre married youre their through thick and thin through rough times and good times and sex isnt everything in a marriage ! my parents were married for 41 years before my dad passed 3 years ago and they loved each other very much and she misses him every day you dont walk out on youre partner just because their having trying times youre supposed to be their for each other !
2007-09-07 12:05:02 · answer #7 · answered by foxy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would have to depend on the needs of the person being cared for and the caretaker. Wouldn't you think?
2007-09-13 06:32:32 · answer #8 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its difficult but please try to hang in there. talk to your spouse, there are so many ways to be physically intimate... look at this as an opportunity to get creative.find out what works for you guys, do this by exploring. give it the best effort you can, show enthusiasm, and be encouraging to your spouse... you may be pleasently surprised
2007-09-13 17:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by msmikki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have become a care taker to my husband David. He is blind and his world is me. The sex life has gotten better! He is very romantic. He knows I work hard and lets me know I'm loved and appreciated. I have proof the sex is wonderful is I'm pregnant again this time with quads. First pregnancy triplets!
2007-09-14 13:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by SNAKEDOG 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋