Marriage & Divorce - 5 July 2007

I hate to get all psycho-therapist on you but i need answers for peace of mind. When i was young i was in a violent relationship. He would beat me so often that i learned to accept it. I know that sounds awful but what i mean is when he was beating me i learned to take it rather than argue or fight and end up getting a worse beating. After he finished he said sorry he couldnt remember and he did it in a black rage. Eventually i found the strength to leave him. I then met a gorgeous kind man that makes me laugh non stop! Ive married him and had children. My problem now is im sexually aroused by spanking. My hubby doesnt mind doing it, he likes it if i like it. My worry is do i like it because i miss the beatings....? But i dont miss them! im not willing to go into details but im permanently damaged (and i dont mean mentally although i probably am too) so its a constant reminder but why cant i get rid of this niggle that i like spanking for the wrong reasons..........?

2007-07-05 12:13:34 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

Isn't that kind of like giving you permission?

2007-07-05 12:10:02 · 41 answers · asked by c'mon, cliffy 5

When my ex-husband and I first got married, his sister came to stay with us from overseas. She is the same age as me. She was born on the same day/ year.

She had her 9 month old daughter with her. He said "Can you be as good a Mom as her?" and I did not know what to say.

I had just gotten married and had not even thought of having children yet.

He also said that she cooked better than me, etc. She was a housewife.

I felt hurt and upset. I should have been strong and thought of the correct response.

2007-07-05 12:09:09 · 14 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

My husband cheated on me with 2 different women at the same time, they were both telephone relationships as far as I know, but it just hurt me that he doesnt even listen to me but yet he has time to go spend 2 other women, it hurts me so bad. I need to leave him because I dont trust him and probably never will. He cheated on me and then threatened to hurt or kill me if I try to leave, but I love him and I am afraid to leave, but I am also afraid to stay. Please help me? What do I do?

2007-07-05 12:06:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why cant we just have sex with our spouses without questioning and denying....for real.....people have sex....married people should have sex....why dont everyone just have sex....im not saying to go around...im talkin about significant others......

2007-07-05 11:28:34 · 17 answers · asked by Life! 2

My fiance and I are so in love. We want so badly to be with each other forever. When it comes to our families, we started on the wrong foot. His family thinks I'm a control freak (anyone else get that?) and my mom thinks he is too lazy to be a good husband. Now my family loves him. He lives with me in my mom's garage... Until we have enough money to get out on our own. But, his family hasn't stopped disliking on me. It's making him so annoyed at them for this that he's starting to blame me for it. We fight a lot about what they speak of me and it hurts me so much. Is there any way to fix this mess before it causes my baby to give into their words and break us up?

2007-07-05 11:26:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-05 11:24:16 · 11 answers · asked by John McClane 1

2007-07-05 11:19:45 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last night we went to the 4th of July fireworks. It was me, our two kids (4 &1), my husbands Mother and her fiance, my husbands brother and his new girlfriend. We got there and as we were unpacking the blankets and such my husband told me he needed to find a restroom. His brother and the girlfriend went too. About 45 minutes later, his Mother called his brothers cell to find out where they were since the fireworks were starting. They came back and had been hanging out at the bar. My husbands drinking drives me crazy. Anyway, he came back and said "sorry, we found the bar". I came back with "I'm glad you chose that over your family". He tried to get all cuddly with me and I told him I was upset and to leave me alone. he asked what he could do to make it better. I told him to sit over there (pointing to where his brother was). On the way home he told me what a B___ I was and to not talk to him. He told me his parents hate me now. Was I wrong? The silent treatment continues.

2007-07-05 11:14:30 · 23 answers · asked by Wendy B 5

i'm in my early twenties having trouble with a love interest.

2007-07-05 10:59:36 · 16 answers · asked by stupendouswarrior 1

Why would this woman I know want to rush into marriage to someone who has emotionally and psychically abused her in the past? Okay, she says she wants her kid to have as stable a family life as possible, but how can that be when the father sounds as if he's got major issues? They've known each other for ages, though he left her a year ago when they were engaged before. Since then, she has admitted really liking someone else, even telling her soon to be husband about them. It's as if she's also trying to prove something by demanding this commitment from him. I want to support her because she's my friend but on the other hand I want to tell her she's making a massive mistake. Of course that's my opinion but could someone really forget all the hurt that's been caused before and live the rest of their life with a man who could make them so unhappy at times? Is it possible she's confused the need for a two-parent household with true happiness? Surely she needs to think of herself too?

2007-07-05 10:55:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

when is the best time to be involved...i mean they're legally seperated and a divorce is definatley going through...why can't he be involved with someone else during the seperation waitng for the divorce to be final?

2007-07-05 10:54:50 · 36 answers · asked by kqueen 1

2007-07-05 10:50:24 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm married and very frisky and sexual, my wife however is not into the physical intimate side of things. i've tried to be romantic, rose pedals, candlelight etc...she just isn't into anything and if we do get intimate it's the same old redundant thing with no variety ... what can i do to spice things up a little or do i just forget about it??

2007-07-05 10:46:21 · 10 answers · asked by Cupcakes Moosey! 4

like Gold Or Silver

2007-07-05 10:45:54 · 17 answers · asked by papales65 1

I have known my husband since i was 14yo.........It's over now and i'm 52, is it possible for me to learn to love another and eventually even live with another?

2007-07-05 10:34:25 · 22 answers · asked by jackie F 1

My mother-in-law is only about 14yrs older than me and very pretty for 56yrs we sometime talk about sex after a few drinks she tells me about how my father-in-law can't get it up anymore and when she drinks she gets horny i think she wants me to do her and i may have a problem saying no...i've knows her for about nine years since the marriage i even told my wife that her mom was a hot looking woman she didn't seem to care she also knows about their sex problem and how her mom talks to me about it ...i believe she feels sorry for her mom and may not mind if i did do her i'm not sure what to do
help..... i love them both in a moral way.

2007-07-05 10:20:37 · 15 answers · asked by T-Ray 1

Okay I start in the main bed with spouse, move to the foot, then end up sleeping in the guest room. What do you think is my reason for doing this?

2007-07-05 10:18:11 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

My brother-in-law is miserable in his life and has the same friends we do and purposely instigates problems for my husband. He is comes across as jealous and is constantly comparing and competing with us? (jobs, money, wives, friends)

2007-07-05 10:03:50 · 16 answers · asked by Stressing Susan 1

2007-07-05 09:51:51 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-05 09:48:46 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my husband for 15 years...we dated for 7 years, married for 7 years and have been separated and living apart for the past year. We have a 4 year old daughter. He is living several states away and has a job that involves travel every day of the week. About 2 years into our marriage we had a miscarriage and following that my husband had an affair with a married co-worker. When I found out it devastated me and I went into a downward spiral. About 5 months later I became pregnant unexpectedly. We agreed we loved each other and wanted to work it out. But we struggled over the next couple of years with trust issues, depression, jealousy, doubt. Last year I found out my husband was having a 2nd affair with another married coworker. I angrily confronted him and packed his bags and he left. The past year he has progressed greatly in his affair with this woman. I have told him I love him and am sorry for the past and want to save our marriage and family. He has rejected me. Help

2007-07-05 09:40:02 · 26 answers · asked by Heartbroken 1

2007-07-05 09:31:55 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just found out that my husband took a line of credit against our home to buy land in the country without disclosing our marriage to the lender.

Even though my name is not on the title to the house (he bought it before we married), it has accrued significant value/equity since our marriage. Also he has of course not put my name on the title to the land he recently purchased.

On the "affadavit of borrower" there is a part that says that he is single (if married spouse must also sign).

He signed this affadavit and other papers pertaining to the loan in front of a notary to get this line of credit/loan.

Is it then considered perjury?

Anyone have any idea's or thoughts on this whole subject?

2007-07-05 09:30:47 · 10 answers · asked by Chikadee 2

2007-07-05 09:22:26 · 36 answers · asked by steve 1

(recently separated) seven times in one day,and calling her two times? I read the texts, they were just nonsense...congrats.on your new job....want to play a game of cards...
This is taking place while I am at work.

2007-07-05 09:14:23 · 10 answers · asked by Geronimo5 3

I am 26 years old, and am expecting a child this month. We have been together almost two years and it's very obvious he has fears of alimony, child support, and feels pressured that I want to marry him. We have seen a counselor for the last four months and we know that we do not have the best communication. So we are not perfect but who is. He claims he wants to wait until we don't have that as an issue. I didn't have insurance prior so I'm on medicaid which could come back financially on us down the road. I'm simply a women who has dreamt about being married since I was little, and if a man is stressed out and feels pressured even after two years, when does one walk away to peruse being truly happy and finding a man to love me unconditionally? I would love him to be my husband and have a family, truly I am in a situation where pregnancy was unplanned (was on depo). I have tried my very best to not be a statistic, thus is life. I just want a man who feels the way I do.

2007-07-05 09:13:17 · 14 answers · asked by eurazianbeauty 2

my sister inlaw that is, weve had some 'bad blood' but usualy I can firgive people and move on but her its this never ending grudge, not to menton i feel like shes not my husbands sister but another woman(see my questions) so its like i am competing for my husband with her. its like she thinks she is the winner if that makes sense dont get me wrong I would never come between family just dont know why she is always on my dont trust, hate, list

2007-07-05 09:05:37 · 9 answers · asked by cuetee220 2

I set up a bogus email and sent emails "From" a girl I had a feeling he was messing with or wanted to mess with.. it has turned into an everyday email thing where he is trying to set up times and places to meet to be with her... what he doesnt know is that it isnt her it is me... his wife.... what do I do. I love him and have spent 10years of my life with him..... and he gets plenty in the bedroom from me, infact, I go strip clubs with him. Not many wives do that with their husbands and feel comfortable doing it!!! I do! HELP!

2007-07-05 09:03:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a friend who has been friends with a married man for alot longer than they've been married. The man has been maried for about 2 years.

One day while the wife was out town the friend stopped over the man house to hang out and drink and smoke weed.

Next thing that happened was the friend woke to find him shoving himself inside her after she had already made it clear that she didnt want to have sex. In fact she had a tampon inside her that his forced lodge so far up in her it was a mission just to get it out. After this friend came to and found out what he was trying to do she got upset and left.

Was this her fault?

Should she tell the wife?

(PS. Be nice with your answers...things happen and people learn from their mistakes)

2007-07-05 09:01:58 · 16 answers · asked by Me 2