I'm a 62 year old mother of 2 and grandmother of 5. I've been married to my husband nearly 42 years but our love life hasn't been the most exciting lately. One of my grandsons friends has shown some interest in me, he's 18. Should I "show some interest" back?
Please help, I am unsure of what to do.
2007-08-04 07:25:08 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is a dare...please click the link
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070804111338AAyBGjz&r=w#EcMrUjftVmTuZYQ4PkIBYdItrBS5z_UDjNzX__.I0U_YxGev0cNw
2007-08-04 07:32:20 · update #1
I should have banned that explaining it's a dare, but full marks anyway mate.
2007-08-04 07:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by Frank Knows All 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UMMMM......No. First off don't cheat on your husband. Why stay together for 42 yrs just to blow it like this. This is what a twenty or thirty something person would ask. Not someone would has life experience. If your sex life is boring than tell your HUSBAND. There are PLENTY of things to do to spice up things in the bedroom WITHOUT involving anyone else. Besides how would your GRANDSON feel if he found out what you are doing with his friend. It would totally disgust him and your relationship would NEVER be the same. You should ALREADY know that communication is the key. Talk to your hubby and find out what he is willing to do. The fact that you guys STILL have a sex life is amazing. So talk to him. DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH YOUR GRANDSON'S FRIEND!!!! Good luck sweetie.
2007-08-04 07:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by handvict81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 62, this child is 18. What kind of meaningful conversation could you have with him that wouldn't be the same conversations you'd have with any child you have or would be raising?
Not to mention the fact that, whether or not it means anything to you, you would be throwing away the respect of your entire family and hurting the man who has stayed married and presumably faithful to you for almost 42 years. One might imagine that'd be worth something, a conversation about what you feel you're missing from your relationship with your husband.
Or you can throw it all away for some kid who hasn't even been to college yet and has no idea who he is or what he wants out of life yet. Not, mind you, that I'm dissing 18 year olds, but the plain truth is that the majority of people don't really discover who they are and what they really want out of life until their mid 20's at best.
However you, need to take a good hard look at yourself and ask yourself what kind of person you want to become because you're heading in a direction that will only lead to trouble for you and everyone who cares about you.
2007-08-04 07:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Saphira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you fill inside of you a little bug and fill good about yourself. Because a young man is looking your way. But you need to think real carefully of what you are going to do. Remember he could be your grandchild!! Maybe what you need to do is talk to your husband about how you fill. Let him know that just because you guys are getting older. It does not mean you don't have the necessities you use to have. Communication with your husband is the key. Why would you want to jeopardize a great marriage. I wish you the best of luck!!
2007-08-04 07:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by hazelshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you throw away 42 years...talk to your hubby and forget the 18 year old...I smell trouble if you show interest...and don't think that an 18 year old isn't going to tell everyone and anyone who will listen.
2007-08-04 07:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first things first, you need to get to the bottom of the probelm between your husband and you. If things aren't working, you should try and fix them. If you just need things spiced up a bit, use the thought of this 18 year old boy (and thats what he is... a boy) in fantasy with your husband. Maybe a trip to a relationship (or sex) therapist is in order?
2007-08-04 07:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by doughboy0163 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY! Your cheating on the dare, LOL CHICKEN :)
To answer your question - the odds of this happening again are slim so GO FOR IT!
2007-08-04 07:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by Rag Doll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband of your feelings and desires (not for the boy...but for love and attention)...conversation is the key here! There's only grief waiting on the other path...
2007-08-04 09:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by Chicken Dude..Vinster 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer. If you have to cheat, find someone closer in age. Think about the kid. Don't mess up his life.
2007-08-04 07:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My, you've found yourself in it this time! What I want to know is, is the love of your life looking over your shoulder at these answers?
2007-08-04 07:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by gldnsilnc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋