Marriage & Divorce - 5 July 2007

My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. We have a 20 month old son together, we own a beautiful house in Colorado and we both worked until he said we can afford for me to stay home with our son. (So i did and have been a stay at home mom for almost 1 year)My husband recently decided that we should move to New Jersey.He claimed that we would have a better life their because he wanted to start his own business there.So he transfered from his job, they gave him a raise, and he started his business as well. My son and I came here a month ago, and its been MISERABLE.my husband has turned into a complete ***.We live in his sisters basement (who by the way, hates me) he is constantly yelling at me And now, after all the talk of "we'll be better off here and make more money"he tells me that I have to put my son in day care and get a job.I had a job that I loved in Colorado, and a house.I had to give everything I loved up. would I would be better off leaving?,

2007-07-05 09:00:43 · 19 answers · asked by niransmami 2

I told his wife through a letter about our two year affair. I never meant to hurt her and I wasn't the only girl he ever cheated with. I fell in love and now I pay the price everyday being the other woman. I just felt that we all needed to be on the same page and have closure. He did lie to her and tell her it was just a two time thing with a girl so that he could save my identity. He still didn't tell her the truth that it was a two year thing and I feel so . He dislikes me now and says I've completely turned his world upside down and that his wife is so angry, hurt and lots of tears . I feel bad for her I really do and I hope that he will not do it again but he has made me feel so bad and I feel awful that he dislikes me so much and I cry my sleep every night. I've decided to talk to a therapist for help. He screams leave me alone and so many mean things to me. It's a huge mess and I feel all alone. I know I made a mistake but I do hurt too. I would like to hear from anyone that would have any advice or from women that are married and feel that I did the right thing.

2007-07-05 08:59:40 · 12 answers · asked by crushed 1

2007-07-05 08:55:04 · 48 answers · asked by Emma L 3

benefits from your spouse if you only been married for a month can you get benefits.

2007-07-05 08:51:47 · 31 answers · asked by tosha a 1

I met a man 6 weeks ago and he is absolutely wonderful. We spend alot of time together and get along great! I am presently on my 2nd divorce and dont want to jump into anything bad again, but hes so perfect, completely unlike my previous 2 husbands. He has spend some time at my house with my kids who are all in their late teens and he likes them. I want him to move in with me in the next couple months, I would be happy if by Sept, we will have known each other almost 5 months by then. We have talked of marriage, but I want to live together at least for a few months first. He has never been married and doesnt have any kids. How do I know that I am waiting long enough? I dont want to push him into anything but he says he wants to be with me forever. Also I dont want a big wedding, probably just a small service with immediate family and a meal, so once we decide to do it, planning wont be an issue. Right now I feel like I really want to do this, despite what I have already been through.

2007-07-05 08:48:18 · 16 answers · asked by Missy Lynn 1

I ended a relationship from 8 years which my mom help contribute the breaking a year ago. I got into another relationship with a big package. In the begining everything was good. Now the story repets itself from my previous relationship. My mom can't stand my new boyfriend. Now every step I take she tells my kids dad and they both get along. My kids dad got married and supposibly wanted to reconsile with me. After last week I found out from his mom he was having another baby. He calls to agravate me wanting to reconsile. My mom wanted me to reconsile with my ex for my kids sake. I finally got my ex to confess today about having another baby. He still has the nerve to tell me he wants to work things out. I need some desperate help. My family lives with me there is not a day that goes by in my household without drama. The only time my family is happy is whenever I'm flipping the bill. I'm not a bank. I don't know what to do?

2007-07-05 08:47:53 · 5 answers · asked by Erika Y 1

2007-07-05 08:45:42 · 8 answers · asked by julia v 1

r old sister is the only one who goes to victorias secret in the family she doesnt use a charge card, did they some how get access to our adress and his credit card number? Has this happened to you?


Do you think he could be cheating?

2007-07-05 08:44:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I asked a question yesterday about me dropping off hubby 50 miles from the house due to my post partum depression. If he was going to call, etc......... Guess what? He just callled!!!! He is beyond pissed BUT would do anything to have his family back. We both each each other big time but I adore him. What now? Treat him with kidd gloves and kill him with kindness???

2007-07-05 08:43:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need help
Ive been married for 10 years and we have 3 boys.... 10,6,and 3 yrs of age.
Our 6 yr old has autism so its tricky to find someone that can and will be able to watch him.
I need help making date night happen and something always comes up... I dont care where we go and even if we sit in our driveway...

We mostly talk about the boys and not about us anymore so its tough

any ideas of how other couples keep it going?

2007-07-05 08:39:11 · 6 answers · asked by addictiverendevouz 2

2007-07-05 08:36:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

A recent friend of mine, while on the topic of sex, ask me how big are you? she also asked me to show her my pipe? Why would she ask such questions.

2007-07-05 08:29:00 · 11 answers · asked by EDD 2

what rights does a wife have on a house owned by her husband. what if there is a living will giving the house to the husbands children from the first marriage? can the wife still claim her rights after the husband passes away? what is the share of the wife?

2007-07-05 08:28:56 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just was wondering what the advantages and disadvantages of an arranged marriages are?

2007-07-05 08:28:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

he want to stay in the other state to take care of his grandfather and another uncle thats is disable.his grandfather is not disable it's just his uncle.and also if this person is keeping his brotherand his brothers wife baby because they are on drugs.And when this person wife tell him to come home he says he is coming after his uncle go to the doctor he will be back in town .so tell me what should this person do about there marriage.

2007-07-05 08:23:05 · 16 answers · asked by tosha a 1

I had a family cell phone plan with my ex girlfriend. She told me that she was going to get her phone switched into her name so i let her keep it. Her mom even told me that she was going to co sign on it. After I got the next bill I was surprised that she built up an unbelievable phone bill. Am I able to sue her for the amount of the overages and if so, what laws would I need to use in a court to have a case.

2007-07-05 08:22:32 · 20 answers · asked by Jonathan O 1

I've been with this man for almost 14 years. I found out he was married, but separated after we had been together for over 3 months. He swore that he and his wife had been legally separated for 2 years at the time I met him and he didn't think it was a big deal not telling me. Of course by the time I found out I was already in deep with him and my heart wouldn't let me let go. Now almost 14 years later I'm going through this bazaar crap with his wife calling me and going off as though she has a right to interfere with his and my life. We don't live together, but we are together in our home 3-4 nights a week. He's a farmer so he has to be on the ranch to tend to things the other nights. Anyway, this recent thing with his wife calling me is really getting on my nerves and he tip toes around with regard to her and I'm supposed to tread lightly and not do anything to upset the situation further. I'm sick of being last on his list. I still love him very much but should I continue with this?

2007-07-05 08:22:22 · 9 answers · asked by Ethelucy 5

how do i get the hubby to do more housework and help with the kids more without coming across as a naggy wife any suggestions would be appreciated and i would really enjoy mens insight on this as well

2007-07-05 08:16:58 · 23 answers · asked by lydiajw 2

I've been married for 14 years and still can understand why my husband don't like to talk about his emotions, feelings, etc..

2007-07-05 08:13:28 · 13 answers · asked by Calypsso 3

her husband asked for a divorce and doesn't want to work things out. her in-laws think she is overreacting by wanting to leave. what do you think?

2007-07-05 08:12:32 · 25 answers · asked by tmcblue 3

i have made up my mind that i want my husband to leave,(i own the house :) ) i kind of know what and how to say it, but not sure when.
not asking for advice here, just want to hear others stories of how/when/where you broke it to your spouse, how did they react, and what happened afterward? and have you stuck with the decision, and have you been happier since?

2007-07-05 08:11:40 · 13 answers · asked by Shake-Zula 3

Do Americans believe that it is not healthy to be, at least for a while, sad, hurt, angry or confused when going through a divorce? Everything is not like TV, people.

Talk to any therapist worth his salt and he will tell you that it is normal to feel these things and unless you are on Valium or some other happy pill, it is OK.

Also, as a final note, has anyone come up with a phrase other than "Get over it." That is overused and meaningless.

Wlak a mile in my shoes, etc, etc. ( fill in your favorite)

2007-07-05 08:11:30 · 11 answers · asked by jazz41 2

2007-07-05 08:01:03 · 21 answers · asked by Ariel 5

My husband cheated on me and left me, my two year old and my four year old for the neighborhood sluuut.

I decided that he should pay. I got a rapid dog lawyer and now he pays me $6500 per month and I kept our five bedroom house and he lives in a two bedroom apartment in a low to middling neighborhood.

His mother says that it is wrong and that if I ever loved him, I wouldn't take so much from him per month. I say, YOU PLAY, YOU PAY. Agree or not?

2007-07-05 08:00:26 · 33 answers · asked by jazz41 2

Its been 2 months since he poped the question. We've been dating for 3 years. I love him to death but i'm scared! I find myself picking at things i never used to fuss about before. I start fights over the smallest things. Am i trying to find a reason not to get married? Since the day i met him, i knew he was it for me. He was my first EVERYTHING and i really want him to be my ONLY. We're both in our 20s by the way.

I just need some adivce. Books to read, articles to read, anything, please help.

I've been waiting for this my whole life! I dont want tor uin this great opportunity because of cold feet. PLEASE HELP

2007-07-05 07:54:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been with my dude 6mths on and off and we have been talking a lot about getting married and moving in together and such. I'm totally into it but my parents went through an awful divorce so I kinda want to avoid going through a break up that involves finances... what is the best way to avoid making finacial mistakes and how long does it take to REALLY know someone before you know if he/she is *the one* thxx!!

2007-07-05 07:53:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

buys her son a $600.00 phone in case he gets deployed overseas and the 77 year old man goes to her work and stays all day visiting with her, would he be a friend as she claims or would he be her Sugar Daddy?

2007-07-05 07:38:42 · 14 answers · asked by Michelangelo 3

2007-07-05 07:37:14 · 2 answers · asked by mommalove 1

2007-07-05 07:23:51 · 16 answers · asked by marge l 1

hi i asked this question earlier- it is for a womens study 242 paper i have due soon--i want input from live people. what are some wildest/ raunchiest this that anyone has seen or done at a bachelorette party that had to be kept a secret---especially pertaining to the bride to be? please provide me some details of actual events--and i am having real trouble finding reference sources on the net pertaining to this--anyone have any ideas?

2007-07-05 07:22:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous