if your wife was paranoid that you were cheating on her, but you were absolutely innocent, what would you do?

Answer 1

WHY NOW? that's the question I'd be asking....what has changed recently to make her more insecure? Try to figure that out and then do everything in your power to reassure her and be an open book. After a while, with her having access to everything, your whereabouts, email etc...if she's still paranoid with all the proof showing otherwise, then I would let her know that her behavior is going to be the thing that pushes you away, and suggest counseling.

Answer 2

I've made this mistake with my husband before, and I can tell you why some women do it. With my husband, it was different. I caught him cheating with another female before we got married, plus he was somewhat of a pornography fan at the time, even though I did everything sexually for him he could possibly want. My later suspicions, however, came from the constant reflection of my past relationships. I had been cheated on a lot before him, so already I had little trust in him in that area, which was fault of my own. When a woman reflects her past and studies her present partner, she sees certain characteristics that may start to scare her and she will suspect the worst. The best thing you can do is show her that you have absolutely NOTHING to hide, show her that you love her and that you care, lots of affection too. This may not be her fault at all, so you have to have a bit of understanding when dealing with a problem like this. Don't just abandon her or treat her like she's crazy, it may get even worse. Trust her instincts as well as your own. Try sitting her down in a comfortable place for both of you, where you are completely alone, get a cup of coffee and a snack, and try to tackle this problem head-on. Ask her WHY she feels this way, what are you doing that makes it seem as though you are cheating, and what you can do to prove to her that you're not. If it's deeper than that, and she has serious issues with her own past or self esteem, ask her what you can do to help balance it out and show her what she means to you so she can put her trust into you again. Just friendly advice from someone who's been there.

Answer 3

Somehow I don't get the feeling that you're sharing the entire story with us. What are you leaving out that might seem incriminating? Most people don't suddenly become paranoid and accuse others of cheating without reason.
If you can't even be honest with a bunch of strangers on Y/A, then how are we to expect that you haven't also been lying to your wife? HONESTY IS ALWAYS THE BEST POLICY cuz karma is real and it'll get you very badly

Answer 4

My first question would be does she have a reason not to trust you? If the two of you have trust issues those can last a long time. Sometimes a partner may be paranoid if she herself is doing the bad behavior. I think the two of you should look into counseling to figure out the reasons behind it and get through it.

Answer 5

tough one. Hard to keep having to prove yourself over and over again.
perhaps a conversation on *why* she is paranoid? Did she think she saw something or heard something that made her suspicious? Is she lacking in her own self confidence>
Sometimes people put on behaviours that they themselves have taken part in... so... maybe she cheated and thinks because she did - you did too? That's a nasty thought... but....
In the end... if you're not doing anything wrong, then she has to gt counselling to figure out what HER problem is...

good luck!

Answer 6

I had the same sort of situation happen to me. I dated this guy Richie for year and toward the end of our relationship he accused me of cheating even though I had never given him a reason to even suspect that I was cheating on him. I told him how my mom had cheated on my dad and I saw how much pain he had gone through and the fact that my mom had cheated in the worse way with her sister's husband to be and father of 2 of her 3 boys. It was a nightmare whenever he would get drunk he would accuse me of cheating again. I honestly don't know what his problem was...I couldn't take it anymore and our relationship ended about 2 wks ago. Alot of my friends have told me that maybe he was cheating on me and didn't know how to deal with what he'd done...who knows. Plus before we started going out he had a relationship with a woman for 4 years, had 2 kids with her and she was constantly unfaithful to him...so I think he had a lot of trust issues too!
Good luck and sorry I don't have a good answer for you.

Answer 7

If your having trouble in your marriage and your doing things that you haven't been doing before then that's why she thinks your cheating. Give her any info and go to counselling. She kind of sounds insecure for some reason.

Answer 8

Call her bluff, sort of speaking. Tell her to file for divorce then if she doesnt believe you, based on infidelity but tell her she will need proof and you would like to see her evidence as you will in court anyway. Sort of put up or shut up type of thing. Tell her if she can prove it,youll happily sign the divorce papers with no trouble

Answer 9

It depends, some women are in touch with their whispers from heaven. If you are not cheating then you are not showing her what she wants to see or feel about, Cheating is usually involved when woman feel that way. Start to romance her again, spend more time with her. Tell her she is beautiful, she looks really good in that outfit. Please recogize her hair.

Answer 10

give her all your passwords and keys (voicemail, office if you have one, etc). But make sure she does the same for you. If she is still insane about it, you need to get counseling to help her with her insecurity issues.