Do happily married couples, get into heated arguements at times?

Question

Sometimes, I wonder if its just me and my wife getting into dispute arguements, about whos right or wrong. Is this normal or is this just me? I see other couples, who are completely happily married with each other, but I sometimes wonder, do they ever get into arguements at times? Not little arguements but big ones.

I hear you W J! All these years, I thought is was just ME and my WIFE, having lots and lots of fuss over life matters, etc, etc. BUT, I hardly never hear OTHER couples having arguements, I guess they argue in private or something. Thanks guys! Ya'll are so helpful.

Diane T! You are a funny woman, for locking out your husband years ago! Thanks for the laughter! lol hahha

Damm Bella83! Your funny! lol hahaha About the bickerment agruements, outdoors-outside! Thanks! :o)

Answer 1

very normal!

Answer 2

When a married couple has to deal with everyday issues such as children, job stress, mortgage or rent, bills, car problems, etc., etc.. It's only natural that arguments, big ones & small ones, come up. It's how you deal with those arguments that will get you through a long & happy marriage. Fight fair!! No name calling, no direct insults, let each other speak equally, and no divorce threats! If it gets heated to the point that both of you are ready to blow, take a time out to for a breather and think about what you are about to say, and how you can say it without attacking your partner. I've been married for 12 years, have three children, a mortgage, car payments, and a high stress job. It hasn't been easy, but it has been the most rewarding thing I've ever done. When we're are out, everybody comments on how happy we look as a couple. We're normal! Hang in there!

Best wishes!

Answer 3

OK, we have been together 14 years and married almost 12, with 3 great kids... First: Great communication is the most important, if you can't talk to each other it is doomed, I am not just talking about sharing feelings, I am talking about having intelligent debate about issues or topics. Stimulate the mind... Second: I hear a lot about how unhappy some guys are and they say that the sex is boring. I know a lot of women seem to put sex fairly low on the list of importance and they need to realize that most guys have it at the top, when we first were going together and even after we were married she had it pretty low and it was hurting the relationship... we have it at a awesome level now... so Great sex is high. Third: Respect each other, respect each others space. Sometimes you just need some me time and they will too. Let it happen. Fourth: Pick your battles, don't fight about everything, fight about what is important to you and the rest is just details. Fifth: Say "I Love You"... and say it often. Just look them in the eyes and say "I love you and appreciate you". Jewelery helps too ;-) Good Luck

Answer 4

I'm not married but its more than natural for anyone to get into heated arguments. Mind you it all depends on what you guys are arguing about that is important. If its over small stuff like chores or something all the time, then that is more like nitpicking at one another and that could be slowly chipping away at your bond that you are to have between you. Now if it is larger arguments about important things you both need to realize that you should be able to compromise things out to make everything work for all parties invovled. And even take a step back and breath and try to find a solution for the problem. Because if you keep fighting over things all the time you mind as well just divorce and get it over with now before its too late for either of you.

Answer 5

Yeah I believe that it's normal to have big spats and little ones it keeps things alive if we were all the same it would be no fun!! Besides then there would be no reason to have Make up sex!! Never go to bed mad and if you do make sure you get busy doing something else to take your frustrations away the last big one my hubby and I had was about 3 mos ago 6 more months til baby gets here!!!!! He's thinking on spending Super Bowl in the Hospital!! Well atleast we can say that we don't stay mad for long and we do learn from our fights!! LOL
Have a great marriage really what would you do without them!!?? :)

Answer 6

A good marriage is one that does indeed get into heated arguments. Not only do you have the freedom to state what you feel, you don't hold it in and become angry inward. A marriage where there are no disagreements, is a marriage that either has problems under the surface, or they've worked through their difficulties with one another. What many married couples show out in public is different when they are inside their home, so don't ever think others don't argue.
So relax, your marriage sounds healthy.

Answer 7

Its kind of normal for some people but why waste all your time trying to see who's right or wrong....I'd rather have a good relationship than prove i was right every time we argued. I dont have heated arguments with my husband because I feel its kind of disrespectful to him. Whether you're right or she's right, it doesnt really matter. When you marry you are no longer 2 people but one. You've both got to learn to compromise your differences. You're the head of the household, so I would suggest you base all your decisions on whats best for your family, and then maybe there will be less arguments. Good luck to you :-)

Answer 8

Everyone fights it's normal. If people act all fake as in, "we have the perfect relationship, and never fight" they're liars!! As a matter of fact the ones that act perfect are usually the ones with the most marital/relationship problems. I'm engaged and we're living together. And we have 'huge' fights at times. Those ones we keep indoors. But our little bickerments(disagreements) sometimes do get brought out in public...sometimes we even get a laugh out of people.

Answer 9

I am happily married, but at times our wires get crossed and we have heated arguements. We solve them by either talking the problem out after we have calmed down, or just walking away and letting it lie for awhile. I don't know of any couple that don't have arguements, its a way of life, life isn't perfect.

Answer 10

My husband and I are happily married for 11 years and about once a year we have a huge argument. About twice a year we have a small argument. So, yes it is totally normal. If you argue all of the time that probably could use addressing.

Answer 11

Good couples never show the fact that they don't agree all of the time. In a good relationship there is always going to be some disagreement and in the beginning they can be rather heated. I locked my husband outside years ago. That was never repeated but he got the message.