I've been with my dude 6mths on and off and we have been talking a lot about getting married and moving in together and such. I'm totally into it but my parents went through an awful divorce so I kinda want to avoid going through a break up that involves finances... what is the best way to avoid making finacial mistakes and how long does it take to REALLY know someone before you know if he/she is *the one* thxx!!
2007-07-05 07:53:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Khu Khu, Dear wait until you are married to move in.There should be total honesty about everything. Past, present and future ! Your fears, your hopes and your dreams all need to be shared ! The two of you need to become one flesh. My advise may seem kinda far out but it is straight from the heart !
2007-07-05 08:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's really a time factor here.... How well do you "know him" and how do you "feel" about the relationship.
I dated my husband for 1 yr prior ro marrying him. We've been married now for 12 yrs this year.
I can honestly say that I've never "shacked up" before and though I've heard some interesting arguments, I still think it's wrong.
As to the lady that mentioned "living with her boyfriend for 11 yrs," I wonder if she ever reasoned that was due to living with the man prior to marriage? The old agage is true, why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free!!!
I do understand your concern however about finances....well don't co-purchase anything and keep seperate accounts is all. I have friends that do this and as long as both parties understand the reasons behind it, it poses no real issues.
If you love him and want to be with him, I say go for it, but be prepared if he or you grows tired of the union and eventually walks away...
The possibility of it happening as boyfriend/girlfriend is just as real as husband and wife....The novelty eventually does wear off for most, as in life you'll find that NOTHING lasts forever; there are no gurantees in life...only death!
Good Luck!
2007-07-05 16:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Cynimon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to move in with someone before marrage. I've been with my man for 11 yrs. and we have a great relationship. You don't have to have a ring on your finger. And if things don't work out then you just move on. No divorse and head ache. LOL You'll know if it's right!
2007-07-05 15:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by brookejesse 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move in after you get married
2007-07-05 15:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by Cutie Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never. living together benefits men, not women. wake up.
2007-07-05 15:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by jazz41 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋