Why in any marriage problem, AMERICANS SAY "GET THERAPY?"?

Question

Do Americans believe that it is not healthy to be, at least for a while, sad, hurt, angry or confused when going through a divorce? Everything is not like TV, people.

Talk to any therapist worth his salt and he will tell you that it is normal to feel these things and unless you are on Valium or some other happy pill, it is OK.

Also, as a final note, has anyone come up with a phrase other than "Get over it." That is overused and meaningless.

Wlak a mile in my shoes, etc, etc. ( fill in your favorite)

sheloves_dablues needs therapy if asking a question is "lashing out"

Answer 1

"Here's a straw. Suck it up."

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I don't think the answer to every problem is to "get therapy," however, if someone is coming on a forum asking complete strangers for help/advice (who may or may not have a clue of what they are going through) maybe they are prime candidates for someone who needs someone they can "talk it out" with.

It's hard to tell what the situation is without hearing both sides of the story and a therapist is in a more likely situation to hear both sides than we on Y!A are likely to hear.

Answer 4

I agree. I'm actually a marriage/family therapist and see tons of people in my office for normal, every day things that should be able to be handled without intervention. However, not everyone has learned these skills, or they would rather tackle molehills before they become mountains.

I think the advice "see a therapist" is given because no one else knows what to say.

Answer 5

You are so totally right that it is normal and healthy to be feeling sad, hurt, angry, or confused when going through a divorce. Like any good guide, a good therapist will simply shine the light on your path. The purpose of a good therapist is to help you find your own answers. A therapist does NOT carry a magic wand that will make it all better. A good therapist will simply help facilitate your own growth process, and perhaps point out some of the possible pot holes and alternative good choices.

As to sayings, some are meaningless and some are true and worth listening to, for instance, what goes around, comes around. I particularly like and find true regarding emotions, "to bury an emotion gives it unlimited power." Negative emotions can often be overcome by replacing them with positive emotions, such as replacing fear with love. While many are able to do that on their own, some find the help of a good therapist useful in that regard.

Answer 6

Most marriage problems are because the two people can't communicate or don't know how to really listen to the other, by going to counseling they will be taught how to really listen and express themselves in a positive way that will be beneficial to each. A little help like that makes it worthwhile.

Answer 7

i have to agree with you.

everyone is different and has thier own way of dealing with stuff.
i think it is a catch phrase because we were raised by the generation that held in everything, you did not air your dirty laundry to the neighborhood, ect, but now it is a complete 180.
We , who watched our parents and grandparents live in silence about personal issues, want to break that cycle, for a healthier mind- hence Get Therapy, talk it our, work it out, dont become your mother or father


s h i t e or get off the pot

Answer 8

They don't, but Therapists do and spend millions of dollars a year to convince us we somehow need them. People without ideas in here always say get counseling(yuck). It is an excuse for not thinking.

Old Guy

Answer 9

Sometimes the only way to get through things like divorce is having someone to talk to about it without them being your friend so they can hurt your feelings to open your eyes.

Answer 10

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