My husband cheated on me and left me, my two year old and my four year old for the neighborhood sluuut.
I decided that he should pay. I got a rapid dog lawyer and now he pays me $6500 per month and I kept our five bedroom house and he lives in a two bedroom apartment in a low to middling neighborhood.
His mother says that it is wrong and that if I ever loved him, I wouldn't take so much from him per month. I say, YOU PLAY, YOU PAY. Agree or not?
2007-07-05
08:00:26
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asked by
jazz41
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Family & Relationships
➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah. You can borrow five dollars. Email me.
2007-07-05
08:14:02 ·
update #1
I work everyday. In an office. I need a license. So I am not eating bon bons.
2007-07-05
08:18:37 ·
update #2
Pay alimony pappysgotitgoinon?
2007-07-05
08:28:41 ·
update #3
I agree with you. He has to live with the consequences of his actions. That's why they say you reap what you sow!
2007-07-05 08:05:40
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answered by Anonymous
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well dont take this wrong i know what he did was very wrong but do you really need 6500 a month from him maybe you should come with a compermise and take a little less reasons 1he can get pissed off and quite his job get a fastfood job go back to the courts have his monthly paments lowerd to 100 a month then what are you going to do 2 he tries to get back with you so he does not have to pay all that money to you and then your in a bad place he does not want to be there and cheats on you all the time. so hear it is the part you may take wrong but keep a open mind your money hungry or you would have never did that the play you pay saying reffers to sex and drinking if you have sex you get someone prego.then you pay drinking you drink to much you pay the next day i understand you are pissed at what he did and thats natural but better you find out and split then he do this to you all the time and just be unhappy he does not love you or he would have never done this to you he does not love his childern either or he would have split up with you then had sex with this other girl he cheated on you and your childern and hes pretty much a piece of sh** for doing so
2007-07-05 08:14:47
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answered by Anonymous
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First let me say that I agree with him having to support your family. As for the amount of money he has to pay, I am quite sure it goes not only to the kids but also to the maintenance and up keeping of the home and/or debt that may have been created during the marriage.
Let me tell you I have gone through that one before, the only difference is I wasn't married. I had an ex that cheated on me with a female that lived 3 doors down from me and then wanted to take our son around her. I was bitter at first and wouldn't allow it, and then I learned that I couldn't make my children happen if I'm unhappy. You have to forgive him for what he has done to you and your family in order for you to move on and provide a healthy, stable and loving environment for your kids.
Pay no attention to your MIL. If he loved you then he wouldn't have left you for another women without regard to your family.
Good Luck and God Bless You!!
2007-07-05 08:55:07
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answered by NAY 1
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Judging from your last question, I would doubt that you get nearly as much as stated above. Plus what judge would award a 5 bedroom house to a woman with 2 kids? I would suspect that it would be ordered sold and divided in that case. No wander that all of your information is "private." Also from the sounds of it... I can see why the 'ol hubby preferred the "home wrecker" over you. What a clueless woman to actually print these type of questions to let the entire reading community aware of what type of person that she truly is. Just by doing a little research, one can find most of your questions just as I have and from the looks of things as I see them, you are one controlling woman. You had better watch out before your own children divorce you! What, never heard of it? Think again, as its happened repeatedly in the last few years. I would think that you are not far from being the looser like that, that you are so concerned about letting into your house. Just my thoughts, but I'm not far off. Right?
2007-07-05 08:25:46
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answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5
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I can tell you are very angry because of your other question, but beyond being right about making him pay, you should take a healthier view on life for your own health, trust me carrying all that anger and hatred towards your ex only really hurts you and your kids in the end. The best way to get back at the cheating SOB is to live well and healthy and move on, yeah getting all his money is somewhat satisfactory but its not all there is...
2007-07-05 08:06:36
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answered by bestadviceever 2
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On one hand I agree because he wanted to see if the grass was greener on the other side and decided to leave...that was his choice. Why should you and your children be uprooted and expected to live a life without what you are use to because he was playing in another field. This isn't just about you it is about trying to keep the children in as close to the same environment as they were use to. He chose to leave.
But on the other hand, that doesn't mean you should sit around eating bonbons not working and not providing for them yourself. It shouldn't all be up to him. I understand you are bitter, and there are other ways of getting even. I would imagine that he is realizing what he is missing now.
As for your ex MIL, she needs to mind her own business and maybe she needs to think about what her son has done to his family. That's who she needs to be voicing her opinions to.
As for his living situation...if he can afford to give you that much a month then he is making good money!!!! He chose his new life and chose to walk away, and that is what I would tell her!
2007-07-05 08:15:46
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answered by Anonymous
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I think you are every divorced woman's heroine. It reminds me of the e-mail I got (joke) about how he starts in a 2 bedroom apartment and ends up in one how can he complain?
He didn't just cheat on you he cheated on your children. I hope they don't have to be around HER. The schluttt. And I hope you find a wonderful guy but don't rush into marriage or cohabiting - keep getting the ole alimony.
2007-07-05 08:22:54
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answered by sleepyhollow50 2
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OH HELL YEAH !
You play , you pay!
F**k your mother in law. What the F**k does she know. If her dumb @$$ son loved you, he shouldn't have left you and his kids for that slut. Why don't you tell her that. Ask he what would she do if she were in you shoes? If she comes up with a stupid answer like "oh i would just take him back" or some crap like that, Hell no for get it don't even listen to her. You and your kids deserve that money.
I would totally take that much and more from my husband if he would do that and even more if I could. My children come first then that bastard.
He didn't think about you or the children so why would you be considerate of him?
2007-07-05 08:21:22
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answered by Hot Mom 2
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Apparently he wasn't thinking with the right head. Of course your mother in law is going to defend him. But if ever loved you, he wouldn't have left you. However, don't let your kids get caught up in it. Put that money towards them - like a college fund or CD that they can cash in on at a later age. Remember, he is their dad, whether you like it or not and they do still love him, I'm sure. Keep your head up and show some dignity! Best Wishes!
2007-07-05 08:10:27
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answered by sunny 4
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I totally agree. Make his @$$ pay for running off with the neighborhood slut. Here's the best part....she probably doesn't look anywhere near as good as you do. Why is it that men always cheat with a woman uglier than his wife??? I will never know. I see it all the time in my line of work and that is one riddle I dont' think I'll ever solve.
Good for you girlie...make him pay!
2007-07-05 08:10:01
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answered by Eddie 2
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I would say you have very expensive tastes. I would say your children are much more expensive to support than the average child. I would say you are taking another for a financial ride. Sadly, I will also say that what goes around comes around. There will come a day when you may very well regret your actions. For your kid's sake, I hope not, but that isn't the way it works out in life. I will also say that as long as you want to punish your ex, you will not move forward in life. You are stuck in a vindictive mode. You are going to find out that there is never 'even enough.' All your 'revenge' is for naught...I suspect that, even broke, your ex is happier than you are. You do not sound like a happy person to me. Good luck, and please find some peace in life.
2007-07-05 08:18:03
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answered by Anonymous
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