When my ex-husband and I first got married, his sister came to stay with us from overseas. She is the same age as me. She was born on the same day/ year.
She had her 9 month old daughter with her. He said "Can you be as good a Mom as her?" and I did not know what to say.
I had just gotten married and had not even thought of having children yet.
He also said that she cooked better than me, etc. She was a housewife.
I felt hurt and upset. I should have been strong and thought of the correct response.
2007-07-05 12:09:09 · 14 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, Gee, can't imagine how that guy ended up being your EX!!! Oi, what a jerk! Was he serious?? I dunno what to tell you...I'm still reeling that he's comparing his wife and his sister...gross.
From a mature perspective, you could've found out what he liked about his sis' cooking, and parenting skills, and let him know you've filed that away under "Things My Husband Likes" to do later.
But, to just flat out say, "Can you be as good a Mom as her?" I mean, it could've been a compliment for his sis, but what are you supposed to say? You haven't had kids yet....
2007-07-05 12:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Dj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are still upset by a question that your EX asked you when first got married, I can only imagine how you dealing with the last argument that led to the divorce. Get over it. If you didn't think of the correct response by then, what is the use of dwelling on it now? Take your life back lady!!!
2007-07-05 19:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Emgee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
then marry youre sister. lol no really, putting you down is not right , so what shes a house wife dose not make her any better than you . dont let him make you feel bad and have control, be youre self you will be a great mom if you decide to have kids and everyone learns to cook . was he having a pms day
2007-07-05 19:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by overit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have said"I will do my best, I can always learn and I'm sure if I ask nice though, your sis will give me a few tips".
His sister must have set a very good example for him to want a wife like his sister.That says a lot about her.
2007-07-05 19:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think is sweet that he thinks a lot of his sister. but in another way he doesnt need to shove things in your face after all maybe you would've been a better mom than her who knows but dont let it eat at you just let the next one deal with him and you deal with yourself.
2007-07-05 19:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your EX husband, and you still care? Stop being so sensitive and get over these small slights.
2007-07-05 19:31:53 · answer #6 · answered by Dena 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have reply-ed,
If you are so worried about me being a good mother.
Why, didn't you marry your sister?
Isn't it legal where your from?
2007-07-05 19:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by ronkpaws 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i see why he is now the ex.....what does it matter now what the "correct" response should have been....do you plan on having another conversation like this in the future?
2007-07-05 19:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Those questions don't deserve a response.
2007-07-05 19:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have said, "I'll be the best parent and spouse as I can be. Won't you do the same?"
2007-07-05 19:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋