My husband cheated on me with 2 different women at the same time, they were both telephone relationships as far as I know, but it just hurt me that he doesnt even listen to me but yet he has time to go spend 2 other women, it hurts me so bad. I need to leave him because I dont trust him and probably never will. He cheated on me and then threatened to hurt or kill me if I try to leave, but I love him and I am afraid to leave, but I am also afraid to stay. Please help me? What do I do?
2007-07-05 12:06:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Believe me I totally understand, but stop and think about it, is this how you want to be treated? Don't think about him, just think about the situation, do you want to be with someone who cheats, who threatens you? Then tell yourself that you have to stop loving him, that is the 1st step, accept what has happen is out of your control and then take care of yourself - you must stop loving him and love yourself in order to get out if that horrible situation - Good luck
2007-07-05 12:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an aunt whos husband said he would hit her with a vacuum cord. She left but her son begged her to come back until he went to school in the fall. She has been saving money for a year or so now and believe me when fall gets here she will be gone. Shell probably even have to go into hiding because he will be very angry.
So I really not sure what Im telling you to do but I would stay and save money and leave when I thought I had enough. Get a place to live and everything first.
2007-07-06 05:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the cheating, that is minor compared to his threats. This is the way spousal abuse starts. It doesn't matter if you love him or not, he doesn't love you so why would you want to stay with a man who cares so little about you he would kill you. Swallow your pride, forget about love, and get away from him. Leave your things and just go, or the next time he leaves the house pack you things and get out of there, then figure out what you are going to do. I wouldn't try to sneak out when he is home, if he were to catch you it could be bad. The longer you stay there the more restrictions he is going to put on you, and the harder it is going to be to get away from him.
2007-07-05 12:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have kids I would leave him. His threats are not genuine and most likely a defense mech because he knows he was wrong and that's all he could do to keep u. You will find someone else and will fall in love again. Next time maybe your mate will put u on a pedestal and keep u there. As far as telephone relationshps- I doubt it. If they were just that, it was his attempt at more, he wouldn't have stopped there.
2007-07-05 12:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by james d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take control of your life call the cops on him if he says any think to you(before you call the cops just act like you are sad and are going for a walk or drive then you call the cops)
he is not the one for you there are others out there for you he is not the one.
call your mom or someone that you know that can help
get a divorce and leave him.
if you have any kids than you have to make seer they are save
don't spend the rest of your life with him
2007-07-05 12:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do. Sneak out at night to your mom's, a relative's, or even a friend's house. See how he reacts, and if he does anything but show pure worry about his missing wife, then go to the POLICE. I'd hate for you to get hurt, honey.
2007-07-05 12:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by ravenesque0 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should call the police. Don't take threats lightly. Although if you don't you will be on cops and that will be entertaining.. So call the police.
2007-07-05 12:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by guyinus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to terminate this relationship ASAP*.... Contact police about death threats made by him, and they will tell you how to proceed further for your own safety*....There are many charges he can be charged with*....
2007-07-05 12:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have the strength. You have to dig deep some times, but it's there.
2007-07-05 12:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
is it that easy to get a divorce ?? over something as trivial as talking on the phone with two women ?? wow. you are a quitter and a bad one at that.
2007-07-05 12:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋