Marriage & Divorce - 5 July 2007

Dont get me wrong, I knew when I as getting married that men and women are very different. But I didnt know we were SO DIFFERENT! We like different movies, different music. He is very much into sports - I am absolutely not. He is very active -I am more mellow. He is very talkative - I am more quiet. The list can go on and go on. I was ready for compromising and understanding when I was getting married.The point of my quiestion is - how much different is too different? We've been married for 6 months only and I am already tired of constant compromising and giving in. Or maybe we just need to give each other more time - to get used to being together and to work out the perfect relationship?How was it in your experience of the first years of marriage?

2007-07-05 07:18:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

my ex used to want me to help clean the house, so i vacumed, mopped, did the dishes, ect ( i did my part)

so instead of her being thankful of my help, she complained that i didnt do it like she wanted me to or like she would of done it.

ladies this is why most men dont want to help around the house its not that we are lazy we just dont want to help and then be drilled because you dont approve of our work!!!

this is not boot camp!!!

2007-07-05 07:14:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

i dont know if i should marry him. he is and abusive person to me but i love him. what should i do. HELP

2007-07-05 07:13:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

compare Christ and His love for His bride the church, with our marriages today

2007-07-05 07:11:56 · 10 answers · asked by 4HIM- Christians love 7

I just posted a question similar to this but I need opinions please help me, my husband cheated on me with 2 different women and he says he will never do it again, but I dont beleive him, and I love him very much but I am so devastated and I cannot forgive him for this. Should I leave him? He says if I leave him he will try to hurt me, but if I dont he doesnt want to hear any more about this. Help? Im scared of him and I dont want to live like this. How do I leave him? When?

2007-07-05 07:05:53 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

I always get the looks but thats it. Im not ugly, but you always see really tall guys with tiny women.

2007-07-05 07:04:02 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a divorced mom, I have been with my boyfriend for a little over two years. I am ready to get remarried to him, but he is stalling on asking me.
He has told me countless times that he wants to marry me, and we live our lives and plan for the future as if we are married.
I love him very much, and want to be with him as his wife.
How long is too long to wait for him to ask me?
I think the old saying that "why buy the cow when the milk is free" saying might be true.

What do you think?

2007-07-05 07:02:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

fake breast. He is 38 and Im 26. He said he didnt really like it, but thats just how they came. Except one girl who did was a stripper and did it for the job. He said he didnt want her to get them and it was weird. So now of course I have a complex cause Im not huge and I want him to be satisfied (no im not getting implants) he says he likes mine over fake **** any day. So men, do you all like fake ones or real ones?

2007-07-05 06:53:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

i need to get a great book that can help with my marriage... i need to but a sex positions book.. where can i get it & which one should i get????

HELP PLEASE!!!

2007-07-05 06:51:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

sometimes when me and my hubby are doing it I would like him to touch me on the outside while he is in the inside, you get a great O that way, I would be happy to do it myself too but it seems like it hurts his ego or something???what do guys think of that??

2007-07-05 06:46:07 · 17 answers · asked by debbie v 4

I am married and I know lady who is divorced. I have 4 kids and she has 3. We are having a sexual relation for the last 6 months. Today, while we were in the train, she had some ininnocent look with a guy. I didn't like that. I told her later that I didn't like that. I was polite and didn't try to hurt her when telling her that. I told her if she is going to do that, she'd better do it when am not with her. She told me that I don't have the right to say that and I shouldn't express such feelings casue we are not married or engaged or committed.
Do you think that I don't have the right to say how I feel? I know that it is an awkward situation that am married. However, this is the situation.

2007-07-05 06:44:59 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

my kids are a girl(6) and a boy(4). wife is cheating or atleast in love with some one i know, she doesn't know that i know, all she tells me is that she doesn't love me and doesn't care about trying to make it work. I have old telephone bills that show how many calls, how long, and how many text messages have been sent to this person. i saw a text calling her "mami" and "i love you". those are the clues i have and i'm desperate because i gave her everything. she didn't even finish high school and now with my help and support she was going to finish and get a career.
I live in a 3 unit home, my parents live in one and i live in the other. my kids love their grand parents and i know my kids are better if they live with me and have their grand parents close by. if she leaves with them, they'll live and deal with strange people. and i don't want them to see their mom with other men. they are just too young. what do i do?

2007-07-05 06:34:27 · 10 answers · asked by jj 1

hey say that being tanned makes you look thinner, but Im five nine and 125 pounds. I dont want to look too skinny.

2007-07-05 06:32:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I try my hardest to do what he wants me to do and be who he says he wants. He has had dozens of women in his life and I have only been with four men in 13 years, so he has MUCH more experience than I do. We have different values and different views on everything, especially raising children and religion. He is constantly looking for ways to cut me down and blame me for the household issues. He often ignores our daughter and calls her a mistake. He says he will be a better father when she is two and three and older instead of a baby like she is now. One of his ex wives says he treated their kids the same way, that's just who he is. He always tells me he wants this or wants that but when I try to do what he wants he finds someway to make me feel like its wrong. He used to say he wanted to marry me but now all he says is that I make him crazy. We only make love once or twice a month now instead of the two or three times weekly that it used to be. I love him but I don't know what to do.

2007-07-05 06:32:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

29, not married, 15 year relationship, 3 kids...... confused

2007-07-05 06:30:17 · 24 answers · asked by 30 going on 40 1

I've asked about pointless fights and the like, and it appears men are supposed to listen better. With my ex-wife, I did listen very well; I'm a great listener in general. What I had a problem with was hypocritical accusations, like "The way you ask to go out with your friends is uncaring," or "I thought we were going to have a day off together." She was much more uncaring than me when she would tell me that she's going out with her friends or when she was called into work. There were numerous scenarios like this, and I couldn't help but speak up and tell her she's being a hypocrite. I see this as a very common thread between men and women, and I don't see how listening better to hypocritical and/or pointless accusations is helpful. Is it just that I was with a particularly hypocritical woman or what?

2007-07-05 06:28:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 37 hubby is 39 so time getting on as we started late but known each other a long time. I have always wanted 4 kids he would have been happy with one.

He says he cant handle the ones we have never mind any more and get stressed easy. He is in the Army and away quite a lot. I am a childminder and dont find it that hard. I want all my kids to have the same dad and really love my husband but I really want another baby.

Do I get pregnant and have a big mistake (which Id rather not do) or have the 3 he is happy with and always feel I missed out on it?

I really want the four but want to be honest. He has a 20 grand custom harley and a new car so does not go without his wants.

please help me if you have been in a simliar situation

Can I just say I have PCOS and know we are very lucky to have them especially as so many cant have kids so I know they are special every day!

much appreciated

2007-07-05 06:28:09 · 21 answers · asked by claredannyd 1

How did you figure it out?

2007-07-05 06:21:17 · 5 answers · asked by Alice 1

My husband left 6 months ago. We have two young children. We did fight often over finances and his lack of wanting to work a full time job. One night I asked him about a girl and he got mad and left. He kept threatening divorce so I finally went ahead and filed to give him what he wants. Oh and by the way he was cheating on me with that girl. Two months later he confessed and she had dumped him for her ex. I love my husband and I understand people make mistakes. Our divorce is almost final just waiting on the papers. As soon as he left he went and got a full time job and still has his part time as well. Why couldn't he do that when we were married? It seems like all he wants to do now is hang out with his friends. He doesn't even seem to care too much about the kids. He just takes them because it is court ordered and his friends love my kids especially some new girl or lady. What do I do to get over him or get him back?

2007-07-05 06:18:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

What are some remedies other than divorce for being married too young?

This way you can fix the "mistake" without losing everything that you have built on a shaky foundation.

2007-07-05 06:17:26 · 9 answers · asked by ? 3

I love cruises. Cruises to anywhere and I'd have my husband with me. Can't imagine going without him.

Just curious. If you could be ANYWHERE, where would you be and would you take your spouse?

2007-07-05 06:15:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex and I broke up about a month ago, we were together for about 17 months. But now it's like we didnt even break up, we still go out. He still takes me to family events and such. So at this point I don't know where we stand. And I don't know if I should just stop seeing him.

2007-07-05 06:10:24 · 10 answers · asked by dlg1028 2

Sure, I had an affair, but it's because my spouse ___" (fill in the blank with any old BS) or I love my wife but she just won't love me back.. I've tried everything.. Every now and then, I'd like to see some honesty: "Yeah, I screwed up all right, I slept around on my husband/wife and I deserve whatever I get for it."

2007-07-05 05:58:18 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

why is it that 2 people can go 5 years in to a relationship get married and then seperate for divorce 6 months later and actually divorce 6 months after that??? so they were married 1 year legally. How does that work that 2 people can make a relationship work but when it comes to marriage its just thrown out the window as if vows werent anything

2007-07-05 05:50:06 · 16 answers · asked by evie1718 1

why would a women at 28 years old get married to abandone a marriage and a child in 7 months and hang around till i kicked her out?

2007-07-05 05:46:25 · 23 answers · asked by amayseng 3

Last week my husband was talking to his g-pa on the phone and I heard him say "SURE! Grandpa, stay as long as you like!" He hangs up the phone and I just stare at him and am like "What was that all about?" He says "Oh, grandpa is staying with us 3 days a week for the next few weeks, he got a part time job in this area and lives about 3 hrs away with my mom so we agreed it'd be easiest to have him stay with us, honey" I just tell him that he could have asked me first, to see if it was ok since we are having severe marriage problems as it is and need to work them out by ourselves. We've been married only a year and a half, 22/23 yrs old. ANYWAY....so he says he is sorry and tells me that he will call g-pa and tell him that I said no..I tell him not to be retarded, that it will make me look bad if he did. He freaks out and says he doesn't understand why I am being so mean,and that it is not a big deal, that he will just ask me first next time. I can't stand this g-pa either. I am so mad..

2007-07-05 05:41:29 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-05 05:36:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

why is it that when wives cheat they are more freaky and nasty with the other guy then with there husbands?

2007-07-05 05:33:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

hi, what are the most taboo, or things that anyone has done/ seen at a bachelorette party that had to be kept a secret? i am doing a paper in my womens study 242 course and want some input from live people--thanks a bunch

2007-07-05 05:30:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is in the new cingular wireless commercial and the daughter is in Vegas with a questionable character.

The call is dropped while the mother is trying to explain not to maker her "mistake".

So she looks over her shoulder and gets bent out of shape and tries to explain over the phone but nobody hears her.

What exactly is she talking about when she is referring to the "mistake"?

2007-07-05 05:21:52 · 15 answers · asked by ? 3