Marriage & Divorce - 11 August 2007

Two children are involved.

2007-08-11 13:28:57 · 16 answers · asked by Jaye Vinson 2

I recently seperated from my partner of 9 years ( 3months ago) It was my decesion to leave as was confused and anxious about what I was going to do with the rest of my life. I couldnt comphrehend that It was right in front of my eyes. We have 3 children together and generally we were very happy. Well he met someone almost instantly and has been with her for 10 weeks. Heres where it gets messy. I still love him with all my heart and want to peice my family back together. We have also been seeing eachother romatically for the last 6 weeks, he says he doesnt want to be with the other girl and wants to come home, he keeps saying he will break up with her but then never does. His excuses are that he doesnt want to hurt her, but he says he is going to, I just need to give him some time to sort it out. I love him so much, and I realise my mistake, I kick myself when ever I think about the fact that we were together and I let it go. What should I do?? Should I continue to wait??

2007-08-11 13:24:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I never used to be a jealous or insecure person but latley it seems like almost everything that comes out of my wifes mouth is a lie mostlly about insignificant minor details but its still lying and more important to me is the way she goes about it fully committing to the lie untill she is 100% busted. This behavior makes me think that she has other things to hide like another man. I have no evidence of this what so ever but the distrust which comes with being lied to by someone whom youve always trusted is just eating at me and i would love to hear some of your objective intelligent opponions on my situation...thanx

2007-08-11 13:23:05 · 10 answers · asked by ? 2

My husband and I are currently having some issues. Does anyone know if he can file for divorce while stationed in Iraq? I just need to be prepared for IF it gets to that point in the marriage.

2007-08-11 13:20:26 · 13 answers · asked by triciaqueenie1969 1

2007-08-11 12:57:15 · 44 answers · asked by Claudia D 1

Can you train yourself to forget an event?

2007-08-11 12:55:29 · 27 answers · asked by Claudia D 1

Sometimes, I wonder if its just me and my wife getting into dispute arguements, about whos right or wrong. Is this normal or is this just me? I see other couples, who are completely happily married with each other, but I sometimes wonder, do they ever get into arguements at times? Not little arguements but big ones.

2007-08-11 12:51:48 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't know the reason why (and i'm not having an affair)...I just don't feel in the 'mood' anymore....He's causing loads of trouble over it and is convinced i'm up to something> How do i deal with his aggressive attitude? I've just faked it for the past few months as i knew he'd be angry if he thought i didn't want to do it. help!

2007-08-11 12:51:44 · 33 answers · asked by Susie2 4

2007-08-11 12:41:56 · 30 answers · asked by keisha R 1

2007-08-11 12:33:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-11 12:23:06 · 7 answers · asked by maganacm 1

If she has kids, I don't want to be an uncle.

2007-08-11 12:12:31 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

Alot of you asked how old this girl is,, She's 23, she and her "wife", yes, I said wife live here with us. He and I have been together 7 years and she hates her "real mom"..

I have 8 days till the wedding and she came to me crying.. Timmed it just right so that her father would be walking in the door from work just about the time we really got into the converstation. We are only having about 30 guests, and it's in Reno, NV on a Monday.. I'm not so upset that she wanted to be in the wedding as I am at the way she went about it. With her father walking in the door, seeing her all water works up and running and me sitting there wondering what the heck to do. Dad just shrugged his shoulders and made his way to the kitchen. What was I to do.. I told her to go buy a dress and she could be the 3rd brides maid.. Now,, I have to find another guy to be in the wedding or she will be walking by herself,, oh and don't forget, we leave THIS SUNDAY and the wedding is the following day

2007-08-11 12:07:38 · 12 answers · asked by lo_bug@sbcglobal.net 1

We have been married 4 years and separated for 3 of them. He told me he wanted a divorce 3 years ago and still hasn't filed. He still tells me he loves me and still spends time with me, but wants to be alone more often than together. I don't want a divorce, but think that is the only way to get him to see I have had enough. I need some suggestions on what to do. I am still in love with him and still want to be with him.

2007-08-11 12:03:55 · 13 answers · asked by batty76117@sbcglobal.net 2

I went to lunch with a friend, we had a very intimate conversation, I could picture him without pants. Is this considered cheating?

2007-08-11 12:02:37 · 35 answers · asked by AJPierzynskis' 4

My wife told me yesterday that she's been having sexual fantasies about a guy she works with. While I trust her, should I be concerned or is this a natural sort of a thing and I should be confident and happy she is so open with me?

2007-08-11 11:59:39 · 6 answers · asked by John B 7

He doesn't come home for days at a time. He smells like perfume and whiskey when he does. I found someone elses panites in our truck (he said they were his nieces), he has secret cell phone conversations and he is planning a trip to Europe without me. Should I be concerned?

2007-08-11 11:58:32 · 21 answers · asked by AJPierzynskis' 4

my wife of 10 years left me 4 months ago we have 4 children together (2,3,7,8,)she is 27 Im 28 ,Ive tried everything to get her back and I know if I get her back I have my kids under the same roof as me < she said she left me because we argue this that etc,etc, But come to find out she started to see her ex from high school who dumped her 12 years ago 4 her freind, Ilove my family i still cry every day and call her everyday asking her back my heart has been ripped out steped on and kicked around I wish I didnt have feelings IT HURTS IT HURTS SO BAD that somedays ijust want to end it but my kids keep me going (the smiles on their faces when they see me but then the tears in their eyes when they have to leave,I have hit my knees praying every day, I ask everyone to please pray for my family,Its so hard to love one woman deeply and not be loved back my friends say to replace her but im a one woman man and married,I just wish the pain would leave I hurt so so deep,any advice

2007-08-11 11:55:35 · 20 answers · asked by ELITE 1

2007-08-11 11:51:33 · 13 answers · asked by kc 3

I have never seen a counselor before, but I need to see one now. I was sexually abused as a kid, I have major trust issues and I really don't take rejection very well. I have anger management problems, exspecially when I feel rejected. Last night I lost it, my husband wouldn't kiss me because he didn't want to feel like he was forced to, I was so hurt, it was like tearing my heart out! I got drunk (not something that I usually do), I threw a mirior at the floor and broke it (yep 7 years of bad luck) I hit him and then, well then I really just wanted to grab a knife and kill myself! The only thing that stopped me was that I didn't know how to stab myself that would make me die, then I would end up in a hospital in the psych ward and I am closterphobic (is that how you spell it?) so that would not be good - so what kind of counselor do I need??

2007-08-11 11:49:10 · 14 answers · asked by Rosie 4

My wife and i have being married for 7 year this month.we have had our ups and downs and lately we have not being able to stop arguing.
we have a beautiful 7 month old baby girl. she is the reason why I want to avoid the divorce. However my wife does not. i fear that baby will suffer the results of our decision.. I love my wife to death and i would do anything for her. and i know she loves me too deep in side. even though claims she is falling out of love for me.. she still tells me she loves me.. and that gives me hope.. I do not know what to do. she does not want counseling... but has agreed to it... but she says that she does not think it will help..
What can i do to save my marriage when she some times does not want to? i want to avoid us all three the pain of divorse. any advise will be helpful.

2007-08-11 11:38:07 · 32 answers · asked by jay 1

I always hear so many stories of Doctors who cheat on their Spouses... We are happily married... great sex and all... but Doctors work so many hours with the same people... what do you do to make sure you aren't another wife or husband who has been cheated on because of this?

I know the obvious... if he loves u and you have a great marriage, that won't be an option, but thats bull because their are lots of good people out there in the work world and it's hard not to fall for people you work with. What's a wife to do?

2007-08-11 11:34:38 · 20 answers · asked by lizzie 1

My wife and I have been seperated since 2003.We have a 5 year old daughter.IWe have never been to court for divorce,child support or any of that.Even tho we havent been to court i have been paying child support anyways.theres a good chance the child is not even mine.Do i have to pay child support by law if we havent been to court.And Im in Texas

2007-08-11 11:14:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son lives with me goes to school from my home, and his mother lives in South Florida and has basically abandoned him and while visiting this week has abruptly demanded that he is staying with her now after a year, there is no custody order and he is with her right now so im trying to find advice on everything... it just happened a few hours ago so i am distraught but have typed up a much longer explanation that yahoo wont allow me to post here:

http://www.weneedmovers.com/letter.doc

Anyone who has gone through this before with any advice legal or anything would be greatly appreciated.

2007-08-11 11:11:26 · 8 answers · asked by J. Fitz 1

they just really are not in to you? if they truly think thats the way you need to act for a fling - they should just come right out and say it. we either accept that or move on - then the next morning there is no recapping becuase the official intent is clear..
Im currently going through this right now....

2007-08-11 11:09:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have had erectile dysfunction for four years, 4 years my wife and I are married and I have sought many treatments. I am finally recovering, although my wife, who has now quit her job and is going back to her home country for three months, leaving me to run the home, tells me she deserves happiness and regular sex (I agree) - she won't go counselling, but says I can't change the locks when she goes. I thought we were working it out - in fact we had sex this week - but it's never good enough for her, and she has also told me she fantasised about her boss. She says hand masturbation or toys are things she can do herself - so she does'nt need me. So should I lose my home because she wants to clean me out (as I see it) when she comes back off her trip? I feel the marriage is beyond saving, but don't think I should lose my home baceuse she is not wanting to stay the course with me. Can a lawyer protect me? I am scared - if she really wants to leave me what can I do? I just want my home now

2007-08-11 10:59:57 · 8 answers · asked by jonoxk 3

She's 3 or 4 months pregnant. Its her fourth child. The father loves the children. It looks like such a happy family. No one know (since I didn't rumour) that he asked me over when his wife was not in England. She stayed at her mother's with the children, as he told me. He was all alone in the house and that was totally a booty call. I'm not that kind of woman. I didn't go over of course. This happened months ago. Now she's pregnant and everybody feels happy for her. What if I had told everybody about him? I will still "congratulate" her but should I feel happy for her from the bottom of my heart? Especially whenever some other women passing by, he would stop to stare at them, looks like a beast eyeing on its prey, I really feel sorry for her. Anyway, the expected baby is innocent. It won't be difficult for me to like it.

2007-08-11 10:33:32 · 9 answers · asked by eva c 1

Serious answers only, please.

2007-08-11 10:27:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My exhusband lied on our marraige certificate stating that he was born in another country when in reality he was born in the usa and that I was his second wife which wasnt true also. Would this marraige certificate be considered void? I was married to a con artist all along and had no idea about his birth until later on in the marraige. Were we even considered married?

2007-08-11 10:27:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, there is kind of a weird situation here. I was married & now we are divorced. It was a hard situation, etc., etc., etc. I moved out, but we were never mean & nasty like a lot of divorces I have witnessed.
When it comes down 2 it, we are still friends & enjoy doing things together, like going 2 lunch or whatever. Sometimes 1 of us has a project that would be a lot easier w/ an extra set of hands & the other will help with it, etc.
Well, every1 is just so stupid abt us spending time together. They always ask if we "messed around" or if I "got any" or whatever else rude-none-of-their-business thing they want 2 say. Honestly, we are both completely over the bad part of our relationship & neither of us has any interest in any type of romantic relationship w/ each other anymore.
We are just friends. Why is that so hard for people 2 accept? I really think that we were meant 2 meet & be friends but we got confused 4 awhile & accidentally got married.

2007-08-11 10:22:17 · 35 answers · asked by animal lover 4