how do i get my hubby to do more?

Question

how do i get the hubby to do more housework and help with the kids more without coming across as a naggy wife any suggestions would be appreciated and i would really enjoy mens insight on this as well

Answer 1

Sex. He does something around the house you give him a sex act of his choice (BJ, striptease, etc). Win-win.

Answer 2

Are you a working wife? A working mother? IF so, you need to sit down with your husband and lay it on the line....either you do all the housework, cooking, cleaning, etc. and DO NOT SPEND 40 hours a week on a job, OR you split the chores down the middle...leave the choice up to him. That is NOT nagging. Be prepared to follow through with whatever his decision is. IF he says, I will split the housework and he does NOT, then quit your job and become a housewife. You do not need his permission if he breaks his side of the bargain. Go to it.
IF you are a housewife, then I do not think you have a leg to stand on. IF you put in 40 hours a week on a house, that would be the cleanest house in the world. My wife never had problems taking care of two kids, keeping the house, and be free when I got home. She had time to do what she wanted to do any day of the week, and we had a good life together. And yes, I did volunteer to do things around the house...I took care of the kids to give her a break, and loved doing it. Any heavy work, lifting, etc....I did. I would never want my wife to hurt herself doing something that I could do easily. Does your husband love you????? Are you married to a red-necked slob??????

Answer 3

first question. do you also work outside the house? i assume you do when I give this answer. Make a list of things you want done around the house. If the kids are old enough, get them in on this too. Tell hubby and kids(if old enough) to check off four of five things from the list that each one will do. this is something that you all do as a family. that way, you're not telling your husband what to do. He can choose for himself. If the kids see that everyone, even dad, has to do chores, they will be more apt to pitch in. If dad doesn't help out, then you may have a losing battle.

Answer 4

Good luck with that. I have learned to pick my battles. My husband works for the railroad and works really hard. I work for the state and sit at a desk all day. I do all the cleaning, laundry, yard work..etc. I have expressed little things that bothers me like leaving your plate in the sink with food all over it. I mean come on rinse it off! Or putting your clothes in the laundry basket, not on the floor. He does attempt to help but it's not very often. When he does help he acts like he did something so great! Like he wants a cookie or something! But I have to say that he tries, although it's really easier just to do it myself. I tried the deal that others suggest, leave it there and see what happens. When I don't do the housework, it doesn't get done.

Answer 5

Firs of all, ask him for help instead of telling him to do it. Communicate with him sincerely in calm tones and explain that you need his help (men love to be needed). Plan events with the kids and include him, go to the park, walk the dogs. Explain how much the kids enjoy his time and how much they talk about time with daddy and you love the glow in their eyes when they get quality time with him. Don't make everything about chores and arguments, use positive reinforcement. When he does soemthing you are happy with, even if it womething you thougth he should do anyway, tell him how happy it made you, give him a hug, etc. If all that fails, the escalate - stop washing his clothes, cleaning up after him. Leave him in charge of the kids without warning and go shopping or out with the girls and take time for yourself - basically stop enabling him to be a non-participant in the household responsibilities. I've been that guy and been whipped into shape by a loving woman, and I couldn't be more happy...

Answer 6

my wife and I have a little deal where I hate to do some chores, like I hate laundry and she hates dishes. She has asked me to to a few simple jobs, like the dishes, and she will do things that I hate like laundry. She has asked me to do that and typically leaves my jobs for me, and doesn't ask me to do them, I just do or the house looks horrible and disgusting. What really makes this work is sometimes she will do the dishes when she can tell I had a hard day at work, and I appreciate it even more because that is my job, and I know she hates it. In turn, I do the laundry, because I love her plus I would feel like a real creep if I didn't return the favor. The most important thing is that the house is clean because we both do it together, and she doesn't nag.

Answer 7

Marriage is a team effort. I am frustrated when I see guys like that. Love is a verb and it reveals itself with the little things like helping to keep the house clean or getting the kids ready for bed. It definitely needs to be addressed, tactfully, and based upon his response all will be well or you'll need to get some marital counseling because an enduring loving marriage won't happen in that environment. It is not nagging, bug the slug!

Answer 8

I sat down with my husband and told him that I was starting to have resentment towards him for not cleaning up after himself. I felt like his mother, and I didn't want that feeling anymore. I told him that I would not pick up after him and that I would clean around his messes. If he wanted to take pride in our house, then he can pick up the mess that he made. After that day, all dishes are put in the dishwasher, he wipes the crumbs off the counter, and puts his shoes away when he gets home! Maybe I am just lucky, but it worked for me. Communication is the key!

Answer 9

How is the labor division split up now? Are you at home taking care of the kids, the house, etc. while he is working a full-time job, or are you working full-time as well? That kind of makes a difference.

Answer 10

by telling him the maid quit and the new one wants too much money. There is no rules that says he cannot help and he should want to otherwise I would leave a mess until he sees it and then give hiom the mop or the boot, pick one

Answer 11

Ask him nicely - with promises for things in return maybe???
Sit him down and explain how it is.
Just quit doing housework, and hopefully he'll notice and ask what's up..
Good luck with that one!!
Men are so lazy sometimes!