My brother-in-law is miserable in his life and has the same friends we do and purposely instigates problems for my husband. He is comes across as jealous and is constantly comparing and competing with us? (jobs, money, wives, friends)
2007-07-05 10:03:50 · 16 answers · asked by Stressing Susan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nothing. If the mutal friends can't see that, they are not very mature either.
2007-07-05 10:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming we get past the fact that this may just be you and him not hitting it off, I would advice you to highlight the issue to your husband. If you both agree that he is a pain in the backside, then you both need to start if not already to restructure you life so that the brother become more and more, a less and less part of your life and circle of friends. Good luck.
2007-07-05 10:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Desert_Prince 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. It doesn't matter if he's family or not. In this case, it's definitely "misery loves company". You and your spouse continue on with what you do. He doesn't have to stop what he's doing to make his brother feel better you know? Or tell him to get off of his feet and do something about his situation.
2007-07-05 10:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the competative nature of siblings some people grow out of it some dont. have your husband discuss this problem with him but if you do it there will surely be a disaster and your going to be blamed for it all.
2007-07-05 10:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by sweet young thing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this bother you more than it bothers your husband? Let your husband handle this, otherwise it will turn into something bigger. While it may be a big pain in the a$$ to have to deal with him, in the end, it's your HUSBAND's fight, not yours. Good Luck!
2007-07-05 10:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by True Hija De Oshun! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is jealous because he knows ya'll have a better life than he does and just because he wants to be you doesn't mean you have to let him control. If he continues you just need to tell him that it isn't a competition and that ya'll are family and should act like such and that ya'll are adults
2007-07-05 10:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by Jimmy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either lose the brother in law or find some new friends. I suppose he is arrogant enough that you can not approach hiim to discuss the matter. Why put yourself through it lose him
2007-07-05 10:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by brian m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't miss you till you aren't around. Make you and your husband's presence scarce. Start having get togethers of your own; that way you invite who you want to come, less drama that way.
2007-07-05 10:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then talk to your husband about it and tell him how you feel. Maybe you guys can stop hanging around him. He is passing you the negative energy and its giving you problems!
2007-07-05 10:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by *AntA mAriA* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill your brother in law...
Just kidding...
I am always for the open conversation, you both must tell him what bothers you...
Maybe it won't solve everything, but it will be a good start...
Good luck!
2007-07-05 10:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by ObsessedQueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to my husband about seeing less of his brother.
2007-07-05 10:12:13 · answer #11 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋