My husband and I are currently having some issues. Does anyone know if he can file for divorce while stationed in Iraq? I just need to be prepared for IF it gets to that point in the marriage.
2007-08-11 13:20:26 · 13 answers · asked by triciaqueenie1969 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's the second part, can I file for divorce while he is over there? I heard I couldn't.
2007-08-11 13:26:36 · update #1
For the woman who threatened to kill us both. I didn't start the issues, it's too much to discuss here and I have been a supportive military wife for 18 years. I'm not the one who wants this, and I'm not the one who is taking the coward way out of this and trying to resolve them over the internet. I'm not going to get ambushed either by getting served while I'm worrying for his safety as well as our friends and neighbors.
2007-08-11 13:31:17 · update #2
....NO I would never serve him while over there. I still love this man with all of my heart and I want to make it work, but only person working at the marriage is where things are and have been for several years.
2007-08-11 13:40:19 · update #3
I believe he can file through the JAG office while overseas.
You could file here, but there are protections in place for military personnel and it gets complicated. The simple version is that you can file, but it would be a very long and drawn out process.
I understand what the other poster said about him having a hard time in Iraq. I have friends and family serving and our troops have my utmost respect. However, maybe there is another point of view to consider. If he really wants a divorce and is unhappy in the marriage, it might be a relief to him to have it over and make his time there easier.
I'm not suggesting that you do that, but that point of view was just something to consider.
2007-08-11 13:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can contact a lawyer in the states to start the procdures. However, military law is funny when it comes to deployed members serving at war time. If you were to file for divorce he can get you for abandoment. I know that this is a hard time for the both of you but try to keep talking and don't decide on anything until he returns home safe. The issues that you are having could be a side affect of the war that your husband is fighting. We can't possibly know what they are going through over there. While it is hard for us here without them it is 10x harder for them over there. Try to bite your tongue ( I know that it is hard) let him rant and rave he could be upset about something totally different but can't bring himself to talk about it with you. So instead of him dealing with the real problem he creates problems with you because they are safer. Good luck to you I hope that everything works out.
2007-08-11 13:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't file for divorce while he is over there.
I dated a guy in the Army. I still care very much about him. He went to Iraq twice. I heard the stories of what he had to go through.
I would NEVER file for divorce while someone is in war.
2007-08-11 13:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sumie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this. I hope you two can try to work this out. He is in the military fighting a war and I think he needs your support (although I don't know the issues you are having). Marriages are consummated by God and I think your vows alone, are worth fighting for.
2007-08-11 13:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by SmartyPants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Base legal has nothing to do with divorce as it is a state civil matter. The fact that your husband is in the brig and still active duty does not allow him a free divorce if that is what you are assuming. He has to get a lawyer the same as you.
2016-05-20 01:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that Yes, he would be able to.
The military looks after their Guys and they do try to
make sure that everything they need is at arms length.
If he can't get his hands on the paperwork there they will make it available to him upon request.
Second part.
Talk to someone on base. Go to legal.
Anything is possible.
however.....think it through...try to remember if you loved him before he left....or vise a versa....was his love there...is it something you can work out when he returns....Don't throw your marriage out....if you think there is hope.
Its so hard being separated....I wish you the best.
best wishes
2007-08-11 13:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you must know, he and all soldiers are having a very difficult time in iraq.
you would just add a few million tons of pressure on his very difficult situation.
suggest you consider waiting for a better time when he might not be hurt so badly.
please have a heart.
2007-08-11 13:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by ramni222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if they start by using an online legal service
2007-08-13 12:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by dorwin29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a lawyer and see what you can legally do....it sounds to me like you are trying to race your hubby to the finish line?!?
2007-08-11 14:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
That is a real mess. Have you considered trying to be a SUPPORTIVE wife while he's there?
The issues between you & him make him a poor soldier--and that endangers all of his unit!! If you caused MY son to die because of your marital problems, I would hunt both of you down and kill you.
Work it out---and stop endangering people you have never met!!
2007-08-11 13:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋