Marriage & Divorce - 4 August 2007

Ok I asked this last night and it seems everyone thought I was the husbad and I am the wife. My husband and I married fast and had children fast. he promised me the world and made me feel bad I guess to a point if I dont take a risk with him and go for it. He never took my side pushed me hard when i was pregnant, always raised his hand as to hit me and never did and finally pulled my hair and smothered food in my face. This was a long time ago but he gets angry sometimes and I get scared. I feel stuck, as I am unhappily married and its almost as if I dont say anything (complain, nag etc) he is happy when I speak up he does not like it but yet wont help to fix our problems. He also promised me threapy and doesnt think his anger is that bad as he now controls it. I dont know what to do and I feel stuck.

2007-08-04 07:34:10 · 17 answers · asked by mt4444 1

My husband and I seperated a month ago. He already has a girlfriend. We havent even filed for a divorce yet. Is it wrong of me to be upset about this? Or am I being too emotional?

2007-08-04 07:26:54 · 30 answers · asked by who knows 3

I'm a 62 year old mother of 2 and grandmother of 5. I've been married to my husband nearly 42 years but our love life hasn't been the most exciting lately. One of my grandsons friends has shown some interest in me, he's 18. Should I "show some interest" back?

Please help, I am unsure of what to do.

2007-08-04 07:25:08 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is going to sound like a stupid question with an easy answer, but it's not for me. I was married to this great man for ten years. He has supported me emotionally, mentally, phyically and finacially. We recently divorced so that I could get help with my extencive medical bills. We still love each other, but he tells me he is not sure if it is a husband to wife love, or a caretaker to sickly person love. I live with him due to the fact that I cannot make it on my own; I still love him. The new man; he is great. We love each other unconditionally, and have so much in common. I can see myself growing old with him. He is supportive to all my crazy thoughts and wants. Here is the problem: I can only visit him once a week for two hours and get a phone call once a week for five minutes. I cannot touch him or make love to him. He cannot support me financially. He is prison, for the rest of his life. There is NO chance he will ever get out. Yes, he is in for a violent crime. I love him!

2007-08-04 07:13:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's proven that if men acted as the head of the family as they should, the family's better off. But in cases where a bit disfunction happens, society always blames the woman...and then when she tries to assume some control, society always blames the woman. Sure, if things go right, seldom, women get the credit...buy y always the blame? I can understand blame from husbands, because when feuding, defenses go up. But when women have no one, it's hard to stand firm(they get in trouble for that too). Then when problems are BAD, and women stay, they get blamed for that too...even though everyone knows no one's gonna take a single woman and her kids in. So after marriage, all a woman has is her husband and her kids...maybe...or she's all alone for the most part. Y say the lie that her family will be on the girl's side, when that's mostly a lie? Why's even my husband's wrong doing MY fault? Y's everything twisted to make the man look ok, and the woman the reason it went all wrong?

2007-08-04 07:09:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Indeed I am concern the rate at which divorce takes place. I am afraid of it's effects to our societies.

2007-08-04 07:07:15 · 15 answers · asked by Yach 1

Ive been married 11 months and am expecting my first child. A few months ago I went to my buddies bachelor party. Things got crazy and i got really drunk. I wound up sleeping with one of the strippers in a drunk stupor. About 3 weeks later I realized I had contracted a STD I love and respect my wife so much, yet I just cant tell her the truth. We have been intimate since the incident. I am afraid she may have got the STD from me. What do I do, I dont want to lose my family.

2007-08-04 07:01:25 · 29 answers · asked by jacen c 1

name change. Is this correct? I have the form to change address for the IRS but do I need to contact them?

2007-08-04 06:55:44 · 5 answers · asked by Rachael B 1

My SO is out of town working for 2 weeks and I am so relieved. I love him, but he is such a control freak that its a blessing to get a break. Problem is that he still tries to "plan" my day for me while he is gone. He has a list of things HE thinks I should be doing. I lost my temper with his list and he just sees it as me being lazy. He has no concept of the fact that I am capable of keeping myself occupied, because the things I may choose to do are not the things he would have me do. Whew! How do I get him to stop trying to plan my every minute with out ending up in a fight and him hanging up?

2007-08-04 06:51:59 · 16 answers · asked by ladyvlk0001 1

2007-08-04 06:44:11 · 20 answers · asked by bostonbby 1

I heard few months back that its not morally wrong as long as i don't have a gf at the meantime.

I am currently getting to know a gal but unsuccessful at the time being and we stay as friends. I still haven't stop praying about it and somehow the feelings is relatively unique which I can't explain. Nevertheless I am giving myself 2 more years since I figure out I am pretty serious about her. While at the meantime I need to get things done for my life priorities.

There is another gal who rejected me prior but for the past 1 week since I apologise to her for some events, she seems to be keen in meeting me up and been giving me missed calls. I must admit I feel lonely but I refrain from taking initiative to text or call her unless she do so. The initial feelings no longer there but I am willing to meet her as a friend as she asked many times and I am touched by her sincerity.

You?

2007-08-04 06:38:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my husband to death and I know he loves me too. I got this jobs offere which i will be making enough money that my husband want't even need to work any more but i will be traveling alot and he doesn't like that at all. I really want take this jobs but i don't want do any thing to put my realtionship at risk. He saying me getting jobs that i wold be travling alot hurts his manhood what does that have to do with man hood if i will be making way more money than him. I wold be supprting him if that was him. Also, another problem is that he never want do any thing around the house he may do one thing after we have fight over it and just for that day. work full time and go to school full time I'm also a full time mom for our only child 3mon. He works full time and go t school part time and when the house is not clean he complains about it. I tried to talk to him about it so many times but is not working i don't know what to do anymore.

2007-08-04 05:57:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

i wear clothes that dont match most of the time, for awhile i was wearing to different color sandals, one yellow one tan, one time i wore 2 different shoes, i just dont care what other people think, i am retired, make a great pension have great freinds that dont care so whats the big deal, i dont need somebodies approval of what i wear,

2007-08-04 05:53:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am marry 2 year ago and myhusband have best friend (women) 10 year already.
before I marry him,she always help him about everythink and he's always talk everythink with her.
by the way after I marry him,he never talk to me what he problem,about he salary and everythink.He,s look like dont care with me and he,s best friend more impotent for him.so what I must doing guys?

2007-08-04 05:50:15 · 6 answers · asked by yaya 2

My husband and I have been married for 1 year. When we got married he told me he wanted to be in a house for a year before we start trying for a baby. So we bought a house, and we've been in it for a year at the end of August. I went off of the pill last october (which we agreed on) but we haven't been trying to get pregnant. A couple weeks ago I asked my husband when he wanted to start trying because we've met his criteria. He told me he was getting closer to wanting a baby but he is affraid of being a bad father because both of his parents treated him badly and he had a horrible childood and doesn't want to be like them. I told him he would be a great father and I understand he is scared. Then all of a sudden acouple days ago I asked him again when he wanted to start trying and he said "stop asking me, I'll let you know when I'm ready." It wasn't in a nice tone and I'm wondering if he's letting his past stop him or if he's just making excuses because he doesn't kids. Help???

2007-08-04 05:48:44 · 14 answers · asked by Steven's Mommy 5

Need some advice. I'm married (in my early 30's), and love my husband, but am not particularly sexually attracted to him anymore. I do have a healthy sex drive, but don't have much desire for my husband. Our sex life = practically non-existent.
Recently, a gorgeous co-worker has verbally expressed interest in getting together...and he knows I'm married. I am incredibly attracted to this guy (both physically & mentally).....and find myself fantasizing about being with him. I am so tempted. I have never cheated on my husband though.
What do I do? I'm too young to go without a sex life!
And how do I work on being attracted to my husband again? I love him....but, can't seem to get myself hot for him anymore. Is the marriage doomed?

2007-08-04 05:45:37 · 65 answers · asked by Anonymous

Today he was taking our daughter to her first gymnastics class. Last night I drew out a map for him (I guess I should have given him the address and had him figure it out, but he never would think to do that), but he decided to go an alternate route which is twice as long and on a really busy road with a ton of stoplights. (Not to mention the fact that he was late getting out and took a super long shower and couldn't find his phone, etc.)

So anyway he calls me five minutes ago and he's lost, so they're going to be 15 mins late to a class that only is 30 mins long.

How do you teach someone common sense? I'm so irritated at him, because you think he'd be able to handle a simple task like find the gymnastics place. He has noooo common sense at all. Am I just b****y?

2007-08-04 05:32:39 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been seperated for a few weeks now but I have to see him often because of our 3 yr old daughter.Well every time I see him he's all "Can we have sex","C'mon just a quickie","I miss having sex with you".It's starting to drive me crazy.We split up because we fight and argue too much and the only thing we had between us anymore was sex and he still thinks he's going to get it from me.When I complain that all he's ever wanted me for is sex he then says he loves me and wishes I was still around.I told him we have to work on our relationship and not just jump in bed together but it hasn't helped.He's always bugging me about doing it.Sending me texts and emails and it's really bad when I go to see our daughter.I just want him to stop badgering me about sex all the time.Any suggestions would be great.

2007-08-04 05:30:20 · 13 answers · asked by Sweetbear 2

He is still begging me to come back and that everything will be different. He is driving crazy.

2007-08-04 05:28:57 · 4 answers · asked by Jennifer M 1

Could it be a good thing?

2007-08-04 05:06:47 · 27 answers · asked by kindclinton2000 1

you know having more sex,, i know guys that do that with their ladies for more fun time, but i hear some women getting upset about it,,complaining that their men take it,, why is that, they dont complain about the extra sex just the blue bill

2007-08-04 04:57:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-04 04:54:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I are going through a divorce. She is financially irresponsible and I have proof of adultery. I still live in the house with her during the split only to be close to my three kids. I am the sole breadwinner,she does not want to get a job yet. I have always provided for my family, my kids have never done without. Now, whenever the kids need something she spits out 'They need this or that and I'm taking them to get their back to school clothes and they want me to take them'. So while I'm at work all day, she's with the little ones all day at the movies, shopping, whatever..... Now I cut her off from the money when I found out about the affair, but do I force my little girls to go shopping with their Dad for their clothes. Do I play hardball and put my foot down and just tell her if you want to take the kids shopping then get a job. I resent every time I give her money to buy the kids something when I have to be at work. I feel that the kids are seeing 'Mom is fun all Dad wants to do is work.' Do I tell the kids that if mom wants to take you shopping then she needs to get a job.' Am I being immature or a jerk for not wanting to get stepped on or am I going about this the wrong way.

2007-08-04 04:35:12 · 31 answers · asked by What to do? 1

Ok this all started when she gave me a lap dance for my birthday at a strip club she happend to work at and ever since then she likes it when I tell her she looks pretty or she will bend over in front of me while wearing sleeping shorts....Man I just don't know what to do

2007-08-04 04:22:42 · 15 answers · asked by Chase L 1

He moved out three weeks ago. He is really depressed. He isn't seeing anyone else. He said today if I lost 20-25 pounds over the next two-three months then that would prove to him that I was serious about working on our marriage. Currently I'm 5'6'' and 157 pounds. What should I do? Divorce him? Or lose the weight? My weight has always been an issue I use to be 193 pounds.

2007-08-04 04:07:26 · 52 answers · asked by MTNS24 1

watched a musical play or an opera together?

What did you watch together? Is your husband interested in watching it?

2007-08-04 03:37:48 · 12 answers · asked by DeathStar 4

2007-08-04 03:26:13 · 16 answers · asked by Trouble 2

Be honest

2007-08-04 03:05:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

his mom informed me yesterday that we broke up and I want to talk to him but am afraid she might call the cops on me-can I get arrested-he's not said to me we were broke up just his mom has

2007-08-04 02:58:25 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

He has moved out. He thinks he functuctions better alone. he wants to be my friend and lover still. does it sound like someone who really wants a divorce?

2007-08-04 02:21:43 · 17 answers · asked by Lisa 1