whats a man to do or think when his wife is constantly lying?

Question

I never used to be a jealous or insecure person but latley it seems like almost everything that comes out of my wifes mouth is a lie mostlly about insignificant minor details but its still lying and more important to me is the way she goes about it fully committing to the lie untill she is 100% busted. This behavior makes me think that she has other things to hide like another man. I have no evidence of this what so ever but the distrust which comes with being lied to by someone whom youve always trusted is just eating at me and i would love to hear some of your objective intelligent opponions on my situation...thanx

Answer 1

At the risk of sounding harsh or judgmental [and I don't mean to be] -- here goes:

Do you make your wife feel she needs to lie to you?

Are you critical of her if she does or performs in a way that is inconsistent with your own thinking?

Not that lying is ok, but sometimes we can push our mates to do things or at minimum make them feel cornered into behaviors such as lying, when they know our responses may be critical. This is as far as the little things go.

It's just my opinion but women are very reactionary creatures, and if that is true then there is something that you are doing to cause her to react this way to you or situations involving you.

It's very hard to look at self when our feelings are wounded but this is just another woman's perspective on "why" this may be occuring in the absence of infidelity.

Answer 2

I agree with you, she sounds like she lies for no reason. Sounds like she a pathological liar. I would worry what else she is hiding. My husband will lie sometimes about the dumbest thing and I will ask him why didn't you just tell them the truth, why did you need to lie about something so unimportant. Good luck with her, maybe she can get some therapy.

Answer 3

ask her straight up why she feels like she has to lie to you. Make it clear and simple that you don't appreciate being lied to and she doesn't have to. Tell her no matter what the situation that you will understand the truth but the lies are doing nothing but confusing you and building a trust issue between you.

Answer 4

bro, some women just dont know how to be honest. and some women continually contradict themselves unknowingly. go with your gut my friend. i wouldnt jump to the conclusion that she has another man though. some women just have to tell you what they think that you want to hear also. for 4 years, my girl did a very peculiar act at certain times. i finally asked her about it, and she had me convinced that i was paranoid. personal effects im talking about. so for the next coulple of years i just let it go even though i knew something wasnt right here. i finally asked her mother, and her mother told me the truth, that she had a bad habit, chewing tobacco, and for 5 years, she hid it, denied it, wouldnt admit it. she lied to me when i called her on it. even when i told her that i know, she still denied it. if your girls lying, bring it to her attention. she might be unaware of it. or then at least she will know that you know and then you will be able to read her actions better. shes hiding behind something more than likely. low self esteem, or is not being honest with you. get to the bottom of it, and dont ignore it any longer. good luck.

Answer 5

A man who's wife lies should think he married a liar. How can you trust a person who lies. If you can lie about the little stuff you can lie about bigger issues. Tell her you don't want to be married to a liar.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

lying means she is hiding something be cheating, or thinking of cheating, flirting or whatever it maybe. You have the right to have doughts and have the right to find out what exactly is going on. By her lying is making you jealous and insecure which is not a good way to live....good luck to you

Answer 8

Jed, Your concerns and feelings are real and practical.

Start by being extremely honest with your wife. Discuss the lying and lack of honesty.

Tell her the truth, lying does lead to bigger problems. Lying is the lack of practicing the truth, lying leads to dishonesty. Lying lalways leads to dishonesty and dishonest behavior like adultery.

Comfort her with the Truth, do it with love.

Do you pray - talk to God? He is the Author of all truth. Ask Him to help you with this issue concerning your wife. God loves it when we ask because He always answers.
PastorJP02.

Answer 9

Call her on this and show where the lie are.

Answer 10

get a private dick