why is adultery so common today?

Question

And Why is it that these white women always have to steal whatever few decent eligible Black men, even the married ones. isn't it a horrible state of affairs black guys too act inconsiderate with those blonde vixens around. my man is left me for one of them and tell what i feel sympathy for him those women are wily and are sure to dump them back.

it's not just coincidence the same happened to many more girls where i live south bend, indiana

a real angry sistah here

what i hate most is my own man had confessed me that those White women wouldn't give him the time of the day when he was single; ever since we married for 2 years he admited his popularity grew among white women i should have watched the signs and now he's been so insensitive to fulfill his "blonde fantasy' how long is it be continue

it just feels bad that's what i said - too much manipulations head games of ciourse I am gonna get a divorce but is it gonna happen everytime with these blonde vultures around the man i get it's an unbroken cycle

Answer 1

I don't know......it happens everywhere...u just gotta move on and find a better true to u man....

Answer 2

I don't know if there is an answer to this--I noticed the same thing but not as a derrogatory thing--people can go with anyone they choose. 30 years ago it was a big no-no and now it seems like nothing to see mixed race dating--I mean it is on TV and in movies---black men are no longer killed for looking at a white woman-- there was a cry for equality and freedom--well it looks like the freedom to date anyone has arrived--equality is here for most everyone. I would wonder if a decent real mature conversation with a few men dating whites would reveal any reasons for you?? I mean just to ask and see if there is a preference that you don't know about. NOW--adultery is a completely disrespectful immature, lying, low life act !! There is no consideration for all the people involved--no thought to disease and unwanted children--There is a problem with it that comes from childhood---behavior like this is low self esteem--no regard for others---attention seeking and immoral. somethings exhibited and learned from examples at home as kids. Now it seems OK because they never saw the better side of relationships and true love.

Answer 3

Infidelity in general is more about the person committing the act rather than the other person who is being "cheated on."

If a person [man or woman] lacks self-confidence, emotional maturity and dedication to their promises -- it has nothing to do with their partner, those are personality traits that no one else can control.

As far as the issue of interracial cheating, it doesn't really matter what the race of the other person is a cheater is gonna cheat and that's that.

We can never make another person love us nor can we control the behavior of another person.

No one can ever truly take your mate, well that is not without your help.

Getting mad, mouthing off and attempting to get even are two very good ways to help your opponent win.

EDIT: Now that you helped to define him as a "valuable asset" in society, unlike his brethern who because of stereotype are considered irresponsible, unwilling to be responsible husbands and fathers and productive members of society -- he sticks out like a sore thumb and seems like he is everything those other "black guys" are not, especially to white society, including white women.

Been there done that and it does go away and get better once he learns to handle his own pride and ego regarding this area of his life.

Answer 4

I don't agree with your views. First of all just because your husband cheated does not mean that "white women" are all standing around somewhere conspiring to "Steal" black men away from black women. If you lived in an area that consisted mostly of Latino people and your husband cheated on you with a Latin woman, would you then say that they were just waiting to steal him away???? Put the blame where it belongs!

On your cheating man!!!

You also mention that if you get another man the same thing will happen.........that it is an unending cycle!

HOW DO YOU KNOW????

I'm surprised that you feel that way.You are already DOOMING yourself with this line of thinking. If it's just going to happen again why bother to get another man. It doesn't make sense. Cheating is prevalent among all races. Like many other people that commented before me said it is a moral issue not a race issue. You should be with a man not because of the color of his skin but, because he loves and treats you with respect! You should try to be more open-minded. There are good men that won't cheat in all races of humanity!!

You have every right to be angry, but please don't make it a race issue, because it clearly is NOT. It takes two to tango, your man wasn't forced to cheat. We do have control over our actions.

Answer 5

To my knowledge all people are capable of cheating and hurting one another, not just white blonde women, and its up to us how we treat others and how in turn they will then treat us. If your bloke left you, its because he was no good for you and probably is no good for anyone as he will persist to do it again if given the chance. I feel strongly that karma will sort these kind of people out-he might have hurt you but one day he will inevitably get hurt and getting hurt isnt quite as easy as hurting someone. I would pick yourself up, dust yourself down and find someone that is genuine.

I think you are an incredibly insecure person and are blaming your relationship insecurities on a whole race of women. Blonde women arent the cause of your relationship breaking down, the man that decided he had had enough of you is, you are condemning perfectly innocent people for something he done. Try to open your eyes and mind to the situation here, he is the cause of you feeling this way, not other women.

Answer 6

ok your comment is bull. Its not the white women stealing all the black men, its the Black men steal-ling all the white women. 99% of the time the man is the aggressor in a relationship, quit blaming white women for your problem blame black men. Or better yet, stop seeing color at all and recognize that we are all men and women period. Go find yourself a better man. Maybe hit the gym, read a book, better yourself as a human.

Answer 7

Just so we are clear I am a White female that DON'T mess around I am married ,but even if I was not I would not mess with any one else man I can get my own .But I agree Satan is watching and waiting.1 Peter 5:8

Answer 8

Because people nowadays think marriage is the solution to everything... thus, they get married without ever truly knowing the other person, and it ends up in divorce or adultery or both. It's the "I want what I don't have" mentality that screws up the world. *shrugs* Move on... by the way, not all white women are out to get you. Just know that.

Answer 9

Oh please..white women are not stealing black men. I have yet to see a black man screaming and kicking because a white woman approach them.

Adultery is common because some women and men do not repect for boundaries.

Stop making excuses and seek out your own man regardless of color.... Why limit your options due to a skin color??

Answer 10

So what if he left you for a white woman, it could have been a hispanic woman or another black woman, SO WHAT!! they dont steal black men, other races can be attracted to other races, yea what he did was wrong but why are blaming the white women for what he did i dont see what the big deal is....

as for adultery, i guess we're living in a new era.

Answer 11

Because people are so quick to say "I do" to just 'get married'.
I wouldn't say your biggest problem are blonde white women. I would say your biggest problem is agreeing to marry a man who would probably cheat on you with any woman that walked by.
Look at the man, not just the women he chooses to cheat with.
He did have something to do with the infidelity, you know.