Should a wife who has entered into a contract of marriage be allowed to refuse her husband.?

Question

I think it is a two way street, and the wife has needs and wants too but i don't think she should be allowed to refuse her husband.

Answer 1

I don't think a wife should use sex as a weapon or a tool to get what she wants. Now refuse because she wants something or to try and get back at him... just wrong. Refuse because she isn't feeling well, has that time of the month, etc... all acceptable. It is a 2 way street, but by that being said in your question, sounds like the refusal is by means of holding out either as a weapon or using it as her tool.

Answer 2

Yes, a woman has the right to refuse her husband. Married people are partners, not property. The 'contract' of marriage is not about becoming the play thing of the other. Basically, you're saying that spousal rape doesn't happen and if your husband came home, threw you on the ground and started having sex with you whether you wanted to or not he has the right? And if he wanted to beat you or tell you that you couldn't leave the house or find work for yourself, that's fine too right? You can't refuse his wants! That's sick and you have absolutely no respect, for yourself or anyone else, if you truly believe that.

Answer 3

That depends on the vow you took. A contract is what it is -- you have to pay attention to the wording. In the past, a common vow was to "love, honor, and obey" the husband, but I think the "obey" part went out quite awhile back. Unless you promised to obey, your contract does not prohibit you from refusing your husband. If you don't want to refuse him, then don't. I just think anybody who says she's "not allowed" to be assertive is setting herself up for at least some amount of trouble down the line.

Answer 4

When you are married, two unite as one. Therefore, the wife shouldn't "refuse" anything, but communicate her feelings to her husband, and he should do the same, taking eachother into consideration. They should both want the other to be happy, and with that in mind, be willing to compromise. With that, they should be able to work out any problem (whether it take place in the bdr. or not).

Answer 5

Legal contract or not, a husband can still be arrested and charged with rape for forcing his wife to do something she doesn't want to do. On the flip side, constant refusal can cause the wife to be charged with alienation of affection. So yes, it is a two way street.

Answer 6

As I recall, I promised to love, honor, and respect my husband. Not do EVERYTHING he says. If I'm not in the mood or don't feel well, my husband understands. If a man doesn't understand, and is that overbearing, he has issues.

Of course a woman can refuse her husband. And if he forces himself on his wife, he could get into a bit of trouble...

Answer 7

OK....what's with this "allowed" stuff anyway?

It depends on what type of "marriage contract" it is as to whether she should refuse him or not.

Personally, I think if it's a contract marriage of the sort I'm thinking, it's a mockery of the whole concept.

Answer 8

No man should force himself on a woman, married or not. And if the refusal is because she is tired or sick or upset. Then yes she has every right. Even if its just that she doesn't feel like having sex she should be able to refuse him. I guess it depends upon what culture you are from though. In a society where a woman has little or no rights then I wouldn't know. In America women get to make their own choices. And thank god for that!!

Answer 9

What I feel, contract marraige or not, a wife has the right to refuse her husband for anything she doesn't want to be done to her or with her, else, the husband can go for divorse if he got a problem.

Ideally, doing something intimate under pressure must call for jail time.

Answer 10

in what century was the contract signed? this is medievil thinking.i don't think of marriage as a contract to begin with and if someone doesn't want it, man or woman, they sholdn't "have to" submit.