Can you share your divorce story with me?

Question

i have made up my mind that i want my husband to leave,(i own the house :) ) i kind of know what and how to say it, but not sure when.
not asking for advice here, just want to hear others stories of how/when/where you broke it to your spouse, how did they react, and what happened afterward? and have you stuck with the decision, and have you been happier since?

Debbie, good point,
being in a community property state, i am aware of that, i just threw that in there because sometimes i am asked why dont i just leave.

Answer 1

My first husband cheated on me, so that's a no-brain er. He didn't even show up for the divorce, and I had his parental rights terminated - I didn't want him or his money!

I almost divorced my second husband, but we left the courthouse holding hands and never went through with the divorce. Spend some time apart and see if that's what you truly want.

Answer 2

I guess you just know deep down when you don't want to be marry to the person your with anymore....I have two beautiful boys ages 10 and 9...I recently filed for a divorce after a 4 year separation but, I knew we weren't going to try and make things work...It comes a point where you just get tired...You shouldn't have to do more than you already do to keep the marriage going..A marriage consists of two people and I didn't marry myself...During the separation, he has met someone and has a 15 month old son who he has lied about and has kept a secret...I have no respect for him and want nothing to do with him not even as a co-parent...He has sacarifice our children for his constant betrayls and sees nothing wrong with that...It's better that I don't even acknowledge him or give him the time of day....Not every divorce story ends up with a happy ending...but, you learn to live with it and deal with it if there's children involve...Hope your divorce story is a legend for you to keep and reflect on in a positive way not to look back***

Answer 3

I gave my husband hundreds of chances to leave his lover before I got fed up & filed for divorce. On valentine's day 2006 I put all of his clothes in bags & kicked him out. It seemed fitting since there was no respect left in the relationship.I filed for divorce the next week. It was finalized 8/16/06.He did not contest it so it went pretty smooth. He kept reassuring me we could start over fresh. What a joke.It's been 10 months & he still hasn't gotten himself together. I still have feelings for him, but I learned the hard way that I should love myself more than someone else. The only thing he kept was the car & his clothes.

Answer 4

I have been divorced for 3 years. I got fed up with my husband after 12 years of defending him to everyone and being miserable. One day I just told him that I wanted him out of the bedroom and that I wanted a divorce. I filed papers with a lawyer two weeks later. He was surprised and shocked that I had the nerve to do that. We divorced 4 months after I filed. The whole time we were married I felt basically worthless and downtrodden. He was (and still is) manipulative and emotionally abusive. I have custody of our 5 year old daughter, he pays me a meager amount of child support ($100 US a month!) and he now has a 6 month old boy with his new wife. He got evicted last month and can't hold onto a decent job.

I, on the other hand, am doing just fine. I lived on my own with my daughter for a year and recently remarried. My husband has been more of a father to my daughter than her birth father ever was. She has even slipped up and called him "daddy" a few times although she usually calls him by his first name. Both me and my husband have good paying jobs, own our home and can provide all the love and support that my daughter needs.

By the way my ex just decided to move his "new family" out west to live with his sister's family to try to avoid paying for child support, but I informed the state Domestic Relations department before they moved so he will still have to continue paying support.

Answer 5

My ex-husband came to me in the kitchen one day and said he was thinking about leaving, I told him that would probably be best as all we did was fight anymore. A few days later I left my wedding ring on the coffee table and when I came home from work he was gone, the only unfortunate side to this story is he took everything and put me 5 grand in debt, I haven't seen or heard from him since. So some times the easy way (being honest and knowing that it aint working) bites you right in the hind parts. Be smart about it protect your self but be honest. I was honest and so was he, I just did not protect my self from him.

Answer 6

Mine is a bit bizarre, I'll admit. We were actually in the middle of making love and I just looked up at him and said: "This really isn't working, is it?". He agreed. I then asked: "Should I leave or will you?" (we shared an apartment at the time). He agreed to leave and did, within a few days.

That was in 1979 (after 3.5 years of marriage). I have since been happily married for 20 years to another man. It was tough going along the way, but well worth it.

Answer 7

i are not getting it. Why might human beings divorce and afterall the messy place of work work and baby custodies, they nevertheless pick to get decrease back? Why will no longer be able to they only spend a weekened separated from one yet another and are available decrease back and be jointly than motel to Divorce? i'm sorry it fairly is OFFTOPIC, i pick to vent out because of the fact 50% is the stats of Divorce contained in america are initiated via their different halves. it fairly is ordinary to forgive and neglect the previous and look in the direction of a extra constructive destiny. yet reconciliation is a protracted and complicated technique. I easily have yet to fulfill somebody who became satisfied getting decrease back jointly. The stats is unknown.

Answer 8

Well, my husband was the one who left me. He said he needed time to himself and he never came back...lol. We did see each other in that time and he had me thinking that we were working on our relationship, when in fact he had several girls doing that time while I was waiting around like an a@$, anyway at first it felt like I would never be the same but time heals all wounds. I do wish he would have been man enough to say, Hey, this is not going to work, we should call if quits. My advice is to be honest and to do it as soon as possible so that all parties can get on with their life. I wish you the best of luck!!

Answer 9

it all depend: i left bcoz he cheated on me, we talked about it & he promise to be a nice person & will never cheat again, & it happen again so no matter how many times we discuss this issue there was no solution, i keeped on telling him that i'm going to leave one day if this happened again but he never took me serious when i said i'm leaving, there more to my story but i don't want to bore you lol oh well i left him at last, move out & change my address, phones so there won't be a way for me to return. i'm very happy now & there a peace in my heart that i can't explain

Answer 10

He came home one day and accually spent time with me. From about 4 until 11. We talked about everything and it was such a great day. Then out of nowhere he started shaking like he was really nervous. He blurted out that he thought we should seperate.