2007-08-04 04:54:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you can answer that question. Do you love her? Can you name 10 things about her that you don't like? (no one is perfect and you need to be able to pick those things out. if not it's too soon) Can you live with those things?
If you do feel that everything is right, there is no harm in having a long engagement. That way you two can make sure that it's right.
Also, talk to her about the big important things. How you guys handle money, children and how you want them raised, religion, and how you both deal with the other's family. These are the main causes of divorce.
what ever you decide, I wish you the best of luck.
2007-08-04 05:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's possible...that doesn't mean it's wise. My parents started dating April 1 and were married December1 ...but they also had what it takes to stick together even when times were rough, and 35 years later are still happily married. This is very rare though, and what worked 35 or 40 years ago doesn't work as well now. Use your head and recognize that while you might love this person, you may not be ready to make that committment...plus, are you ready for kids? Do you have a job? A home of your own? Do you have the same goals and dreams? Do you ever think about other people? Without being prepared to deal with those things, the relationship will fizzle out and you'll be stuck wishing you hadn't moved so fast. Take time to get to know each other before making that final jump...marriage is still forever!
BTW, my husband and I dated for 3 years before we were engaged; 4 years before we got married. I think it works much better our way!
2007-08-04 05:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible. You have to be sure you both are on the same page. And it doesnt always work out. I know people that it has worked out for but at the same time people that it hasnt. I know someone who got married after 6 months and have been married for 30 years. Marriage is alot of work and both have to be ready for that work.
2007-08-04 04:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by hurt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's possible. My hubby and I met and married in 6 months and we'll be celebrating our 9th wedding anniversary this Dec. I wouldn't necessarily recommend it though. There were things I learned about my hubby after we were married that I would have learned had we dated longer. One big thing is that he is a hermit in the winter. It's like trying to nail jello to a tree to get him out of the house. I've learned to live with it and I still love him! I just think that 6 months isn't long enough to really get to know someone. It worked out fine for us and we're happy and in love, I just think the potential for disaster is there.
2007-08-04 05:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by aly_des 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it's possible to ask someone to marry you after only six month; but how they answer you - and whether or not it's a good idea - is another story.
My husband asked me to marry him after we'd known each other a month...that was eight years ago. It worked for us, but we're 46 and 53 respectively.
2007-08-04 05:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents married 6 months after meeting. What is to be, is to be.
2007-08-04 05:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every couple is different. I knew my husband 3 years before we married and have been together for 17 years. However my sister knew her husband only 6 weeks before they married. They have been married over 25 years.
2007-08-04 04:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got engaged 3 months after meeting the man who would be my 1st husband, but I wouldn't marry him until we had known one another 1 yr so the wedding date was set for 1 yr and 3 days after we met.
Doesn't matter how quickly you become engaged...it can greatly matter how quickly you say "I do"
2007-08-04 04:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure why not? There is no way to tell if it would be solid or not....that is up to the two people getting married.
2007-08-04 04:59:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends. If it feels forced then it's a NO. But, if you just totally click and y'all in love... Go for it. Life is too damn short anyways. But, you all have to be mature enough to know you all gonna have flaws and you will have to learn to love unconditionally and not just give up when things don't always go as planned.
2007-08-04 04:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by Buttafli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋