My wife cheated on me, and hid fer finances from me for the last 3 years. I tried to leave her about twice a year, but I fell for her crocodile tears. After I finally had the nuts to leave her, she's getting 18% of my retirement, and she's trying to get $1500 a month in alimony after leaving me $30K in debt. All I did was try to love and support her. I'm not perfect though, and this is just my side of the story, but really, I'm getting a bad deal. Why would she break my heart, take my money, and still try to make my life even more miserable when I finally leave? There's no way I can afford $1500 a month in alimony. I'll have to get a second job. I feel like marriage is an intitution designed to screw someone over. I truely hope all women aren't like this, and the next woman I'm stupid enough to marry understands why I want a prenup.
2007-09-07 13:43:36 · 25 answers · asked by TXboy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
18% of your pension isn't too bad... it could be worse. Get yourself a decent lawyer and get him working hard for you.
Not all women are greedy this way. Most of us want our independence after a bad marriage. If you're honest about your finances, then any one will see what you can and can't afford. I would suggest a limit on HOW long you support your ex as well. Child support is separate from alimony. If you have kids you don't need them to suffer and you can put riders on money that's intended for kids well being rather than mom's needs.
She needs to get a job. If she doesn't have an education and needs to go to school that can be part of the deal. A good lawyer knows this stuff.. Pay for it and get good advice and support.
2007-09-07 13:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by teritaur 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The great thing about a divorce settlement is that you have to AGREE to it. She could ask for your entire paycheck, but that doesn't mean you have to give it to her.
She wants 18% of your retirement, tell her to take HALF your debt. Screw the alimony. This will surely go to arbitration, play it smart and she won't get away with it.
The other thing you could do is just keep handing your lawyer money - the person who runs out of money first is always the loser.
2007-09-07 20:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
She must have had a good lawyer,some of those guys strive to ruin you,I seen cases where x wives didnt want anything but these up holders of courts have a way of convincing people that they should get everything that they can get and if you dont have as good of a lawyer the courts will up hold your x .I was always under the immpression that all money and valuables were to split 50/50 ,but it never seems to work out that way,oh yea I have also seen men who get the better lawyer get the same results.Not all men and women go to these outrages requests their are a lot who just want a divorce and want to get on with their lives.
2007-09-07 20:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by mr.mcscrofe 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not all women are like that, youre wife is a ***** just like there are women that treat their husbands like crap there are men that do the same thing. Move on and dont let her get all your money!!! Why the heck does she want all that from you, if she cheated on you and treated you like trash when all you ever did was love her, why does she want you $$ now?? God has a plan for everyone and he sees everything she will get a taste of her own medicine soon.
2007-09-07 20:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by Bambina84 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is a greedy wh0re. Not ALL of us are like this...but you know that saying...hell has no fury like a woman scorn. Even if the woman scorn is the one who made all of the mistakes...and is acting like a child.
If you have proof that she cheated on you it'd help out your side of the story a lot....my advice to you...get a good lawyer. Would you rather make pay a lawyer? Or a greedy ex spouse who wants to suck you dry? Why is she getting your retirement? That's complete BS!
Best of wishes to you! God bless.
2007-09-07 20:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by Brittany 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There are some states that divorcees don't have to pay alimony, I know because one of my ex move to Texas (one of those states) months before he filed for divorce from her second wife.
It's a hazard having to move to keep your money but you'll know what's better for you.
And NO, not all women are like her, I had two divorces and I didn't ask for alimony from neither one.
2007-09-07 20:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by Lulu 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She should not be entitled to that monehy. Did you contribute to retirement during the marriage? If not then she gets none. You should not have to pay her that in allimony and if so it is only for half the length of the marriage. Get a lawyer. Good luck my friend.
2007-09-07 21:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You just seem to of gotten that one.
I didn't..I didn't ask for anything. I left with the truck and one small uhaul truck of my personal things and the kids things.
He got the house, both cars which one he picked up the truck later, and everything in it. I didnt want any of it. I would cut him loose from the child support too but its for the kids so I haven't.
2007-09-07 20:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You've already got the lyrics. Add some music, take it to Nashville, become a country star, get a trophy wife.
2007-09-07 20:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by nam_miles 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hire a better lawyer.the debt is 50/50 both of yours,she needs to pay her % i think you have to be married 18+ years before she can get any of your retirement.good luck!
2007-09-07 20:52:58 · answer #10 · answered by I Bleed Black & Gold 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋