If she has kids, I don't want to be an uncle.
2007-08-11 12:12:31 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's not really your choice, it's hers.
don't have your own kids, if that's how you feel.
but you have no say over your sister's life like that.
2007-08-11 12:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to sit down and think about all this. You cannot and should not control other people's live and if your sister chooses to have kids, you will be an uncle whether you want to be or not.
What bothers me the most and I hope you will give serious thought to this is, if you have this kind of attitude, her children are going to pick up on this and that could very well cause problems in the future. Your rejection of them will hurt them more than you will ever know and I find that sad because they are innocent in all this and it IS something you can control.
Instead of thinking about what you want, think about the happiness of others and learn to enjoy what makes others happy. If you don't want children, by all means be sure and let your girlfriends know this, otherwise you will be in for a lot of headache and be seeing a lot of divorce courts.
There isn't anything more beautiful than a child, the perfect little gift from God. I wanted five but didn't have any and that is my biggest regret in life is not having my own children ~ something almost all women want. If you don't, find a woman who feels as you do and both of you get fixed so you don't have to face that responsibility and make life miserable for any "accidents" you might have.
2007-08-11 12:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One has nothing to do with the other, if she were to have kids and not get married you would still be an uncle.
There is nothing to fear about being an uncle. Just be happy for your sister, for all you know she may never have kids.
2007-08-11 12:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just isn't an option dude. Being an uncle doesn't mean too much anyway. Uncles do not have to have anything to do with kids.
2007-08-11 12:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by Magic Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Why does it matter? You don't have to *do* anything. In my opinion you're being rather selfish. Your sister is getting married and all you can do is say "Waaah I don't want to be an uncle". It's not like you have to raise the kids.
2007-08-11 12:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by BrightEyed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she does have kids, you will be an uncle and so what is so terrible about that? My son was an uncle at age 7!
2007-08-11 12:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by flyingdove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's weird! It's like saying you don't want to be a son or a brother.
Being an uncle only means what you want it to. You don't have to be actively involved with her kids if you don't want to.
2007-08-11 12:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by Janey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not? just because your an uncle doesn't mean you have to do things with the kids.
2007-08-11 12:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by george 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really understanding the problem, I guess. It's your sister's choice whether or not she has children. Getting married is an entirely different personal choice. Is there even a fiance in the picture?
Bottom line is you can choose how involved you get in her children's lives (if she does indeed have them), but not whether or not she has them.
2007-08-11 12:29:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do? Suck it up and be the best damned uncle her kids could ever know.
2007-08-11 12:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by ♛Qu€€n♛J€§§¡¢a♛™ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your an ***. you want to prevent your sister from happiness because you don't want to be an uncle what a jackass. unfortunately you don't have any say so on whether your and uncle or not.
2007-08-11 12:15:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋