for 18yrs my hub says am boring in bed what can i do to pep things up
2007-09-07 01:31:11 · 31 answers · asked by astra 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you have to be comfortable with yourself. He married you because he loves you and fancies you like hell. So if you are confident in yourself in the fact that he has the hots for you, you can talk to him and get into his mind and see what really knocks his socks off. Then, if you are confortable with it, go ahead and make him the happiest guy on earth. Lol
Best of luck
2007-09-07 01:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by Rajiv T 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's harsh of him! Ask HIM what he expects or wants, why does this have to land on your shoulders? I'd tell him he's no prize either! Seriously, I would sit down and discuss what his expectations were, what both of you can do to spice things up and go from there. Try something different you've never done before that is comfortable for both of you. Make it your mission to take a week end every now and then and go away to a romantic spot where just the two of you can enjoy one another. There are all sorts of things you can do. Just don't let this get into your mind set too much and ruin your marriage. He is feeling his oats and wishing you both were in that honeymoon stage again . . . . . who doesn't?!
2007-09-07 08:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Open up your mind. Take it out of the bed room. Do some reading. (Dr. Phil Dr. Ruth. and many more.) A lot of books in the library about the bed room.Penthouse house has small magazines that are interesting. Talk to you Friends. once you open up and see what is going on you will be in heaven. Just keep and open mind talk to your hubby and find out what he would like to try. do not be dun about this. My Xs where dumb that way. could not talk to them and they where a farad to try any thing.
2007-09-07 08:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to really rev things up...
You will have to get back into shape.... so start an exersise regimen.. thirty min of vigorous exersise will get you in shape soon...
Then you will have to sit and talk with him... what does he want.... what does he like ..what will drive him wild....
Most importantly what is his fanasy... then live that fanatasy..
If he does not open up and tell you then you will have to experiment.'Try giving him variety... in terms of what you wear... lingeri... victorias secret...this always tuns on...
You can play sex games.....
You can do role playing.
You can wear diffrent dresses, like uniforms....
Try exotic massages.....
Try exotic positions and diffrent positions each time.
Try diffrent times.. like night.. mid night...noon... morning
Diffrent places like bathroom.... dining table.. etc
I have studied the Kamasutra and I have many insights but for that you will have to share more details with me, which I think you will hesitate to share.
out of the above suggetsed activities somethings will click, some wont, but you will then yourself find out what drives him wild.
Its a journey and you will enjoy it.
All the best for all the passsionate times
2007-09-07 09:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he likes, what he doesnt like....
Sexy underwear, toys, literature, theres lots you can try!
You could work on yourself and your self esteem, if you are more confident, lovemaking will be much sexier, and better in general!
Whatever you do, dont go down the threesome/open sexual relationship road, as most couples never return!
Its GOOD that he told you, at least hes not having an affair, or telling someone else!
I hope you manage to get it all sorted.
2007-09-07 08:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by PerfectPiggiesGPForum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he has to remember that its a two way thing...
Check out your local Ann Summers shop for some ideas. Buy a vibrator and ask him to use it on you.... Welcome him home from work in a sexy nighty and then drop it to the floor.... Buy a few soft-porn films to start with - should get you both in the mood.
Also, you need to be confident in your own sexuality.... why not pamper yourself and have a facial and massage....! Then come home and tell hubby you will be giving him a massage....
Good luck!
2007-09-07 08:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by PrettyKitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like they say it take two to tango, My wife and I watch a porn everynow and then and try the things that we are watching . And try having sex in other places in your house like the living room on the couch or in a hottub , or wherever. Experiment with things just let your imagination run wild
2007-09-07 08:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whew the nerve, takes two to tango. Did he ever think if he was better you would be? Tell him that!! See what he says. I bet you leave him speechless. I have heard too many guys say their wives just aren't into sex anymore, but I bet if some hottie that knew what he was doing went to bed with her, she would be totally into sex. Men always think its the women who don't want sex when maybe its just that she doesn't want sex with HIM.
2007-09-07 08:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK let's get real. He is very brave, foolish or got someone else. This seems to be a standard tactic to justify the inexcusable. Take care don't let him make you feel a failure
2007-09-07 08:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by Scouse 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He says you are boring what about him. Ask him what HE is prepared to do to make things more intersting - starting with a romantic weekend away somewhere.
2007-09-07 08:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by D B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋